Being a DJ when you are totally broke?

[StockTrader]

I'm more embarrassed about my finances these days than my game with women. Is it even worth the effort to date women when you're in such a hole. Most college students struggle with money, but my situation has slipped to wear I'm digging for dimes and nickels just to pay for a $2-3 lunch.

Do you let your finances (or lackthereof) deter you from meeting and talking to women?

 

[violator]

First, remember that women always come second to other priorities in life, including yourself, family, etc. So when it comes to taking care of your finances, I would think that you should concentrate your energies towards that rather than worrying whether it affects your game or not.

Quite frankly, if I only had a couple of bucks in my pocket, I would be kind of embarrased to take a girl out unless she knew my financial situation and is comfortable with it. I know, because when I was going to college and then to law school, my then GF practically paid for everything. But, she understood that I was broke and she was making good money so it did not affect me as much.

I have accumulated about $80,000.00 in debt as the result of college and lawschool. When I graduated, the job market was really tough, so I had to take various odd jobs to keep afloat. I really did not worry about women and concentrated my efforts in pulling out of the financial rut I was in. During this time, I had various girlfriends, but I did not really care about the relatioships. All I wanted to do is to become financially independent.

Today, with much faith in God and myself, I acheived my goal. I have my own thriving practice and am now focused on becoming a millionaire and to be financially set for myself and for my loved ones.

I would not worry so much about girls right now. They come and go. If you come across one that can accept your current situation, fine. If not, tell her to take a hike.

Right now, it is you that is most important. Develop a plan of action to get yourself out of the financial rut you are in and focus your energies towards that.

 

[lynx]

I agree with the previous post. You can still date chicks, but date the bohemian, slacker chicks, the kind you can go take to burrito joints instead of fancy restaurants (those burritos are so big, you can even share them). Go on bike rides, protests, walks, hikes, etc. I'm in a similar situation, and slacker chicks are the kinds of chicks I'm dating. To get free stuff, volunteer to work for your city's tourist bureau once a week, and you might get free tickets to amusement parks, plays, museums, and you might even get free hotel stays. Good luck.

 

[suavedave]

you can if you think you can

ABSOLUTELY!

Read pickupguide.com. It is emphasized that you don't need to pay for drinks/dinners etc, especially if you are just meeting the chicks. So don't worry about money.

Maniac talks about how Mr. smooth (a great PUA) as well as another great japan pua are UNEMPLOYED. Read for instance about the "Iranian from Hell" that Maniac talks about. I, along with Maniac's affirmations have an affirmation that goes : "I will let nothing stop me, eg. clothes appearance!!"

Don't worry about that.

 

[FFASA]

Hey StockTrader,

While going thru my divorce, I was also going thru Ch11, then 7 with my company. From a millions to nothing in a few years. Currently building another business, so I am always broke too (For more detail you can check out my thread "A field study on attraction, afc, and being a man.")

Anyway, here is the thing now. First dates are always meeting for coffee, or I suggest they "make me dinner and try to impress me." So you understand I had 2 dates on Thursday, one coffee for about an hour, right after that another girl made me dinner at her place, then had a girl come over Saturday and cook me dinner at my place. All girls I had met in the last week. I do not "take girls out." Just have fun with it, and come across as "you judging her BEFORE you will spend your hard earned bucks." Think of it this way, every other guy in the world does not have game, so they feel they must invite them out. Change the frame....... You ARE SO MUCH THE MAN, she must earn your time. After the first date of dinner, invite her to your place for a cup of coffee and a walk at sunset. You know, tell her "I really enjoyed your conversation, and I would like to talk to you some more. Why don't you join me for a walk this evening?" Try to imply you are going for a walk whether she joins you or not. Now usually, I have them hooked at this point, and money isn't an issue. I also like to hike, so I take them on these types of physical activities. The worse thing you can do as a DJ is buy her dinner on the first date......... it is a totally wrong frame.

Oh, if you become attractive to her by doing all the things you should learn on here, she will start paying for you if she can, or doing what you want. It's not the buying them, it's being more than the other guys.

Good luck........

 

[SamePendo]

suavedave, if im not mistaken, ive read that iranian from hell, but I didnt find it there.. could you give a direct link to that post please?

Well, according to me, at the end of the day, it DOES cost, the lowest (according to me) is $5. But I go for $10 dollar dates. No need to spend more than $10 according to me.
But when you dont even have 10 fvcking dollars its a living frustrating hell! (As its my situation right now) But not for long baby!! I get my money the on Oct1st!

 

[SexPDX]

Originally posted by SamePendo
ive read that iranian from hell,

Sorry for going OT, but I am personally convinced that Iranian From Hell is a made up story.

-PDX

 

[Silquee Smoove]

SEXPDX you forgot the "]" bracket on your bold tag.

And SamePendo what the hell is the story of the "Iranian from Hell?" If it's made up you shouldn't be using fiction to help you with real life problems.

Also, if you're talking about hell and all that dark sh!t, take it here: http://www.stileproject.com

 

[SexPDX]

Originally posted by Silquee Smoove
SEXPDX you forgot the "]" bracket on your bold tag.

LOL, Thanks

BTW, I don't know that it's a made up story, that's just what I personally believe.

-PDX

 

[Silquee Smoove]

Oh, Ok I thought it was a funny title and I was wondering if it was a misplaced horror story or something like that.

 

[SamePendo]

Originally posted by Silquee Smoove

And SamePendo what the hell is the story of the "Iranian from Hell?" If it's made up you shouldn't be using fiction to help you with real life problems.

Iranian from hell is (if Im not mistaken) a semi field report (or a field report). Its kind of famous I think.
And how am i to know if its true or not? Eitherways, I dont remember what its about

 

[suavedave]

iranian

Originally posted by SamePendo

I know you'll pull through this... Here's the great article.

http://www.pickupguide.com/classic/iranguy.htm

 

[SamePendo]

Ok I read it.
But that story (true or false) focuses on hitting-on women, not the actual date.
I mean, I dont like to go out and do things I wont like. I mean, I couldnt go on FFSA dates, not because they are bad, but because I wouldnt enjoy them.
I like to go to the movies and walk around, whatever, but at the end of the day, the dates I like do cost money (not much, as I said before, but 10 dollar dates ARE $10!).
But when you are permanently broke well, you do have to do something dont you?

 

[suavedave]

What is FFSA. I respect Your posts... I respect that it appears you want to treat the woman like a LADY. But trust me, that is non-don-juan behavior. If you know your product you know I am right. The best way is as FRIENDS. Try it, you'll know. Read more of mASF (pickupguide.com) Some of my posts are there. What you want to do is go out as friends, and as friends you dont need $$$.

 

[tomyv]

stock trader

Stock Trader,

From a broker to a trader, and can be done! Just remember, the market is coming back, so will the $$$ lol. Actually, I am broke, but I basically go about it this way, let the chicks know you're not rolling in the dough, but you stick with what you do because you love it, etc. etc.

You can be broke, yet still have a cool job, it hasnt' hurt me with the ladies at all.

 

[Ricky]

This is an important subject. Someone needs to start a thread on this with all their tips.

I too feel it has been important, because as an engineer, unemployment can hit you when you least expect it.

One good way to DJ when you are broke, is to seriously cut out what you are wasting money on. Alcohol is one of my biggest expenses. Stop drinking so much, spend some more time doing positive things like reading, working out (if you dont' have a gym find a place that you can go and pay $5 and just go once a week and lift like hell, then the other days run)

I think we need a comprehensive thread on this with tips.