Being a DJ is ruining my LIFE

[ali-g]

I began to read these tips and emails more than 2 years ago... Although I haven't been actively posting, I've had an account on here for some time now....

I have a girlfriend. What is Love?

I am in first year university, I have a lot of problems, such as alcohol abuse, a gram or more of weed every night, being broke, the uncertainty of my future, now, and later on.

Women were my major problem before, but now when I walk into a bar, I know that I am what women want. Knowing that I can have any women I want is very dangerous. Not to be ****y, but after getting contact lenses I've experienced a insaneincrease in attention from women.

I am soft. I'm 19. I have a heart still, and I don't want to lose it.

I don't want to hurt their feelings, but first and foremost I don't want to hurt my girlfriend --- we became involved very early of first year uni (5/6 months now) and throughout the year I've realized the extent of my "powers" ---- BUT ---- she is hot, very nice, puts up with my ****, ||| I AM THAT HOT CHICK THAT REALIZES SHE'S DATING AN AFC ||| But its reversed!! She is the woman I would marry later in life, but I want to have fun now!! But will the fun I may have turn me into someone heartless? or will I catch something? i.e. herpes etc... I've been tested before, it wasn't pleasant.

I understand love songs! (finally)

However, I do not understand love... There is an extremely attractive 22 year old girl that continually asks me when I will break up with my girlfriend... She asks "do you love her?" consistently I reply with "What is Love?"

--- I wanted to mail my success story in the newsletter --- But being human means I will always want more, all sucess is marginal.

I will come back to check, I'd appreciate all your thoughts and advice.

 

[rgeere]

Love is a 4 letter word, one that could curse you or bless you. But whatever you do, don't lose respect for the insignifigant things in life. Because if you do, you will never find it.

 

[RoeCyris]

i didnt read all that, lol.

but i will say DJ'ing has started to **** up my school work, lol. Now i focus all thought on DJ'ing. not like im focusing all attention on techniques or anything like that but i've gotten pretty damn good at gettin cute girls with regularity so thats all I do now.

It's like now that i started i cant stop, haha. SoSuave has turned me into a purpetual-female-attaining-motion machine.


p.s.: i know i cant spell. oh well.

 

[rgeere]

If DJing is getting in the way of important things like schoolwork, job performance, prior commitments, or other vitally necessary things you should be focusing your attention on ...

YOU ARE NOT BEING AN EFFECTIVE DJ ...

It's more than just getting chicks, you know ...

 

[belividere]

ali-g,
have you spent 2 yrs. here or have you wasted 2yrs. behind a computer screen. Your post tells me that you are still wet behind the ears and have only listened to what you wanted to.

 

[MetalFortress]

Get off the alcohol and weed and then see how much better your life goes.

 

[assasin]

Love is the state where another persons level of happiness is an integral factor in the level of your own happiness.

 

[quest]

theres so many differences between being a DJ and a PUA, and from ali-g's case he sounds most like a good looking AFC.

if u have a reliance on anything, weed, alcohol, cigarettes i don't think ur as strong willed a dj as you could be..

i don't NEED anything, i can be happy without anything..
i can sacrifice my time to put my time into more important matters. i do what needs to be done for long term success rather then short term.

due to all this, i love the short term because everyone else gives me the respect and kudos i deserve. its like i miss nothing.

 

[PRMoon]

Stop being such a panzy. You're a young person divided between having fun and having a relationship, we all go through that daily. Pick oneside or the other and stick with it. Being a man means making tough decisons and seeing it through despite temptation from one side or the other. If you want to explore a serious relationship with your g/f then COMMIT yourself to just being with her and don't be disuaded by hot 22 year old girls hitting on you. If you want to have fun then break up with your g/f and play the field.

Don' t know what love is... please, give me a break.

 

[squirrels]

Society has, for the past couple decades, had EVERYONE "looking for love." This is partly responsible for the emasculation of the male gender.

Women "find love". Men don't "find love." They don't "look for love". They MAKE love. And I don't mean that in the purely sexual connotation, either.

Stop wussing around wondering where the magic is in your life Start making some magic of your own...you're a MAN now. It's time. Once you have it, you can start to share it with others.

 

[ali-g]

response

Some of you may be DJ purists, but purists never accompish anything.

Being an effective don juan has nothing to do with happiness...

www.dictionary.com says a DON JUAN IS: A man who is an obsessive seducer of women, especially one who does so out of feelings of impotence or inferiority. ---------- [I don't necessarily agree with the second half of the definition in the sense that sosuave.com uses the term DJ.]

My concern is not to be a DJ, but a respectful seducer, i guess.... fvck who cares...

To: belividere... your post is insulting and not very helpfull... for a group based on brotherhood and mutual help, you fail us.

To: MetalFortress... alcohol isn't a real problem so far, but today, rather yesterday, I've quit dope, its a step in the right direction...........

To: quest... """from ali-g's case he sounds most like a good looking AFC""" eat a big fat d1ck, call me a chump and i'd fvck u up if i saw u on the street.... how's that for a chump? don't be insolent for no good reason... calling someone an AFC still means "average frustrated chump" and damned if i'll let anyone call me that, fvcker. cause frustration isn't something I encounter with women. fyi.

To: PRMoon... respect, I respect your comment, it is probably one of the most helpful so far... I still can't decide, but hopefully that decision will come sooner than later.

apoligies if i step overbounds, no hard feelings.

 

[Trance]

alcohol abuse, a gram or more of weed every night, being broke, the uncertainty of my future, now, and later on.

Women were my major problem before, but now when I walk into a bar, I know that I am what women want.

LOL alcohol abuse and a gram or more of weed every night, broke, and you are what women want? ROTFL

I think your problem is you're so stoned you dont realize what's happening around you

 

[ali-g]

Originally posted by Trance
LOL alcohol abuse and a gram or more of weed every night, broke, and you are what women want? ROTFL

I think your problem is you're so stoned you dont realize what's happening around you

read into what you're writing about before you write it... Roll on the floor laughing when you're having the same problems, and see who finds it funny... ?...

I'm trying to quit weed, theres no need to be a ****. If i hadn't included my real problems, would you have responded the same way? -- does sobriety equate to sanity? -- If you read it properly, do the math and figure out the percentage of hours I am stoned via 1.5 g's of weed, then realize that I am a university student (in Canada. I.E. Ivy league) that's having zero problems with school. -- You don't know me. Don't insult me.

You obviously don't understand seduction. -- i.e. money has nothing to do with it.

Also I'll admit that becoming DJ has improved my life greatly, but also caused a lot of ****.. its karma I guess.

 

[squirrels]

ali-g...your problem is that you have some growing up to do.

I don't mean that as an insult...but seriously, you may be a great seducer, but you are HARDLY a man at this point in your life.

 

[MetalFortress]

Ali G, don't come around acting like you know everything AFTER you ask a question. You don't come to ask questions and then act like a poser alpha male here.

 

[ali-g]

i didn't claim to be a 'man,' but i know what you mean, and its true.

i didnt ask a specific question, but presented a situation.

atleast I'm honest. meh.

was it wrong to expect constructive criticism....

ps. 'act like' and 'poser' mean the same thing.

 

[coder]

What Love Is

Some once told me that you can not love another person until you love yourself. It took me until I was almost 30 to understand this. (I’m 39.) Most people think of “loving themselves” as something bad. They are not referring to love, but arrogance, which IS bad. Loving yourself means that you like the person you currently are. It means that deep down, you believe that you are a good person and if people got to know the real person you are deep down, they would be happy with what they found. I think most people do not feel this way. I did not feel this way until I was about 30. Once you feel this way about yourself, there is no need to act differently than yourself around other people. Why not be yourself when you are a good, lovable person? The big question is how do you get to the point of loving yourself?

Analyze what makes you unhappy in your life and change it. Do not do things that make you feel ashamed of yourself even if you have been doing them for a long time and don’t feel like you can get by without them. It sounds like from your post that you are ashamed of doing weed and alcohol. I’m not saying that those are bad things to do, but if they make you feel ashamed, stop doing them. If you are doing things that you think are shameful for the benefit of others, like your parents or wife/gf, stop doing them. A person that loves you would not want to you do anything shameful. Finally, what do you WANT to do in this life? Be a CEO of a company? Get a gold medal in the Olympics? Whatever it is, start taking steps toward getting it. Don’t take the attitude that you won’t be happy until you achieve your goal; be happy that you are closer today than you were yesterday. It is the process of achieving the goal that is fun, not just having the metal in your hand. Do these things and you will begin to like the person you are. We are all works in progress until we die. You are either making yourself closer to the ideal person you want to be, or moving away from that ideal. Decide what your ideal person is and start moving there. Over time, the ideal will change, but never let anyone let you stop moving toward that ideal.

Once you start to like yourself, you find that you like other people better and you will know when you love another because you will see in them what you love about yourself. You will come to know what love is. The idea of romantic love is the lie that has become a cancer on our society, not real love. People that use you do not love you. People that worship you do not love you. People that care about your happiness and well being at the same level as their own are the ones that love you.

Whether you realize it or not, you have within you a great human being, a diamond in the rough. You must endeavor to release that great person from the dirt that surrounds him and distorts him to the point that you do not see a diamond, but instead see a dirt clod that you think is a rotten person. When the dirt starts coming off, you will start to see the diamond and will want even more to get all the dirt off. Then you will understand love.

 

[SageOFAllenAge]

Someone oughta bible coders post ^ :woo:

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Ali - love people for their humanity and not for pleasures you derive from them and you won't become a heartless cruel bastard!!