Being a Challenge (Naturally)

[bigneil]

For years we've been told "a woman wants a challenge". Women will tell you those exact words. But what does it really mean? We know it does NOT mean playing games because this can backfire and is immoral.

Being a challenge means one thing ultimately: she has to TRY to have sex with you! Every other guy automatically tries to have sex with them. You are different.

There are natural ways you are a challenge that you must embrace.

Examples:

1) You've dated enough beautiful women to hardly even look at them when they're prancing around naked.
2) You've had enough lovers that you'd just assume not have sex when you're with her.
3) Being a gentleman, you resist touching them until they touch you.
4) You have a hard time being close to women and tend to push them away.
5) You are a loner and need your space. After 18 hours with her you are putting her in a cab.
6) You do not tolerate her bad behavior and will walk on a moment's notice.
7) You have so many date options you can hardly book times with her.
8) Your business takes you to so many cities you have a busy schedule.
9) You are driven (think Captain Kirk) and can't stay in one place long, so "you are there and gone".
10) You "never make a direct approach, instead haunting the periphery of her existence" (Robert Greene).

Note: when things fail (and they still will) it's important to never alter these principles. To do so would prove it was an act. You don't do these because you want to, it's just in your nature. Also remember: not everyone will naturally exhibit all of these traits at all times. Some are more in your nature than others. Focus on your own.

What are some of the ways you naturally exhibit challenging behavior with women?

 

[Obsidian]

I think waiting for the woman to touch you is a bad idea. In my experience so far, too little kino is usually a bigger problem than too much.

 

[blind_one]

Very good summary Neil. I believe internalizing " A Challenge" is really important . As for point 3 [ kino ] I also have mixed feelings but I guess you have to calibrate anyway.

 

[bigneil]

Regarding 3) Kino, haven't you noticed that when a girl likes you then she will run over and hug you out of the blue? Isn't that how you normally start liking a girl? When she runs over and hugs you? You can't force that by running over and hugging them. Once she touches you, the power of massage can work wonders. I use one finger tip and touch their neck and it's literally close to being like the effect Mr. Spock has on people. They say "How do you know exactly where to touch me?" Practice this.

IMPORTANT: Regarding touch, you have to keep resetting the system.

1) You meet a waitress.
2) She extends her hand. Then you extend yours.
3) The next time you see her you get random hug.
4) You ask for her number.
5) After texting for a week or two, you meet her for coffee.
6) You wait until she touches you during the coffee date (and/or hug them at the end either way).
7) She comes to your place.
8) You wait until she touches you first during the romance date.

The reason is that every time you make progress, she feels obligated to do whatever she did the last time, so there is increasing resistance. This is why Lucy always pulls the football away at the last second.