The term NEXT loosely translates to asking for an alternate. Nexting is when you are not attracted to a person or their actions. You are basically saying I prefer someone else, I am not putting up with any type of irrational behavior, excuses, non-responsiveness. It is essentially a quick method of saving time, self respect (by NOT lowering your standards) and may even get them to take you more seriously…..but not always.
Presently Nexting is way out of hand. We can see evidence of this at SPEED DATING events where nexting is an essential element as the 3-5 minute mini-dates revolve. ON THE NET-women have so many options that the slightest hint of impropriety or deviation from their expectations, they opt to hit delete or ignore. MEDIA-radio call in date shows and even the TV show called NEXT where young wannabe’s translate no chemistry into superficiality by ripping on each other. We hear it on the phone, we see it on dates, we are pre-occupied with nexting. We remove people from our social network for all sorts of non-compliant, illogical superficial reasons, too abruptly. Primarily because we do in fact have options ourselves. The sad part is most of our nexting originates from our own interactions with others.
Anytime someone displays any type of modified behavior which is not indicative of progressive social interactions, it should raise a red flag indicator. Now there should be a grace period to allow the person the benefit of the doubt, as some variables are unforeseen, such as lost/damaged cell phone, accident, super busy, running late, technology malfunctions, etc. If after this short grace period the person continues to treat you as a low priority, then you can entertain the idea of NEXTING them. This is accomplished by any of the following:
A) PUTTING THEM AS A LOW PRIORITY IN YOUR LIFE-this is where you don’t lose them completely but they are way down on your TO DO LIST. If they initiate contact you cut it short saying you are busy, maybe next time, I’ll call you later, etc
B) INGNORE THEM-not answering their text’s, calls, IM’s, pages, emails, or the door. When you see they in public you appear you are in a rush to be somewhere else. They will get the hint, you do this to show that you refuse to associate with poor behavior. You hold yourself to preferred treatment, higher standards.
C) MOVING ON-concentrate on other aspects of your life (school, career, health, fitness, hobbies, family, etc)
D) DATE OTHERS-act as if they moved away, changed their number and go find a replacement.
E) END IT-inform them that you ain’t feeling any chemistry and wish them luck. POLITELY say goodbye, no hard feelings. Resist the urge to give them a piece of your mind and never display any anger.
Nexting sometimes has a spin-off effect, when you ignore someone it could increase their insecurities and they may desire to get back in good standards with you. Some prefer to smooth things over and be liked rather than being ignored. Whether you are the victim of being nexted or the one decreasing your social circle, nexting is a viable option ................but don’t abuse it.