Beginner's Path..

[Anteros]

Hi! So after watching some tips on forums like this before, but never actually join any, I finally decided to try. Especially after my last relationships that went awful.

So I'm a skeptic on this whole PUA but I have nothing to lose.

 

[Anteros]

Ok! So here's the deal. I work on an office really next to this cute girl who is an assistant of some friend there. I been working there in this situation since like three weeks now, and while she is friendly and likes a lot of music and stuff I do, and had a lot in common (we are from the same hometown far away from here), I can't help but feel she's distant when it comes to actually hang out outside our job.

Last friday there was a party from the guys on our area in the company, and we interact with each other a good amount of time. She was grabbing my arm and laughing and stuff, and asking me about music like Floyd, KISS, Sabbath and so on. But as she got more drunk she started talking about some ex and I just evade the subject and went to talk to another girl nearby. She kept the cool attitude and when I drop her off she called me later in the night to ask if I could do a favor and drop her at the BUS Station so she could go the weekend to her hometown. After talking for a little while I realize there was no service that late so I told her that and to think about it and she told me she would call me afterwards if something came up.

I call her yesterday, but her phone was unavailable or some sh!t. I realize that this didn't look good and that I better just forget about it. Problem is.. How to do so if I see her everyday monday through friday very next to me.


So I'm asking you guys, what should I do now? I whole-heartedly appreciate your honest advice.

 

[RedZone]

I'm not gonna lie. It's probably going to be hard to get over someone you see all the time. Best way to do that is to just go out and meet people. There have been times in my life where I thought I would never get over somebody, but I did over time.

 

[Thundernuts]

yeah man, and i don't know how emotional you really are with this chick but it sounds to me like you need to start talking to some other women. Don't call this girl at random times in the night, you aren't dating her.

Unless you in an exclusive relationship you should always be talking to new women, going out with them, banging them etc. main reason why is so you don't focus on one girl to much and start doing stupid crap that ruions your chances.

The girl had her arm around you which is a good sign perhaps you werent being assertive enough.

 

[MOTU]

My humble advice: don't game chicks at work. While you are at the office you should be focused on doing outstanding work, making connections and getting the next promotion. You don't need pvssy distractions.

So, remain friendly like nothing happened, but don't flirt.

Then, after work, go out and spin plates.

 

[Thundernuts]

yeah its best not to do that, women are not nearly proffesional as men are when it comes to working relations so that could add alot of crap to your job that you could easily avoid.

 

[Anteros]

She was kind of touchy, she is a lot of times when I tell something that tease her or made her laugh. She laughs quite easily. Sometimes I feel she's watching me from the corner of my eye, but She's doing lots of thinks so I dunno.

By the way I didn't call her at night, it was her who called me. I called her the next day at around 5 to know what happened, but she wasn't available.

Also, she's just doing some internship, she won't stay in that job for long, luckily. But I still have some months to deal with.

 

[Anteros]

So any more help?

 

[zekko]

Sounds like you've talked to this girl one time at a party outside of work. How the heck does that make things awkward? I don't see what you're worried about.

 

[Anteros]

Sounds like you've talked to this girl one time at a party outside of work. How the heck does that make things awkward? I don't see what you're worried about.

It was a party from the guys at our office, and like I said before, I don't know what to do since she gets pretty touchy with me and laughs and smiles a lot, but on the other hand while drunk she mention her ex and how she still like him. No matter how we love a lot of things in common, I'm really bad at noticing women hints and subtle stuff.

On another note: I don't have her on facebook either, and even when she has notice a lot of people in common, she hasn't seen me an invitation, so whatever.

I'm asking for the people of this forums guidance. I'm tired of being so clueless in this love affairs and on the fact that I only have girlfriends like ever two years after ending a relationship.

 

[Anteros]

So yesterday I didn't saw her due to some field work I had, and today I acted so absorbed on my work so start pulling off. Nearly before the end of the work day she told another coworker (friend of us) that I was acting very distant the whole day. She seemed a little upset. I just smile and told them I was very busy, then hang with my buddy a little and kiss her goodbye on the cheek and went off.


I don't know what am I doing anymore :|

guidance needed!

 

[GotED?]

Make up your damn mind what you want out of her.

Then come back and stop the emotional drama and Days of Our WorkLives tampon dripping episodes.

None of us can make a decision that is solely yours to make. So suck it up like a man and decide are you going to do nothing with her or do something with her.

Male AW's!!


Exodus

 

[Anteros]

Done, ask her out to a Megadeth concert. She said yes and was a little upset with me for acting so distant these days, so I don't know if the unintentional "pull&push" were the thing that sealed the deal.

Either way thanks for the replies, I'll see how this plays out.

 

[Thundernuts]

There you go. I'm jealous your gonna see megadeath but have fun you better post some good results

 

[Anteros]

I will, but the concert is due till May, so it will take some time. I'll bookmark this and shed some light on what and what not worked on.