"Befriending" girls

[SoSerene]

Now before everyone says "NEXT" to the girl I'm about to describe, lately I've been more open minded in regards to not dropping girls at the drop of a hat.

I met this girl for a drink/food yesterday, things went very well I thought. Texted her saying we should meet up again etc...she said she had a great time but wanted to clarify that she is not looking for a relationship as she is already seeing someone but wants to meet up again as friends as she thinks I'm "cool and interesting". This isn't the case of a super hot girl rejecting some schlub, I'm a decent looking guy, I have a good career, and I already have a fvckbuddy who's probably more attractive than this girl anyway. This girl in question has an average face but has a nice body/good skin and takes care of herself - and she has a cool personality which is why I am interested.

So I thought of two reasonable options, such as saying she should hit me up when she's single, or just being like yeah that's cool...and asking her to introduce me to her friends. She works as a server at a restaurant/lounge so she actually does have good connections. I'm not looking to be her girly friend or anything, but at the same time it's always good to meet her (most likely) attractive friends and meet new people. Not quite sure how to stay entirely out of the friends zone, while still maintaining contact and getting to meet all her hot friends.

 

[SoSerene]

Thanks for the input. She is coming over for drinks this week.

 

[Zarky]

Our pleasure

 

[jester1x]

Dude, she's the monkey and you may be the branch. It's cool to be friends with a girl. But, go dutch and make her pay sometimes. She's either trying to use you or just testing the waters. I can tell she's not that attached. Otherwise, she would never go out and hang with you in public.

I'd keep doing it as long as you are enjoying it. However, if you ever start to feel like you are being used then go with the gut.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Keeping a girl around as a friend is no biggie, but definitely don't pay for her stuff. My pen1s is the only one that makes me bring out my wallet...

 

[foreverAFC]

look, you arent under any illusions, you arent being lead on, its fine to be friends

 

[SoSerene]

I wanted to see if I was still in the game or if she's not attracted to me, so I joked around how we shouldn't get drunk together otherwise things would escalate very quickly. She laughed and said she should probably keep it to 3 drinks or less cause I am "pretty good looking" and I would probably be "irresistible". So definitely not just friend zone, in my opinion.

As one posted mentioned I'm not sure how serious she is with this other guy lol, maybe she just mentioned it to absolve her of blame in case anything does happen between us. I have a feeling she will remain disciplined and not hookup with me or anything but I will give it a shot for sure.

Oh and for the record we split she bill, she owed me two drinks (long story) and she makes decent money so she's definitely not using me as far as I know. But thanks for the advice on not paying for her sh!t, that's a good point.

 

[Zarky]

I wanted to see if I was still in the game or if she's not attracted to me, so I joked around how we shouldn't get drunk together otherwise things would escalate very quickly. She laughed and said she should probably keep it to 3 drinks or less cause I am "pretty good looking" and I would probably be "irresistible". So definitely not just friend zone, in my opinion.

Judge women by their actions, not their words, my friend. Instead of "joking around," why don't you reach out and stroke her arm or her face. We'll see just how "irresistible" you are to her then.

 

[Cremasta]

Just keep the charm going on this one.

She said "she's not looking for a relationship", she didn't say "she's not looking for sex".