slitherjef
Senior Don Juan
The past week at work has been crap. Busy, pretty much tired of people and had a chick on the brain. Woke up this morning, day off and needed to go pick up my new threads and really did not feel like going out. I had seriously thought about just staying home and do nothing, get the suit later. After doing a little bit of thinking, I decided I NEEDED to get up off my ass and do SOMETHING anything. So I did. Went out with my mom and sister. Hey, I got out, right?
Got to the store and ran into the girl who helped me pick the suit out last week. After getting my new threads, I asked a few questions, like about ties and other stuff (hey, this is new for me). After a few minutes, it occurred to me that her voice was shaking. Kind of like mine does when I am nervous. Probably nothing, she was on her way to lunch.
After this, we headed out to Barnes and Noble and split up. Good, I had a small mission I wanted to do for myself. The learning to crawl bit. I was wanting some starbucks but I started to hem and haw with myself, finally I told myself I just needed to do it. At this point I noticed I was kind of closed off, you know, head kind of down and such. I raised my head, tried to straighten my self up as I got up to the counter and the barista was crouched down with her back to me. I did not say anything, instead I gathered the money I needed while she did what she needed to do. She spotted me while she was still crouched down and acknowledged me, instead of me looking down and around at the floor like I usually do, I said screw it. I need to do this, and I attempted eye contact with her. She kind of looked around as she got up (may have not seen me) but when she took my order, I tried again, a bit better, but she looked around quickly and fixed my drink in a HURRY
I think I freaked her out and not even sure I got eye contact with her, if so, it was very quick. May have been because I do this too. Its like an "Oh sh!t" reflex or something.
It was a bit awkward at first, I even felt that little bit of a rush. That nervousness or apprehensiveness in my stomach. Nothing bad happened, other then perhaps freaking her out a bit and I was a bit proud of myself for taking a small trip outside of my comfort zone. This was a nice looking chick too. I would rate her an 8.
After a bit of shopping in the book store, I attempted some eye contact with the clerk, decent looking and instead of the awkward silence I made a little bit of small talk. Saying it was quiet in here. Started a quick little back and forth. Not sure I can count this on my eye contact goal, but its a start. I think I may have forgot to smile in both cases. Yikes.
Eye contact is one of my biggest hurtles. Its so hard for me to do. It feels awkward
Talk, chatter, banter, joking, sure no problem. Eye contact, yeah, I am trying to work on that.
Got to the store and ran into the girl who helped me pick the suit out last week. After getting my new threads, I asked a few questions, like about ties and other stuff (hey, this is new for me). After a few minutes, it occurred to me that her voice was shaking. Kind of like mine does when I am nervous. Probably nothing, she was on her way to lunch.
After this, we headed out to Barnes and Noble and split up. Good, I had a small mission I wanted to do for myself. The learning to crawl bit. I was wanting some starbucks but I started to hem and haw with myself, finally I told myself I just needed to do it. At this point I noticed I was kind of closed off, you know, head kind of down and such. I raised my head, tried to straighten my self up as I got up to the counter and the barista was crouched down with her back to me. I did not say anything, instead I gathered the money I needed while she did what she needed to do. She spotted me while she was still crouched down and acknowledged me, instead of me looking down and around at the floor like I usually do, I said screw it. I need to do this, and I attempted eye contact with her. She kind of looked around as she got up (may have not seen me) but when she took my order, I tried again, a bit better, but she looked around quickly and fixed my drink in a HURRY
I think I freaked her out and not even sure I got eye contact with her, if so, it was very quick. May have been because I do this too. Its like an "Oh sh!t" reflex or something.
It was a bit awkward at first, I even felt that little bit of a rush. That nervousness or apprehensiveness in my stomach. Nothing bad happened, other then perhaps freaking her out a bit and I was a bit proud of myself for taking a small trip outside of my comfort zone. This was a nice looking chick too. I would rate her an 8.
After a bit of shopping in the book store, I attempted some eye contact with the clerk, decent looking and instead of the awkward silence I made a little bit of small talk. Saying it was quiet in here. Started a quick little back and forth. Not sure I can count this on my eye contact goal, but its a start. I think I may have forgot to smile in both cases. Yikes.
Eye contact is one of my biggest hurtles. Its so hard for me to do. It feels awkward
Talk, chatter, banter, joking, sure no problem. Eye contact, yeah, I am trying to work on that.