"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Been tested, how to put her on her place ?

Pr0lab

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Well she is attracted to me, touching her keeping eye contact, engaging conversation and etc.
she is at my school, she gave me the number, we schedule time and stuff.
now I calling her and she doesn't answer !
I saw her at school and talk to her "you owe me an apology" and then a little bit bull busting on her. but still couldn't setup a coffee, because I use the like "you fun lets get together for a coffee" and I can't say "I going for coffee (alone) you should come".

what I could ask her or how can I put her at her place, because it seems to be that she is testing me!

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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First off, make sure you look like you don't give a $hit, keep a smirk on your face and an indifferent attitude.
Next time you see her ask "What happened?". Again, remember to say it like you don't really give a $hit and you're on your way to class or something...
If she has a legitimate reason (i.e. death in the family, friend got in an accident, anything terrible like that) then you obviously let it go!
Otherwise ask her "Does your $hitty attitude get you far with most people? Because it won't get you far with me..." Make sure you're looking her in the eyes when you say this and don't flinch. Then walk off to class like you're hot $hit. I've pulled this line on a chick before and my best friend has too, and it turns them into kittens.
Key is to keep nonchalant, remember SHE is the one missing out, not you.
After this she's pretty much guaranteed to go after you if she was just testing you. Otherwise I'd say there's a 99% chance she was never interested.
 

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would it be to harsh ?
I want to put her in her place but not to make her disinterested in me.
 

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Pr0lab said:
would it be to harsh ?
I want to put her in her place but not to make her disinterested in me.
Not if you carry yourself like I said, indifferent, smirk, upbeat, not like you're crushed and pissed off that she flaked on you. Say it like it's humorous and you don't care, but firmly and don't stutter. If you want to soften it a bit add "sweetheart" at the end of that line. ;)
That's why it's strong though, an AFC will worry about blowing his chances with her. But you don't take any **** from anyone. :up: Girls absolutely dig this in a guy.
 

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It was a test and you failed it with "you owe me an apology" (whether you were trying to be C+F about it or not) you should of just remained unreactive. You want to know the correct way of "putting her in her place" you remain unphased and draw back your attention from her. YOU are the prize, your time is valuable, if you want to punish her then don't offer her any attention until she deserves it. If she doesn't come around, oh well, she wasn't worth it anyways. This resolves any excuse she may have (death in the family, family issues, pms..) because it also gives her time to get her priorities straight.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Scars said:
It was a test and you failed it with "you owe me an apology" (whether you were trying to be C+F about it or not) you should of just remained unreactive. You want to know the correct way of "putting her in her place" you remain unphased and draw back your attention from her. YOU are the prize, your time is valuable, if you want to punish her then don't offer her any attention until she deserves it. If she doesn't come around, oh well, she wasn't worth it anyways. This resolves any excuse she may have (death in the family, family issues, pms..) because it also gives her time to get her priorities straight.
but how can ignore the fact that you called her and she didn't pick up ?
she will think this guy have not self esteeme
 

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Teej said:
Not if you carry yourself like I said, indifferent, smirk, upbeat, not like you're crushed and pissed off that she flaked on you. Say it like it's humorous and you don't care, but firmly and don't stutter. If you want to soften it a bit add "sweetheart" at the end of that line. ;)
That's why it's strong though, an AFC will worry about blowing his chances with her. But you don't take any **** from anyone. :up: Girls absolutely dig this in a guy.
I like that, thanks !
I can use it for the next time if something like that happens, because I already f*** it up buy saying, "you owe me an apology".
so today in school I was nonchalant to her and wasn't giving her attention.
Buy I see her making eye contact and the fact she is seated behind me and not at the end of the class.
so my question is how do I put her on her place and sending her a msg again and saying something like:
"we should go out, I know you attracted, but for some reason you acting immaturely"
the problem with this, that it is not a strict msg, and It doesn't sounds like something that I wants to convey which is "stop with the bull****, you like me, I know that, lets go out"

can anybody help me with the phrasing of this one ?
 
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