I all, been lurking on this forum for ages, never really post anything. Can I tell my story? I meet this girl at a friend's birthday party in mid jan 2010, she was introduced through mutual friends. We hit it off that night and even kissed. I got her # and set a movie date the next night. After we left the party she and her friend come over to my buddy's house to chill for a bit and the whole time we were over each other. I think I could've fawked her that night if I went home with her, but I had to take my buddy home. Next night we went to watch a movie, dropped her off at her place and made out and stuff. She and her friends decide to hit up a club, so I went to my favorite bar. After she left the club I went back to her place and we laid in her bed watching a movie. I tried escalating but she resisted..lightly, so I left her be. The girl fell asleep, rightly so because it was 3 in the morning. Anyways i wasn't gonna give up that easily, so i wake her up and we fawked, I was ecstatic the next morning. Anyways fast forward to to feb 11 2010, me and her went to the club and had a blast, she stayed the night at my place and fawked. A week later she began to distance herself from me, not texting like she use to, but always replying to my texts. We never hung out again. I sensed all this and I also withdrew my attention from her also. She did text once in awhile to see how I am. May 24 I ran into her at my favorite bar. I said hi to her and ignored her for the night but as I was about to leave I went to say hello again and tried to kiss her, she resisted. A sign that shes into a new guy. Now I've had 2 ONS after her distancing move and seeing a younger girl..so what is my damn problem. The next morning I text and asked her what happened between us. I know dumb move, I regretted even asking.
Her reply was the standard easy let down combined with stuff I have read about on this site:
Cop out answers 1: I'm not looking for a relationship of any kind, I'm focusing on me and my kids.(I am looking for a relationship, just not with you)
Cop out answer 2: You deserve someone better than me, because I have a past(probably her kids and her divorce)
Cop out answer 3: I can't give you what you want, it would be selfish of me to make you wait.
Now I know this is the girls ways of letting you off easy without hurting your feelings, pride, or ego but at the same time its almost insulting. Most guys will see this for what it is and move on.
Now valid answers she gave:
She didn't like the way I treated her, said that I made her feel like a booty call and stuff with my late night drunken texts begging her to come over for sex. I guess most girls, even sluts don't want to be made to feel like sluts. I think also came off a little needy I think.
Even though we really only hung out for a month, she made me feel really good about my self and I was infatuated. Oneitis sets in and I was hooked. I don't know the true reason why she just stopped, whether it was my drunken needy texts, or she met a better prospect or really just don't want a relationship. I guess I just wanted to vent because as a man I have no where else to spill my guts and you guys would somewhat understand. Now I know I have no delusions about ever getting back with her if she comes back, i don't want her back. I guess its to remind myself that I still have so much more to learn. The dangers of drunk texting probably did me in..so a warning, don't drink and text.
Her reply was the standard easy let down combined with stuff I have read about on this site:
Cop out answers 1: I'm not looking for a relationship of any kind, I'm focusing on me and my kids.(I am looking for a relationship, just not with you)
Cop out answer 2: You deserve someone better than me, because I have a past(probably her kids and her divorce)
Cop out answer 3: I can't give you what you want, it would be selfish of me to make you wait.
Now I know this is the girls ways of letting you off easy without hurting your feelings, pride, or ego but at the same time its almost insulting. Most guys will see this for what it is and move on.
Now valid answers she gave:
She didn't like the way I treated her, said that I made her feel like a booty call and stuff with my late night drunken texts begging her to come over for sex. I guess most girls, even sluts don't want to be made to feel like sluts. I think also came off a little needy I think.
Even though we really only hung out for a month, she made me feel really good about my self and I was infatuated. Oneitis sets in and I was hooked. I don't know the true reason why she just stopped, whether it was my drunken needy texts, or she met a better prospect or really just don't want a relationship. I guess I just wanted to vent because as a man I have no where else to spill my guts and you guys would somewhat understand. Now I know I have no delusions about ever getting back with her if she comes back, i don't want her back. I guess its to remind myself that I still have so much more to learn. The dangers of drunk texting probably did me in..so a warning, don't drink and text.