Been out of the game for a while

[1Italia0]

Hey Guys,

First id like to say thanks in advance for any info you give me.

So I'm 32 years old, Italian and for the most part confident. I'm not in the best shape I've ever been in, but I still do ok.

I got hurt on the job 2 years ago, and at the time was dating the same girl for about 2 years already. We broke up not too long after I got hurt. Now the whole time I've been injured let just say I've been kind of a hermit. I had a very serious injury which required a major back surgery. So I've been out of commission for the past 2 years as well as out of the game.

Picking up women has always come second nature to me, and I still can pick them up, but I ran into a wall here lol

I met a girl that basically is my dream woman. She's gorgeous, smart, funny, goal oriented, has a great job, and fun as hell.

We hit it off amazingly, went out on a date a week ago. Before the date we had a ton of scheduling conflicts.

Finally went our after about a month of texting/talking.

After the date she texted saying how she loved that she could be herself around me, I'm so fun.. Blah blah lol

BUT one thing, she always texts.. I usually hate the phone but I get sick of only texting. Next, she is almost ALWAYS busy.
So I'm thinking either she has someone else she's dating.. Or she's the busiest woman alive lol

My question is.. How do I keep this girl interested and get her to chase a little more.

Basically if I don't text her, she won't text me until around 10-11 at night. She'll text me saying "is it weird I wish I was with you right now?"

So all good stuff.. But as I said, I haven't "dated" in a while. It's usually either just sleeping with someone or one night stands. Dating itself has gone downhill in general, but I'm rusty.

Any advice is appreciated

 

[1Italia0]

Thanks again in advance

 

[Willard]

Just text her let's go out, how's your schedule look this week. Texting isn't the best way to communicate. I hope your still trying to meet other girls, she is probably dating or meeting other guys at this point, if you just to have her exclusively you have to make yourself a more attractive option that the others. To keep her interested you should read some threads on here.

Good luck

 

[VladPatton]

Don't be so available. You gotta create the illusion that you have things going on in your life besides trying to get her on a date. She knows you're available and pining to get her to go out. Lay back a little and let it die down with the text replies. It's not like she's able to go out when you want, so let her do her thing and when she starts whining "where've you been?" you just say, "ah, been busy getting my life back in gear". No need to give explanations, either.

I think she has you hooked, she knows you're not going anywhere, and is keeping you baited with lovey-dovey texts. It's a huge ego stroke for her. She feels like a million bucks doing it, especially if there's another guy. She's juggling 2 dudes and it feels great for her, she's controlling 2 men that wanna stick her.

So, just relax on her and see what happens. She needs to feel a sense of danger and imminent loss to focus on you. And if she doesn't, well there's your answer. She never had an intention to get to far with you beyond quick little nights out once a month. That's just a waste of time and effort, when a girl who's into you would of banged you 9 ways till Sunday in that month you try to make an appointment with her.

Good luck with this one, keep us posted.

 

[1Italia0]

I'll be honest with you guys. That day for some reason I was completely mind f*cked. I've pretty much found myself again when I realized what I was doing. Being the first girl I've "connected" with in a couple years through me for a loop. So I've hooked up with a couple girls this week and got my mojo back lol I was completely overthinking things which is unlike me a lot.

Thank you all for your time looking at this for me!

Take care