Been Out Of It For A Bit...

[MrJack]

Sup Fellas,

Per the title, I’ve been out of the “game” for a little while now... won’t bore you with the details but had/have a few addictions I’m working through to clear my mind. But this is all besides the topic of this post!

So I kind of feel like I took half a red pill last year and before I got to take the second half, I just fell off the grid. SMH.

Because of this, I feel dumb for even having to ask about it. And please keep in mind that, yes, I know I need to get a few plates in rotation so all this flows more naturally.

So my roommates sister comes over for the weekend with 3 of her friends for this EDM music festival. All of them are attractive (HB7, HB8, & HB9).

They arrive and the HB9 says hi to me and sparks up a conversation with me (apparently we met once last year but I forgot at first lol.) Anyways, she’s giving me all the IOI’s a girl possibly can:

- “F*** me” eyes.
- Lots of lingering touching on my arms and ribs area.
- Whenever I would leave to go talk to other people she would eventually end up finding her way back to me and start talking to me about any random thing.

You get the point.

Long story short... all we did was makeout a couple times and kino the f*** out of each other throughout the night. At one point I had her alone in my bed but encountered LMR, with good reasoning though.

(Our place is small and people are literally chilling right outside the door basically. Plus not to sound like a dbag but I am considered the “king of the castle” so to speak, between my other 2 roommates and it seemed like every 5 minutes people wanted to know where I was to take a shot or whatever else)

After it was all said and done and she left the next morning, I had her number from the previous night but didn’t intend to text her just yet. Next thing I know she has added me on instagram, Facebook, and Snapchat and even sent me a Facebook message telling me to text her and gave me her number a second time. I thought f*** it and just texted her the usual canned line after a night out:

“Glad you came out, had fun, let’s do it again, yada yada.”

We texted back and forth maybe 5 messages each and I fell asleep. I responded to her text in the morning then she quickly responded back anticipating that the convo would continue I’m guessing. I told her “I’m just getting to work let’s talk later” and she agrees with a smiley.

Around lunch time she snapchats me but I haven’t opened it yet. And she literally just now texted me “Hey!”

I’m usually decent at game in person but I guess I’m retarded when it comes to texting at the right times/cutting off conversation at the right times/etc. I don’t even really like texting a lot because it eventually gets boring as we all know. Can’t keep it 100% interesting at all times and I’m not trying to lose attraction in this way as I have many times in the past.

Lol my question was gonna be should I bother texting her again tonight? I don’t wanna get in that whole routine. But now that she took the initiative to reach out to me again just now, I feel like she would feel rejected and withdraw if I just ignore. Is that true? Do I text her again two nights in a row? Or did my red pill pharmacy accidentally dye my pills blue?

I feel like these types of threads have been popping up from what I’ve seen briefly but had to post my scenario.

Any help appreciated.

 

[ohrein]

Worrying about texting rules is kinda silly. Just reply when you can and end the conversation when you want to. I'd be pushing the texting towards hanging out and then ending the conversation, but that's because like you I don't like texting that much. She has high interest so just lead her in the direction you want.

I took half a red pill last year and before I got to take the second half

This is likely going to be your biggest problem. You didn't mention anything that seemed like ONEITIS so I'm curious as to what you think you've missed in taking the red pill.

 

[Serenity]

I used to say pretty early that I think texting back and forth is boring and I'd like to save the conversation for when we meet up. Usually that went fine and it saved me the entire deal of coming up with interesting sh!t to say on text, also leaves a lot more meat for conversations when you actually see her. Nothing worse than being out of things to say in person because you said everything that was interesting on text.

I was just plain honest about it because it'll let you text less without her thinking you lost interest, as could happen if you just stop texting unannounced.

Might be something for you. If you do tell her that you could plan to meet again soon while you're at it, then you can have your conversations and whatever else you two want to do together.

 

[MrJack]

Worrying about texting rules is kinda silly. Just reply when you can and end the conversation when you want to. I'd be pushing the texting towards hanging out and then ending the conversation, but that's because like you I don't like texting that much. She has high interest so just lead her in the direction you want.



This is likely going to be your biggest problem. You didn't mention anything that seemed like ONEITIS so I'm curious as to what you think you've missed in taking the red pill.

Yea my post may not have been as clear as I intended. I say I took half the pill because I remember most of the basic core things that RP teaches but for some reason it falls apart through my texting game sometimes and it’s because they always wanna keep texting long convos! It’s a losing battle over time, attraction-wise. Basically I’m just decent at game while in person but when it comes to texting I just analyze **** too much and I guess I wanted tips on how to just avoid having to text girls but in a way where they won’t misread me being disinterested in them.

Maybe the fact I’m even worrying about this is a minor form of oneitus?

Anyways, she went to some bar tonight with her friend and sent me a snap telling me to FaceTime her tonight... I hate FaceTime... lol. I don’t like talking on the phone either.. there’s just better things I’d rather be doing. I didn’t respond because I didn’t know what to say to get out of it. Our previous texts were pretty engaging then she sent the snap and then all the sudden I just fell off the map. Will this make her more curious or did she just take that as a slap in the face since she can see that I opened her snap.

One more thing. If I texted her tomorrow to set up a date, should I completely ignore the fact I “blew her off”? (Never agreed to it but I feel like she probs is like... “oh ok”)

 

[MrJack]

I used to say pretty early that I think texting back and forth is boring and I'd like to save the conversation for when we meet up. Usually that went fine and it saved me the entire deal of coming up with interesting sh!t to say on text, also leaves a lot more meat for conversations when you actually see her. Nothing worse than being out of things to say in person because you said everything that was interesting on text.

I was just plain honest about it because it'll let you text less without her thinking you lost interest, as could happen if you just stop texting unannounced.

Might be something for you. If you do tell her that you could plan to meet again soon while you're at it, then you can have your conversations and whatever else you two want to do together.

Thanks for the input. I figured if I just said texting is boring and I don’t like it, she would lose attraction since she loves it so much.

Regarding the part you said about her thinking I lost interest by stopping text/snap unannounced... well that’s exactly what I just did tonight lol. What would you do at this point? Am I the one who needs to reach out since I “mini-ghosted” her and just set up plans for the weekend? Or should I give it till the weekend and setup plans then?

 

[Murk]

I don't text them at work, I let them know right off the bat:

"I'm not too good at texting and don't have much time during working hours as I'm really busy"

This sets the tone for the texting from then on, girls love to talk, they're always on their phones. Just ignore her for a day or two, then call after work around 7-8pm and arrange a date. If she accepts then use the phone to sexually escalate as much as you can before the date, you've already had her in your bed so this should be easy. When you smash, just keep the texting minimal as before.

 

[Serenity]

Thanks for the input. I figured if I just said texting is boring and I don’t like it, she would lose attraction since she loves it so much.

Honesty > pretending.

Does she love texting or is she just texting a lot in an attempt to keep your interest? Why would she lose attraction over that? If she's really attracted she won't hesitate for a minute accepting such a simple thing, unless texting with you is more important than getting you which is totally absurd btw. You're not making sense...

 

[MrJack]

Honesty > pretending.

Does she love texting or is she just texting a lot in an attempt to keep your interest? Why would she lose attraction over that? If she's really attracted she won't hesitate for a minute accepting such a simple thing, unless texting with you is more important than getting you which is totally absurd btw. You're not making sense...

Yea I know lol now that I re-read it. Thanks though.

 

[MrJack]

I don't text them at work, I let them know right off the bat:

"I'm not too good at texting and don't have much time during working hours as I'm really busy"

This sets the tone for the texting from then on, girls love to talk, they're always on their phones. Just ignore her for a day or two, then call after work around 7-8pm and arrange a date. If she accepts then use the phone to sexually escalate as much as you can before the date, you've already had her in your bed so this should be easy. When you smash, just keep the texting minimal as before.

For sure. Lol I don’t want to even text a lot AFTER work. Don’t get me wrong it can be enjoyable and fun but most times I’m just not into it. Seems like the move is to just be honest like yourself and Grewd are saying.

Btw I usually NEVER call unless they call me but I’m interested to try it out. Should I just call her out of the blue around 7-8pm? Or text her letting her know I’m going to call her?

 

[Murk]

Just call her out of the blue, if she doesn't answer then leave it and let her call you back.