"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've been told they have "boyfriends" or they wouldn't give me their numbers.


What the f*ck is going on?

When they do give me their numbers, it doesn't escalate to the next part.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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when a girl tells you she has a boyfriend she's not necesarily rejecting you. sometimes its true but girls also use that as a s-hit test. they want to see how you react. if you get pissed or immediately and eject, she just weeded out all the weak guys. next time it happens, stay calm, try not to show any reaction at all. deflect her comment by ignoring it and changing the subject. you can also make a funny comment like, "you're silly, so what i was saying was..."

as far as girls flaking it generally means you did not build enough attraction, and she gave you her phone # so you would stop talking to her and go away. a couple of things you can do to limit girls flaking on you is first and foremost work on your attraction game. the more attraction you build your flake rate will lower about 75%. the second thing you can do is have a specific event in mind to invite her too before you ever ask for the number. build up the event, then get her number. saying to a girl "we should hang out sometime whats your number" is boring and every other guy says that. there's no reason for her to answer or return your voicemail or text.
 

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Renegade357 said:
Why don't you describe how and where you're meeting these women? What are you saying to them ect?

School, on campus. I got this girls' number and I chilled with another girl in the cafeteria. She's cool.

I agree troll. Thanks.
 
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I get rejected a lot, a lot of men do. Who cares life goes on. If you don't ask you don't get and most of the time it's down to luck of the draw. The right person at the right time and all that jazz. Keep truckin' bro, you'll be alright.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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perseverance said:
I get rejected a lot, a lot of men do. Who cares life goes on. If you don't ask you don't get and most of the time it's down to luck of the draw. The right person at the right time and all that jazz. Keep truckin' bro, you'll be alright.
^This.

Never underestimate the power of the right person, right place, and right time.
 

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Thanks for the advice don Juans.
 
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