It has been 3 weeks NC, but it feels like a century.
She has sent me a few texts asking for reconciliation and I ignored them.
I never obsess about women this bad.
Normally we get the incompatibility speech, mutual respect, we get closure, feel bad for a few weeks and move on.
Only woman I have ever obsessed about this bad was my BPDex
My gut tells me so hard I have dealt with a Cluster B here, but some memories keep doubting it, because Ive seen BPD and she was not a hysterical arm slicer, suicide threathner, no she was extremely calm, an empty shell. Somehow there was something unable to connect with, although words spoke the right music, the vibe felt disconnected.
I remember myself wondering a lot. "What does she want from me?"
My gut has been talking to me ever since we met.
Just the feeling something is wrong with this girl.
Red flags all over, which I ignored of course:
Psychopathic father (Walked out from one day to another on a former girlfriend pregnant of his baby, to start a new family Liked to cut electricity cables of company competition, beating up people in traffic jams etc)
Father died when she was 18, she talked about it shallowly with a smirky smile on her face ("But Im over it now")
Sometimes a psychopathic stare (Ted Bundy stare)
Her sister, Im sure has Borderline, who apparently lured a random d!ck in pregnancy and claimed some AFC he was the father, which he found out he was not after a DNA test, and then still she claimed he somehow forged it (LOL). I've seen her on skype and she's a manipulative foulmouthive trashbag.
I feel sorry for the kid.
Trail of married/older men as exes
Vague medical problems that never showed up at doctors examinations.
Likes going to fetish **** clubs
Has a split personality, childish and on the other side vain and queeny.
Everything is always about her
Empathy is something she doesn't have
Talks sadistically about exes, still they keep beggin/kissing her @ss on FB.
Everything is always someone else's fault, she is perfect.
She has great stories about achievements, which seem very doubtfull (Like working 3 jobs to provide for a family and pay off a mortgage after the uninsured father died)
She flirts around, is highly attractive and knows it, she has the seductive smiles, movements, speech, and sex is no big deal to her. The way she talks about random guys she shagged before is astounding.
Although during sex she dissociates, never loving, always hardcore. She loves rough hard sex, wants to be raped until it's "sore". Wants to walk around at work with sperm dripping out of both sides. Anyway you get the picture.
Cluster B alarm all the way in retrospect.
BUT the thing that bothers me.
She DOES show empathy to baby's and pets and friends, one of her friends has tragically been raped and she couldn't stop whining about how bad she felt for her.
I had been "lucky" enough to have had a shameful experience with a full blown diagnosed suicidal BPD, which dumped me and I pathetically begged for more punishment, which she was happy for me to provide.
Of course I didn't know anything about BPD at the time and my subconsious thought that providing more narcissistic supply was going to bring back the sweet kitten. I learnt painfully the hard way that that didn't work, and I can say that after that experience I increasingly "manned up" to a certain extent to set boundaries and walk away when facing disrespect.
Therefore I managed to dash the eject button and parachute away in the vaccuum of nothingness, at the first sign of pushing me away in the potential push pull cycle with this girl.
But now I'm at the point of, should I call her to reconcile?
Not to try again, but just for an extra analysis to either confirm or deny she is Cluster B.
Because nevertheless there are more red flags then at a communist parade subconsiously I'm telling myself that maybe my mind is playing tricks on me and she is not a cluster B and perhaps I'm just paranoid and depressed, seeing things that are not there?
Because I have not really seen hell but only a glimpse at the gate.
Please tell me I'm stupid and stay NC
Thanks for the read.