"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I am new to this forum....I stumbled across it just kinda surfing around and I think it is extremely cool............anyway

A brief history....I am 28, I have had 3 major girlfriends and have slept with somewhere around 100 women over the years. I love women, but they have really ****ed with my head over the years.

I recently ended a 4 yr relationship with a girl who is 22. She was 19 when we met. I have always been able to score with girls.....looking thru the forum I have discovered that I have naturally used most of the fundamentals of this art..............here's my problem:

When I first started dating my EX, I was 25. I was at the top of my game. I had no problem picking up the hottest girl in the bar, or at the party, or in the convenience store........I was always on the prowl and flirted with everyone. Now I find myself 4 years later, suddenly single....and I feel very rusty and almost insecure..... I have gone out with friends, but I usually drink myself out of the game...I feel too old and I can't figure out if I'm just ****ed up over the relationshipe or If I have lost my touch. What the hell is going on and does anyone have any advice for someone who has recently found himself back into this chaotic environment?? (although I must admit, I have a giddy feeling of freedom and curiosity about my new life)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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listen. Girls are evil, (not intentionally).. They will damage your mind.

Are you still upset over the breakup?
 

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man im in the same situation
man **** *****HES FULK THEM ALL. they dont know shhiit, most of the time they dunno wtf they want. besides dik, all they do is play mind games.. and all girls are same fuk.. even 4 year relationships they still fuk up.. in my opionion ALL YOUNG GIRLS ARE SAME> dont know what the fuk they want until they matured enough and thats pass the age 23.. even girls 18-22 are mostly FREAKS.

realationship is dumb, espeically when ur fuking young. you should be exploring life, because you only live once.

i dont understand why ppl need a girl.. they NEED a girl. FUK i seen the MOST innocnet girl fuking cheat on her bf over a 3 year relationship.. that opend my eyes.. ALL GIRLS ARE FREAKS> THEY WANNA EXLPORE AS MUCH AS WE DO.. and u know what? they want MORE SEX than we do, and its fuikng true, if u dont believe it, u havnt been out enough.. relationships are all about u bustin ur balls for the girl.. if u arent good enough she will move on.. u always gotta keep her on her toes and it aint fun if its easy u know.. if ur girls easy to game then wtf is the point of that? u get bored fast then u end up cheating and thats low.

i just ended my second relationship of my life, and imma stay single.. because what i learned from this ex is that girls are freaks, they wanna explore and half the time they dont know what the FUK they want. they do stupid ****.
they play games... they will lie to u about going to her friends house and dont tell me u trust ur girl.. u with her all the time? u hold her hand when she takes a 5hit too? guy please

i was once all about the relationships.. i enjoyed keeping the girl.. the thrills, being a challenge.. but investing the emotions and feelings.. that i cannot do again. its not worth it, if ur in the relationships for the fun **** then cool but when it comes down to invest feelings and ****... fuk that, there aint NO girl worth my time.. and there isnt such thing as "that" girl. cuz uknow why.. THE only FUKING REASON she seems like "the one" is because u seen one side of her. she hasnt displayed her bad behavoir to u.. best trick is to see how she reacts to someone she hates or dislikes.. there u go.. theres many girls who will display good behavior.. ALL over the fuking world. so dont get that twisted.. fuking pfff "the one" i hate when guys talk about that shiit.. "omg man i think shes the one!"..


sorry for the long rant but im just pissed off that i invested too much of my ex but you know what. im doing what most guys canty.. Im Walking away and it has been two weeks and i havnt even dare to add a single contact of her... im walking away far.. im actually RUNNING away if u wanna call it like that.
why am i doing that? BECAUSE I CAN.
 

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I'm coming out of a relationship that is almost a year long. I broke up with her on monday (5 days ago). I still feel like ****, but definitely slightly better.

Hang in there buddy. You'll get better. This **** takes time.


Read this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=38886&highlight=break-up

I read it and it helps.


As for your gaming, don't worry man, you'll get it back. It's not something you forget.
 

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kingwilliam said:
I am new to this forum....I stumbled across it just kinda surfing around and I think it is extremely cool............anyway

A brief history....I am 28, I have had 3 major girlfriends and have slept with somewhere around 100 women over the years. I love women, but they have really ****ed with my head over the years.

I recently ended a 4 yr relationship with a girl who is 22. She was 19 when we met. I have always been able to score with girls.....looking thru the forum I have discovered that I have naturally used most of the fundamentals of this art..............here's my problem:

When I first started dating my EX, I was 25. I was at the top of my game. I had no problem picking up the hottest girl in the bar, or at the party, or in the convenience store........I was always on the prowl and flirted with everyone. Now I find myself 4 years later, suddenly single....and I feel very rusty and almost insecure..... I have gone out with friends, but I usually drink myself out of the game...I feel too old and I can't figure out if I'm just ****ed up over the relationshipe or If I have lost my touch. What the hell is going on and does anyone have any advice for someone who has recently found himself back into this chaotic environment?? (although I must admit, I have a giddy feeling of freedom and curiosity about my new life)

skip2mylou781, is that you?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No, not me.

I must update the situation, however.

I am sad, but there is a "its going to be better than ever" feeling that I have in the back of my mind. I went to a bar last night and picked up a beautiful 25 yr old woman, brought her home and had mucho fun.

I guess I am just rusty....I know that I'm a natural at this whole thing...I just have to be myself and use my charm. Its not that I want a girlfriend, or NEED one....I just love women. Isn't that why we're here, for one reason or another???

I don't want another girlfriend for a while...this single thing just has so much potential.....no one *****ing at me for no reason.
 

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kingwilliam said:
A brief history....I am 28, I have had 3 major girlfriends and have slept with somewhere around 100 women over the years. I love women, but they have really ****ed with my head over the years.)
Hmmm.......

kingwilliam said:
When I first started dating my EX, I was 25. I was at the top of my game. I had no problem picking up the hottest girl in the bar, or at the party, or in the convenience store........
Let's do the math....somewhere around 100....so that means you slept with 99 people in 12 years. ASSUMING you lost your virginity when you were 13, which you probably didn't. That's 8-9 girls a year for 12 years. That's about 1 girl every 1.5 months for 12 years. Oh, what about those 2 other major girlfriends, so take off 1 year for each, now we're at 10 years. Then, they've fukked with your head, take off another year, now we're at 9 years.

So you're saying, you've slept with 97 women over 9 years. That's almost eleven women a year, with a GENEROUS assumption that you could lay 11 women when you're 13 years old. You, my friend, are full of shiat. No one who needs the help of sosuave.com gets laid that much, pal.
 

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Read Senor Fingers Wapon of Mass Seduction, he also came out of a long relationship when he started self-improving.
 

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Lol You Got Pwned!
 

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It's not impossible. I'd hit 40 by the time I was 23, and could've doubled that with lower standards. Hell, do fat chicks and you could chalk up a hundred a year.

kingwilliam, I was pretty rusty when I came out of my nine-year relationship. Don't worry, it's like Clint Eastwood in Unforgiven - shoot up a few old cans and you'll soon get your aim back.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I do not lie, my friend. I din't come here to brag. I lost my virginity when I was 16. When I was in college my friends and I would go out every night, and our goal was to get laid. The girls more than outnumbered the guys at my school.....it was like shooting fish in a barrel. There were weeks when I would have 3 or 4 girls.....and weeks with none. I am 28 years old. I had a couple of relationships, yes..... To only get laid by one girl a month??? Thats seems a little low for a single man if you ask me. And then there's spring break.... a girl every night for 6 or 7 days?????

I am not here to impress anyone, I was just laying out the facts. If you ask me 100 women in 12 years aint all that if you're good.

My problem is that since coming out of my most recent relationship I feel as if I have lost some game....... But I feel it coming back, it just takes a little practice. So please don't accuse me of lying. In fact, it is probably well over 100...I'm sure there have been many that I have simply forgot about.

P.S. I don't feel that I need the "help" of SoSuave.com, I just kinda felt like I was amongst peers here....

So, Mr Speed Dawg, I'm glad you know how to do basic math, but don't accuse me of lying, I have NO reason whatsoever to lie about this....... I came here because I thought this was a forum of pros
 
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If I slept with 100 girls, I wouldn't even be on this site. get the f*ck out of here.
 

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kingwilliam said:
I am new to this forum....I stumbled across it just kinda surfing around and I think it is extremely cool............anyway

A brief history....I am 28, I have had 3 major girlfriends and have slept with somewhere around 100 women over the years. I love women, but they have really ****ed with my head over the years.

I recently ended a 4 yr relationship with a girl who is 22. She was 19 when we met. I have always been able to score with girls.....looking thru the forum I have discovered that I have naturally used most of the fundamentals of this art..............here's my problem:

When I first started dating my EX, I was 25. I was at the top of my game. I had no problem picking up the hottest girl in the bar, or at the party, or in the convenience store........I was always on the prowl and flirted with everyone. Now I find myself 4 years later, suddenly single....and I feel very rusty and almost insecure..... I have gone out with friends, but I usually drink myself out of the game...I feel too old and I can't figure out if I'm just ****ed up over the relationshipe or If I have lost my touch. What the hell is going on and does anyone have any advice for someone who has recently found himself back into this chaotic environment?? (although I must admit, I have a giddy feeling of freedom and curiosity about my new life)

UMMmm, You're definitely not too old. At 28 you can still pick up 19 year olds. In fact, many of them even think it's fun to tell of this 'older man' they are seeing--oooooo the power of taboo--to their friends.

I personally think you just need to get out more. My suggestion is to join some hobby groups, go out to bars at least once a week but no drinking anything other than water, sign up for a college course (you will definitely meet women this way), and barge in at the end of speed dating events for the 'socializing phase'. If you live in a small town, move to a city with at least a half million people.

Best Wishes!
 

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Im the same way, guess it happens to all of us.
I was told by girls that girls were drawn to me. Now single again, i wouldn't even know how to approach a girl. Not that i couldn't. But i would be like trying to ice skate after not doing it for years. You can do it, just not well.
My best approach is go to the bar with a buddy, and bet each other 25+ bucks the first person to get rejected 10 times wins. Obviously you will observe each other. But then it becomes more about getting shot down and the numbers you do land is bonus.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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