"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Been a yr, need guidance

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Evolution

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Its been about a year into since I found the PU world. Even though I gone away from using "lines and tactics." which was just a band-aid. I'm just relying on whatever coming off the top of my head.

In a way, I feel as though I'm living a life of quiet desperation. I see many opportunities, for me to "game", but I really don't care in a way. Sure, I have girls approaching me, but I never do anything with it. I feel like I'm putting up a wall, never really connecting with people anymore.

I know these are just excuses, but I'm confused. Success with women is what I really want, but its hard to define exactly what I want. In the past, I couldn't approach girls, but now I can. But what now? Where to go from here? I don't feel I'm ready to handle a girl at point in my life, so have I really accomplished what I wanted?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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well, i dont know much about you, but the first basic thing needed for being a DJ is feeling good about yourself. So, i would only suggest, stop focussing on getting chicks and try to get your life together. Do whatever you think will make you happy and fix all the sore points that need a solution. Just stop looking for opportunities at the moment, they will keep coming as long as you live, if not with the college chick, then with the parlor chick. The funny thing is that when we look them, they don't come and when we don't look for them, they find us out!
 
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Well thats the thing, I've been focusing so much on other things. That I "lost" my "game".
 
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Evolution said:
Well thats the thing, I've been focusing so much on other things. That I "lost" my "game".
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whoa buddy slow down. your on the right track. you havent lost your game if what you said here is true. You are just starting your "game" as long as you focusing on pro-active things... school, hobbies, traveling.

"I've been focusing so much on other things. That I "lost" my "game"
does this mean you have a life? if so your on the right track then continue. and continue reading the bible.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Evolution said:
Its been about a year into since I found the PU world. Even though I gone away from using "lines and tactics." which was just a band-aid. I'm just relying on whatever coming off the top of my head.

In a way, I feel as though I'm living a life of quiet desperation. I see many opportunities, for me to "game", but I really don't care in a way. Sure, I have girls approaching me, but I never do anything with it. I feel like I'm putting up a wall, never really connecting with people anymore.

I know these are just excuses, but I'm confused. Success with women is what I really want, but its hard to define exactly what I want. In the past, I couldn't approach girls, but now I can. But what now? Where to go from here? I don't feel I'm ready to handle a girl at point in my life, so have I really accomplished what I wanted?
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You are lacking in recogninzing your Self Worth and Self Esteem.


You may be feeling unworthy or feeling like you dont deserve a good woman.
You also may fear being judged.
You may fear intimacy and deep connections because you may not be able to live up to an expectation from yourself and from the other person,

Number one,if youre not happy with yourself, a woman will only provide a temporary 'band aid' to your confidence and your ego.

What are you doing with your life?

What are you passionate about?
What are you doing to cultivate yourself, your personality, mentally, spiritually, physically?

Are you working towards accomplishing your Mission in life as a Man?

have you tried to ask yourself the hard questions?

Are you willing to kill your Ego?

Are you willing to be brutally honest with yourself?

Your answers are already inside you.
You just have to ask yourself the questions.



Oftentimes, when we avoid others, we are avoiding ourselves as well.

And oftentimes, when we avoid others, we waste that time in isolation beating ourselves up.

You may actually benefit from reading this interestingly enough...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=144038
 
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