There's this chick that I was trying to hit on about a year ago. Back then I was about 20 lbs heavier. She showed me no interest at the end when I tried to ask her if she wanted to have lunch one time and meet up. So then i disappeared for a good year and saw her again. This time she said whats up to me, i didn't want to initiate the contact first since I knew in the back of my mind she wasn't interested from a year ago. But then she now asks me how im doing blah blah blah, we had a lil small talk. This girl works in a coffee shop so we couldn't talk too long. So is this a front?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Been a while since I have posted...need your advice
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
well there's no way of knowing if she wants one unless I go to the coffee shop. I was never in a relationship with this person. All I want from this b@#tch is to smoke that salmon.. ha ha...evan12 said:
any thoughts and comments are welcome
you're over-thinking this to death. Not enough facts to be able to assess either way. Just go in there bold (preferably during a downtime so you have more time to talk to her) and try to get some digits. That'll be a good indicator of where you stand with the girl.
Well I went back again to visit at her work. We were alone for a bit and we started talking her body language showed interest and she staryed asking how i was doing. I felt a lil bit of sexual energy from her. While I was observing her I noticed that while she was talking to me she stalled for a bit from her routine of customer service like taking a longer time to rip out receipt to have me sign. Then I asked her of her work schedule and she started giving me info on her other job and what time she works there, the days and location. She has 2 jobs so she gave me her work schedule. So then I started asking her about if she has a boyfriend she said no (I know shes lying I can tell by her body language). She asked me the same. Then I proceeded to ask for her number and she didnt want to give it out. Im like wtf. Instead she asked for mine and I gave it to her. Is she playing games or what? I know if I jumped over the counter I felt this sexual energy from her that I probably would have slammed that but there are cameras there. So she has my number but I think shes dangling her @$$ at me playing hard to get. Please give advice players. Thanks
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Bold bit translates to - "I dont want you to have my number - I am never gonna call you"909pua said:
NEXT!
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
You should of said "ok, cool, I'll see you around then" and jetted outta that cafe after she refused to give her number. That's cold man. Abandon all hopes at this point. I'm all for going for the gold and taking a chance, but damn, she flat out said no. I sort of get a bit aggravated at treatment like this, but eh, what can you?
Just let her be and forget about her. Kudos on the weight drop.
Just let her be and forget about her. Kudos on the weight drop.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Yup.VladPatton said:
You really need to get a few more approaches and rejections under your belt if this gets you down bro.
Its not unfair treatment, she isnt attracted or interested and she said so.
Well she said so in girltalk - which, by the way, she expects you to understand.
Why does she expect YOU to understand girltalk?
Because SHE understands it. And Life - NO, THE WORLD - revolves around HER and how SHE FEELS, and what SHE thinks.
Its just a NO, Move on to the next. Get a few more rejections and be glad she didnt try to suck you in to her orbit. (and ill bet she could after reading this)
yeah well done man keep it up.
Peace.
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Her behavior aggravated me because she was acting interested then just rejected him at the last minute. If you ask a girl out and she rejects you, if she should EVER come back and start being sexual with you, SHE should be the one to ask you out that time. OP showered her with attention and gave her entertainment when she was supposed to be working.Then she makes excuses by saying she works two jobs and is busy. If she was actually interested in him, she would have told him the times she is off work, not how much time work is taking her.
Don't reward bad behavior
Should've been like "Why should I come to your coffee shop? Here's the location of my bed and the times I eff b!tches on it. Stop in sometime!" lol
Don't reward bad behavior
Should've been like "Why should I come to your coffee shop? Here's the location of my bed and the times I eff b!tches on it. Stop in sometime!" lol
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.