"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Becoming Successful and Shaping Your Future

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I haven't been on here for awhile. Things have been going okay. It's life. There are ups, downs, and sometimes monotony. I've learned to just deal with it. Everyday I wake up now and think "regardless of what happened the day before, I'm going to make the best of my situation."

Here's some are ideas that are important for success:

*Trust your inner-self. Don't analyze everything a girl says or does. They aren't thinking about it and neither should you. Your subconscious mind will lead you where you should be going. Your first instinct is correct. Don't wait, act now.

*Enthusiasm is contagious. I repeat, enthusiasm is contagious. If your in the proximity of an enthusiastic person, they're bound to feel the same way. People don't like being around negative people. If your enthusiastic, people will like you and especially girls.

*Smiling is the KEY to getting girls. It's fvcking Pandora's Box. If you open it, a whole new universe awaits you filled with hot chicks and successful opportunities. If you don't feel like smiling, seriously, just try it. Think happy and you will be happy. It's linked with enthusiasm. Girls LOVE guys who smile. Smiling shows you are : A) Confident
B) Happy (another sign of confidence)
C) Not dragged down by the problems of your day to day existence

Most importantly smiling releases endorphins which actually make you happy. Also, the person you are smiling at will reciprocate and smile back. Then, when they think of you, they will remember you make them feel good. And that's what life's about, right? Feeling good?


*Confidence is the foundation of all success. Countless people have started million dollar businesses just because they were confident. Others in turn felt confident and decided to loan them the money or invest in their company such as John D. Rockefeller, Henry Ford, and Warren Buffett. What does this have to do with getting girls?

Well, in fact, it has everything to do with getting girls. How you feel inside is projected on the outside. If you are confident, others will feel confident in you. I know this an old adage by now and your wondering "yeah but how do I BECOME confident you as*hole?"

In order to become confident, you need to listen to that little voice in the back of your head that you may have not heard in years. The one that fostered dreams of success (i.e. career, women, sports). Deep down inside you know what you need to do, and you just have to cut through the bullsh*t and do it. I can't tell you what you need to do, only you know. It may be getting in shape, working on your career path, or talking to some girl. Unfortunately faking it till you make it doesn't work in building your own self-worth. If your not happy on the inside, no girls are going to want to be around you. Believe me, how you view the world is through how you feel. Life is only perspective. If you feel happy, people seem to like you and everything is fine. But if your depressed, people seem mean or distant and the world is cruel. So if you can fix your inner self, the world will mold around to your liking.

Good luck.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Great advice man. You presented it in a nice straight forward way.
 

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thank you
 

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no problem
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Triple T

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Wasn't this in the DJ newsletter?
I'm pretty sure I read the same thing somewhere else.
 

Void

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haha no dude if it sounds familiar thats because all the same ideas tend to be regurgitated on this site.
 
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