***EMAIL from John:
Is there lots of women that don't like the aggressive
badboy attitude at all? I mean, what about the
important aspect of "politeness and manners"?
John
>>>MY COMMENTS:
A lot of women are turned off by the aggressive
attitude of badboys, if by "aggressive" you mean
rude and pushy, and if the context is outside the
bedroom in social situations.
Outside of the bedroom, and in social interactions,
most women prefer "politeness and manners." It's just
human nature.
But as you look around, you find that badboys tend to
get the girls, while nice guys don't. Women are often
seen crying on the shoulder of a nice guy "friend" as
she suffers through the extreme emotional highs and
lows of a relationship with a badboy "lover."
Badboys are aggressive. Nice guys are polite. And
thus, a lot of "reforming nice guys" who want to be
"exciting badboys" will try to act aggressive. But
they just end up being rude wimps.
But a lot of it has to do with context. As I have
discussed at length before, women want to be treated
like a lady in the living room and ravaged like the
slvt that she loves to be in the bedroom.
And women know that badboys can ravage them. And I'm
talking about the dangerous to know, impossible to tame,
badboy. (And I'm talking about MOST women, at least
once in their lives.)
Badboys are exciting. For a woman, the sex is awesome
with a badboy. He is dominant, he talks dirty to her,
he makes her do things she is too inhibited to do, and
she loves it. It makes her feel sexual. It is
extremely exciting for a woman to experience these
intense sexual feelings.
Badboys are masculine. The feminine in a woman is
attracted to the masculine in a man. And with a badboy,
it is extreme. It is this contrast that is so alluring
to a woman. It makes her feel sexy and feminine.
Badboys lead an exciting life. They are daring and live
on the edge. Women want to be part of it to make their
own life more exciting.
Badboys are mysterious. They have a dark side that
women are endlessly curious to know. She never really
feels she knows him.
Badboys cannot be tamed. Women are nurturing creatures,
and are thus compelled to save him. She is determined
to rescue him by teaching him how to love.
Badboys are fearless with women. He will woo her by
being sweet and gentlemanly, while she is drawn to his
masculine confidence.
Badboys are addictive. She becomes so wrapped up in her
experience that she realizes she needs it. And the
badboy knows it.
Once she becomes addicted, the bad side of the badboy
comes out.
Badboys are selfish. He inconsiderately takes and
takes, and she gladly gives and gives even more in order
to keep him because she is addicted to the exciting sex.
Badboys are secretive. She begins to notice things he
is keeping from her. Things about his dark side that
would be self incriminating.
Badboys make promises of fidelity and then deny their
indiscretions. When she learns he has cheated, she is
hurt, but she needs it, so she works even harder to save
him.
Badboys are paranoid. He knows that other men do
exactly the same thing. Thus, he becomes very jealous
and possessive of his women. He becomes controlling in
order to keep her to himself.
It is incongruent. The internal incongruency is another
form of weakness.
Most every highly sexual woman has at least once in her
life been with a badboy. This is true for both high
self esteem and low self esteem women.
For the high self esteem woman, she eventually can't
take the drama any more, and she leaves him. It is
probably the most emotionally traumatic thing she will
ever do. It is heart wrenching for her because she
has become so addicted to the awesome.sex.
After a woman has been through the roller coaster ride
with a badboy, she will forever avoid inconsiderate
jerks. But she will always crave those intense sexual
feelings.
And it is because she craves those intense sexual
feelings that there is a tremendous opportunity
for you. So you can thank the badboys for doing
some of the preparation work for you.
I have studied the badboys for many years, because
I wanted to have the same kind of powerful sexual
affect on women. But I was determined to go
beyond even that. I was going to figure out
everything it takes to have that powerful affect
on a woman and still have all the other things
that a woman must have, because when all those
other things are true, it makes the sex even more
awesome.
So when you step into a woman's life, she sees
that she could have all the things she has always
wanted, and she begins to become excited about
the possibilities.
You are masculine without being macho.
You are dominant without being domineering.
You are exciting without being reckless.
You are mysterious without being deceiving.
You are considerate without being placating.
You are strong yet gentle.
You are forthright and trustworthy.
You are sexually exciting in the bedroom and a gentleman
in the living room.
You are a man in every respect.
You are a Masterful Lover.
I have gathered all my research and knowledge into
my "David Shade's Masterful Lover Manual" where I
discuss at length what it means to be the kind of
man that has a powerful sexual affect over women.
And I discuss all those things that you must make true
for her in order to drive her crazy and bring out that
ruthlessly expressive slvt in her.
http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?QVTkJ_gddV3pWKXx8pLDEw
You can learn from the badboys just how very powerful
it is to talk dirty to a woman in bed. For most women,
it is extremely exciting. But many men have
reservations about doing that, or don't really know
what is appropriate to say or not appropriate to say.
There are certain things that powerfully turn on a
woman, and there are other things that absolutely
must be avoided. And this is especially true for
high quality women.
I discuss all these things, with specific examples of
what to say, on my audio CD called "The Art Of Sexy
Dirty Talk." My girlfriend also speaks and gives a
woman's perspective on the subject. She will tell you
just how important it is, and tell you some of the
rules.
You can also learn from the badboys about what they do
to get a new sexual relationship off to an exciting
start. And you can avoid their mistakes. I discuss
this on my hour long audio CD called "How To Set The
Foundation For A Wild Se xual Relationship."
http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?XSMvJsOqt_3LijbyWFd74w
I am sure you have questions. I've made it easy
for you to ask. Just go to my "Ask David Shade"
page on my website and enter your question:
http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?B_fHPJGVBXbNqXf1dO45hg
I will personally answer your question in email,
and you will receive an invitation to a free
upcoming teleseminar, where I will address all
the questions.
In my next newsletter, I talk about a reader who has
lost all sense of sexuality, and I discuss how this
happens to women just as much, if not more so, and
how to turn that into a tremendous opportunity.
Give women incredible pleasure,
David Shade
