Becareful what you ask for.. you may just get it!

[Frenchconnection]

Ok so I got what I asked for and now I feel a bit sad


I was talking to this girl for a few weeks, not really having much interest in her and somewhat complaining to my friend about her lack of certain qualities (i.e. she mostly talked about herself, didn't asked too many questions about me and was somewhat not sweet enough)

So I was trying to figure out what I should do with her and then she made it easy for me. I called her last night and left a vm and she didn't call back.
I know It's only been a day but usually she texts me if she's busy.

I admit that even though I wasn't into her and that she isn't probably not good for me; it was nice having someone to talk to and to have that feeling of being thought of at times.

Before you pass judgment ( and it's ok if you do) I have many great challenges last year, mom passed away and then 3 days later I found out my ex gf cheated on me. :kick:

But call me an AFC or whatever, I have had my shares of ups and downs since then. If anything I'm so frustrated with the endless disappointments, flakers and such.

I'm not looking for the perfect mate, actually I stop looking and then I was fine until I engaged myself with this chick that put a kink in my delusional emotional armor.

I'm definitely not going to call her back, I texted her on the weekend and left her a vm and that's enough. Luckily I met up with a friend the other day and maybe I can at least start a friendship.

Sorry for the rant but I needed to vent this stuff out.

Cliff notes version:

met a girl didn't really like
she stopped being responsive
I realize I needed someone to talk to
now I feel a bit a lost
learned my lesson again, moving on..

 

[MR_PERFECT]

I have a story so disturbing that I won't post it for fear of embarrassment. You'll be fine, this is natural. It's just your ego talking. Each time this happened to me, my ego got a little less involved. You just need to let your ego get beat up a little bit.

 

[Frenchconnection]

Thanks, once again I'm moving on..

 

[KontrollerX]

My condolences man over all your pain.

I lost my father to cancer in 2004 so I know losing a parent can be rough.

Anyway though good lesson in your post to be mindful of the present and your needs in that time frame.

 

[Sinistar]

Very sorry to hear about your Mom.

Regarding your ex - think of it this way, she did you a favor by setting you free. No longer will you give away your power (ie frame) to a woman. You are the prize each and every day no matter whom you are spending time with. Got it

Regarding this current gal. Take this opportunity to recognize something. Your wondering about her after she flaked on you is the very slightest (and subtlest) beginning of the onset of One-itis. Spinning plates is not only a healthy thing for a MAN, it does wonders to cure (and better yet deter) One-itis. Always try to recognize One-itis immediately and work to kill it off. A guy's time is way to valuable to be spending it waiting for a phone call or txt message or email. Trust us, many of us have been there and done that.

 

[Frenchconnection]

Thanks guys, I'm glad I have a place where I can discuss life matters with mature individuals.

When you think you know enough, then comes along some random chick that puts you back in your place in a heart beat.

 

[chevelle]

Hey bro, i have been in your exact same situation! I mean exact, to a T!!!!! I am not in the position to give great advice, so all i can do is offer my hope that things improve for you.

 

[Frenchconnection]

Ok so update, she texts me giving me the "my cell is broken and she's been missing texts and dropped calls" excuse.

I don't know what to believe but I guess I should just play along and keep spinning plates.