beating out the competition

[poetic.mind]

So we all know how it is with beautiful women, every guy is on a sushi roulette for them trying to compete for her. Let's say you are one of those guys who want to get with her, so obviously you would encounter competition. As much as you want to juggle plates, you obviously have that one person you want more than the rest. Now my question, how do you guys deal with competition with other males? (considering its an alpha to alpha fight). So in the end you stand up on top.

 

[Iceberg]

I don't worry about other men. Either the girl's buying what I'm selling, or she isn't. If a girl fully buys into how you present yourself to her, it's not gonna matter that Jimmy from next door is flirting with her. Because you're her dude, and you're what she wants (at the moment).

There will always be richer and better looking guys for her to chase after, just like there will always be younger, hotter girls for me to chase after. So, I worry about the sh!t I can control. Staying in shape. Staying interesting. Stuff like that.

Here's the thing....when a girl's into you, she automatically assumes that OTHER girls are into you. They're just as paranoid about us as we are about them. So your responsibility is staying desirable so that she knows (and fears) that you can go scoop up a new chick just as easily as she can get a new dude.

I mean, overall it's just a girl. So if I have to constantly "battle" other dudes just to keep her focused on me, then my energy and time is best spent elsewhere. Not gonna have myself losing sleep at night over one of many girls on the planet.

 

[TheException]

So we all know how it is with beautiful women, every guy is on a sushi roulette for them trying to compete for her.

This is a bad way to view the dating market. This puts the woman on the pedestal. Id begin by changing your whole mindset. Subscribe to something like iceberg said:

-Either the girl's buying what I'm selling, or she isn't. If a girl fully buys into how you present yourself to her, it's not gonna matter that Jimmy from next door is flirting with her. Because you're her dude, and you're what she wants

-Staying in shape. Staying interesting.

-So your responsibility is staying desirable so that she knows (and fears) that you can go scoop up a new chick just as easily as she can get a new dude.

 

[poetic.mind]

I definitely agree with you and iceberg. I am pretty fit (5'6), average to a little above average looking but my problem is theres always someone fitter, more better looking than me and happens to swag the girl im dealing with.

With that said, I feel like based on your genetic make up there's just a limit of the type of girls you can date and im pretty sure a lot of you will disagree. If lets say you're a 5'3 guy theres no way you can date someone who's 5'8 model, etc etc. Best you can get is probably a 6 to 7 who is 5'4 to 5'6.. I can go on. Despite having enormous game, theres just certain physical aspects that the game cannot overcome (unless you're rich as hell).

 

[Iceberg]

I definitely agree with you and iceberg. I am pretty fit (5'6), average to a little above average looking but my problem is theres always someone fitter, more better looking than me and happens to swag the girl im dealing with.

With that said, I feel like based on your genetic make up there's just a limit of the type of girls you can date and im pretty sure a lot of you will disagree. If lets say you're a 5'3 guy theres no way you can date someone who's 5'8 model, etc etc. Best you can get is probably a 6 to 7 who is 5'4 to 5'6.. I can go on. Despite having enormous game, theres just certain physical aspects that the game cannot overcome (unless you're rich as hell).

If you're 5'3" with a crap personality and have nothing to contribute to the dating world other than "Hey, I'm a regular guy with a regular job and I like light beer and watching sports." Then...yeah....you're not going to attract quality girls. Because you're just a boring average dude.

If you're a short dude who's awesome and dynamic and interesting, then good things will happen for you.

 

[poetic.mind]

LOLLL. I guess I was whining there for a bit, but I know its my inadequate game that's screwing me over. I feel like most of the time, indifference is your friend when it comes to girls. Being indifferent is like the 1st commandment of having game.... that's what I feel.

 

[VladPatton]

The thing is you can't MAKE them like you. All you can do is be the best person you can be in regards to your current status. Looks take you so far, and this is true for both sexes. Don't care so much about what they think, don't rely on "the game" for everything, and don't beat yourself up if they reject you. This is why we always preach to work on yourself around here. The woman is a sliver of the pie of life, not the whole thing.

Once you show you have a bit of success and power you become so panty-dropping-attractive that it'll blow your mind. Who's in control now??

 

[Bible_Belt]

how do you guys deal with competition with other males?

My attitude toward the woman is, the more time you spend with any other guy, the more you're going to miss me.

 

[XY.]

Indifference