"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Beards?

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What about beards? I've been growing one recently. Frankly I think it looks bad, but I have a terrible sense of aesthetics when it comes to my own gender's looks. I've heard from some people the rule "have some facial hair for the first two dates, but not the third" so when I kissed the girl I'm currently after for the first time, I told her "don't worry, I'm planning on shaving this brillo pad." Surprisingly she said she "likes a bit of scruff" - wanted me to keep it. Seems horrible to me to kiss a scruffy person.

Has any research been done on what percentage of women are attracted/unattracted to beards? Best length? Seems like all of my girl-friends comment on it - most are positive, two are extremely negative (oh my god, shave that).

What about grooming techniques? I've just been using an adjustable beard trimmer on the next-to-shortest setting. Still results in a rather full beard... I wish there were a setting between 0 and 1.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I cant stand beards, i dont think i've ever seen one that i liked.
 

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I was with a girl last night who kept playing with my "scruff", (I haven't shaved in 4 days), and she said something similar. She likes the scruff or stubble if you will, but hates a full on beard.

In response, I gestured to a group of Rabbis talking nearby, and told her "I think those Rabbis over there have the right idea, I'm going to grow my beard out like them." She replied, "Yeah? Then you won't be getting any, just like those Rabbis."

I shaved this morning.
 

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Who the **** cares if a ****buddy or some one night stand chick complains about your beard? ****, even ltr's need to deal w/ it like the nerds they are.

Goatee's and BEARDS are awesome.
 

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OneofOne said:
I was with a girl last night who kept playing with my "scruff", (I haven't shaved in 4 days), and she said something similar. She likes the scruff or stubble if you will, but hates a full on beard.

In response, I gestured to a group of Rabbis talking nearby, and told her "I think those Rabbis over there have the right idea, I'm going to grow my beard out like them." She replied, "Yeah? Then you won't be getting any, just like those Rabbis."

I shaved this morning.
Rabbis get more than anyone. She's obviously an ignoramus.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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women love beards.

even the ones that say they dont, they do.

By beard i mean a lengthy stubble. A full beard of say, 2 -3 weeks, is a matter of taste. But a lengthy stubble- a week or 2 weeks, and trimmed down every so often to prevent it getting too long is perfect.

Especially if your young or look baby faced. Theres something manly and captivating and confident about having some stubble.

Think about it, a geeky weak nerd wouldnt have one.
 

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I had a full on beard for a while (not too long, though) and got a ton of compliments on it. Jokingly I shaved it into a handlebar mustache for a few days, and surprisingly got even more compliments from women. Strange, eh?

Stubble = Painful, Hated by All women
Half-Beard = Sexy, Loved by all women
Full Beard = Manly, loved by women that matter

:cool:
 

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If you mean stubble, that's cool, but no more than four days growth.
 

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I agree that having facial hair seems to be better, at least from a college observance standpoint.

One of the reasons I like to grow it out and do cool styles with it is because it now grows fairly fast on me. If I don't shave after 2 days I'll have noticeable stubble. After 4-5 days I can trim/design it into something cool.

The other guys on my hall, the huge geeks/nerds, are all babyfaced. And you can tell just by looking at them that they get no female attention whatsoever.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cinamon said:
If you mean stubble, that's cool, but no more than four days growth.
Really? See I would have thought that women would hate this length the MOST just because it's so painful to kiss. Can you really stand this?

Back when I had no beard, if I accidentally went a couple days without shaving, and then made out heavily with my gf, she would literally have a red chin afterwards. Right now, my beard is barely long enough to feel a little "soft" though it is not long enough to look like a full beard. I would have thought that that would be most appropriate, but then again it is kind of an awkward length like I said.

Obviously you kind of need to see what I'm talking about to get a good sense, but the problem is that I've asked girls and they have remarkably varying opinions on the matter - some strongly for, some against.
 

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Stubble rules.

I work in a conservative profession, so during the week I have to shave constantly. But when the weekend comes, the cowboy boots and hat comes out and my razor is gathering dust!
 

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Abcd said:
Really? See I would have thought that women would hate this length the MOST just because it's so painful to kiss. Can you really stand this?

Back when I had no beard, if I accidentally went a couple days without shaving, and then made out heavily with my gf, she would literally have a red chin afterwards. Right now, my beard is barely long enough to feel a little "soft" though it is not long enough to look like a full beard. I would have thought that that would be most appropriate, but then again it is kind of an awkward length like I said.

Obviously you kind of need to see what I'm talking about to get a good sense, but the problem is that I've asked girls and they have remarkably varying opinions on the matter - some strongly for, some against.
I prefer stuble to beards cuz it looks good on most guys, and you are right, it does graze the skin a little when you make out, but feels amazing on the inside of your thighs. I like a bit of pain to go with my pleasure so stubble is good.
 

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Abcd said:
when I kissed the girl I'm currently after for the first time, I told her "don't worry, I'm planning on shaving this brillo pad."
regardless of w/er women like beards or not, that was an AFC move on your part. You re basically apologizing to a woman for your looks in an effort to increase her interest level. Can you see the problem here?

As far as your question, most girls i ve asked said they like how the stubble looks, but not necessarily how it feels.

Why do you care though? i ve had a full beard in the past, in general i shave maybe 1 or 2x a week so I always have some facial hair. If a girl s turned off by it, tough luck for her, i ll just go for her friend.
 
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