Beach Vball Girl and older guy

[bob2007]

So... I'm in a meetup group, we play beach vball.

I'm 29 , she's 22, there were guys her age, there were other guys there that were her age, taller and fitter and possibly better looking than me. But she sat down next to me chatted a bit, and not them. She seemed outgoing but reserved, she was probably the youngest there. At one point she said, "this group is 20s and 30s, you must be 30s!" (I shoulda been clean shaven, i'd look 23).

I was a bit shocked by that comment. I didn't get her contact cause the group has some harrasment policy (I don't care about it a whole lot). I thought I could msg her after on the site or next time I see her.

I felt like the convo was lukewarm. Do I build more rapport next time, or do I msg her online thru the site?

A. msg her, build rapport online, get her interested, so I don't have to deal with (male) competition Sunday
B. build more rapport Sunday, because online is less personal

 

[n00bPimp]

Dont contact her online. Get her number. "We should go out for coffee, what days are you free next week?" works.
Rapport doesnt create attraction, you've been in the game long enough to know this.

 

[apprenticedj]

Wait until you see her again, strike up another conversation and then ask for the number. As n00bPimp has said rapport doesn't create attraction and it's very hard to build attraction via online messaging. She's either digging you or not, did you neg her hard after she commented on your age?

 

[VladPatton]

Rapport has it's place, it's for building comfort, so get the number and get the ball rolling. Or of she refuses, you know where you stand.

 

[bob2007]

Ya, I didn't send the email... better to just see her friday, at the vball , and there's also Sunday.

I like the coffee idea... keep things simple.

Well... I had one girl part time model attracted to me before, she even kissed me. But we never had good convos... maybe I was too nervous.

I wanted this one to be at ease, wanted to bridge the age gap. I think the attraction should be there.

 

[apprenticedj]

Bobby let me tell you, 22 vs. 29 isn't really an age gap to be concerned with. Women her age LOVE older, more mature guys, no need to feel odd. You're not robbing the cradle at all.