"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hey fellas, I just recently visited Cape Cod with my relatives and saw a bunch of babes there. Me and my cousin walked on our alone, only gwaking at other girls and doing nothing about it. I am currently 0 for 2 in approaches, and my rejections haven't been too bad...

I visited a beach and saw a bunch of hot girls. Many were with their parents, and I wanted to approach these girls badly. Now I will probably bring some excuses to the table here: I did not know how to isolate them from their parents, I did the look and smile at them, maybe they did not smile back therefore prly no interest, or they had a boyfriend, which I kind of wanted to beat the $hit out of him, but not worth it. Plus, I am better than my cousin is, but he kept telling me, "if you do get their number--so what, you can't do anything with them, and plus you live to too far away." He persuaded me not too, which is all my fault there. Plus, I tried to figure these girls ages, so I didn't stalk young girls. Ok my questions are down below:

1. If a girl is with her parents, how can you approach the girl without her parents thinking your just tryin to get into their daughters pants?
2. If you look and smile at her, and she smiles back does that basically mean she will be interested in you approaching her? And what if she does not smile back--meaning she wants nothing to do with you?
3. When a girl who has a boyfriend is looking at you, taking quick glances, what does that necessarily mean??

I saw many girls, half of them with their parents and I figured it'd be tough with my parents around, but I will get better. Just gotta keep moving along...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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1. you're letting parents get in the way of your approach.. I'd just do it anyway, and if you get rejected, well at least you tried and you showed confidence and bravery approaching someone infront of their family.
2. you don't want to base a girl whether she's interested in you approaching her or not, it's you as the man who decides who you approach.
3. uhhh this could mean alot of things.. like how would you know if she has a boyfriend? she could possibly be creeped out if you're looking at her, she could be shy... she could be checking you out :p

the important thing you should do is not just observe, but interract and actually communicate with girls. a guy who just looks and smiles doesn't have as much confidence as a guy who has the guts to open his mouth speak to somebody new.

take those first steps by opening your mouth... beat that 3 second rule!!
 

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Chicks Just Dig Me said:
1. If a girl is with her parents, how can you approach the girl without her parents thinking your just tryin to get into their daughters pants?
2. If you look and smile at her, and she smiles back does that basically mean she will be interested in you approaching her? And what if she does not smile back--meaning she wants nothing to do with you?
3. When a girl who has a boyfriend is looking at you, taking quick glances, what does that necessarily mean??
1. just do it! say fvck it! introduce urself to the girl and her parent (if the girl is with her dad dont do it). in some places i go the moms will actually ask some random guy to ask me to come talk to their daughter.

2. yes thats one of the main things in approaching. if she smiles back your in and u gotta go up to her. especially if shes walking away and does a double take. if she dont smile, dont waste ur time.

3. it means she wants your c0ck! approach anyway. say fvck it. it might not even be her boyfriend! ask if thats her boyfriend and if it is walk away. its her fault for checking u out.
 
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Okay thanks man. When I usually approach, I do not use any openers--I just introduce myself and ask for her name. I also am concerned of what age they are. I am currently 17 and I am talking to 2 15 yr olds I know from school, so I am a little weary of the age range, idk why though. An can you give me any positives of why I should approach and get rejected, than not approach at all?
 

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If you don't approach, you get rejected automatically.
If you approach and get rejected, you have succeeded in approaching, even though you were rejected.. but who cares, it's just a girl you've only talked to breifly who you probably won't see again.

It's far better to approach because you build confidence and prepare yourself for the ones who won't reject you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
1. you're letting parents get in the way of your approach.. I'd just do it anyway, and if you get rejected, well at least you tried and you showed confidence and bravery approaching someone infront of their family.
you'd do it anyway, yeah. if you were actually put in the situation, would you really though? negatory.
 

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does that mean you shouldn't do it anyway, whoever you are?
 

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Grand Wizzard Alamar said:
does that mean you shouldn't do it anyway, whoever you are?
i did not say that. point is, you can't give advice without really knowing the outcome of your advice.

it's like being poor, and asking poor people for blind-advice on how to get rich.

it's great you know "your" facts, but summarizing the DJBible doesn't mean you can pick up any girl just because you know the facts in the back of your mind.

it's also like a poor person asking for advice from a poor person who has read the manual on how to get rich... but still is poor.

as for my advice, taking chances is a good thing. you had nothing to lose, did you? you're in a different state, what have you got there that would ruin your "reputation" oh-so badly? when you're at the bottom, you can only go up.
 

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Michele said:
i did not say that. point is, you can't give advice without really knowing the outcome of your advice.

it's like being poor, and asking poor people for blind-advice on how to get rich.

it's great you know "your" facts, but summarizing the DJBible doesn't mean you can pick up any girl just because you know the facts in the back of your mind.

it's also like a poor person asking for advice from a poor person who has read the manual on how to get rich... but still is poor.

as for my advice, taking chances is a good thing. you had nothing to lose, did you? you're in a different state, what have you got there that would ruin your "reputation" oh-so badly? when you're at the bottom, you can only go up.
yeah, but the only problem with that is that you don´t know who is actually getting pu$$y on here. The best thing to do is to try everything out yourself.
 

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Michele said:
i did not say that. point is, you can't give advice without really knowing the outcome of your advice.
It's impossible to know the outcome of your advice unless it's taken and used, but the same advice could have different results depending on who the person is and how it's done.

I try to find the best course of action for the desired outcome, and that's my advice... I don't have to do anything to know what to do. I have to do things to get results, whether I like them or not.

Also you're giving generally the same advice that I gave...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My opinion beach approaching is so much easier than street approaching because at the beach people go their to meet new people on the street people might be suprised and as a result they could deny you their number despite the fact that they are attracted to you ( girls are so stupid). When I went to disnety world last summer i got so much even though i wasnt twice as good as i am now. I think another reason beach approaches or vacation approaches are better in general is because Girls are away from the pressure of their friends and society their not worried about the slut label when their on vacation then when your meeting someone on the street. Girls will be their true self when you find them away from their group And a girl's true self is one horny mother****er i can assure you that.
 

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lol i just said something that has nothing to do with the tread if their with their parents dont approach. If your with your parents and your parents are cool with that **** and your not embarrased go for it. Me personally would not approach even if my parents were 200 meters away i just dont feel comfortable with my parents
 

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alright grand wizzard alamar, i'll dumb my last post for you since you replied with irrelevant things,

Michele said:
i did not say that. point is, you can't give advice without really knowing the outcome of your advice.
(don't give advice if you have NO experience.)

it's like being poor, and asking poor people for blind-advice on how to get rich.
(this is a metaphor, it says that the OP should NOT be taking advice from people who have no idea what they are REALLY talking about)

it's great you know "your" facts, but summarizing the DJBible doesn't mean you can pick up any girl just because you know the facts in the back of your mind.
(reading something does NOT mean you know what you're talking about)

it's also like a poor person asking for advice from a poor person who has read the manual on how to get rich... but still is poor.
(this is another metaphor, it says just because you read a book on how to be a god... doesn't mean you will become a god [that was a metaphor too... if you didn't get that])

as for my advice, taking chances is a good thing. you had nothing to lose, did you? you're in a different state, what have you got there that would ruin your "reputation" oh-so badly? when you're at the bottom, you can only go up.
(there is a difference between your advice and my advice. you think you gain or lose points for "showing" courage, bravery and confidence in front of their family. so what? what do those points get you if you get rejected? do things because YOU want to... NOT because you're wanting other peoples approval.)
 

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I'm not wasting time typing..
but this is a really good one: "do things because YOU want to... NOT because you're wanting other peoples approval."

everything else you put in bold is all bullsh*t
 
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