"Be yourself" is false.

[latino158]

How can you BE yourself, when you already ARE yourself? When someone says be yourself, it is implying that you have to DO something to BE. You already ARE yourself right now. This error is also a ego inflation technique

​Example;
I am myself because I DO this and you DO NOT so I > YOU.
Etc.

 

[logicallefty]

Be yourself false if you blue pill.

 

[latino158]

Be yourself false if you blue pill.

age : 40

 

[logicallefty]

The thought process and act of a woman getting fake ( . )( . )s may be "herself", but are the ( . )( . )s herself? Or are they fake?

 

[LuckyStrike88]

How can you BE yourself, when you already ARE yourself? When someone says be yourself, it is implying that you have to DO something to BE. You already ARE yourself right now. This error is also a ego inflation technique

​Example;
I am myself because I DO this and you DO NOT so I > YOU.
Etc.

Narrow minded, good luck with that.

 

[backseatjuan]

How can you BE yourself, when you already ARE yourself? When someone says be yourself, it is implying that you have to DO something to BE. You already ARE yourself right now. This error is also a ego inflation technique

​Example;
I am myself because I DO this and you DO NOT so I > YOU.
Etc.

Let's say around your latino fiends you are all loose goose and fine and alright. But around immigration cops you act different, sir yes sir, no sir, yes sir, here is my ID card. So F man, be yourself with immigration cops!

 

[zekko]

age : 40

I'm 54, if we're taking a poll.

Anyway, I firmly believe in being yourself. Just be your best self. Aspire to be the person you want to be, and always be working toward that. That way, you can absorb and relate to those positive traits that you admire, and consider them part of yourself.

We all have certain charms and a sense of humor. When dealing with women, we have to be relaxed enough around them so that those natural attributes come out. I used to freeze up around attractive girls. I couldn't be myself, because I was too nervous. I was great around guys, and ugly girls, but if a pretty one came in I'd clam up. It took me awhile to get past that. To me, that's what "be yourself" means, being relaxed enough that your true personality shines through.

Now some people want to put on some sort of false PUA-based type of personality. That has never interested me because if a girl becomes attracted to me, I want her to be attracted to ME, not a false front that I'm putting up. I guess if you're just looking for a quick one night stand or something like that, it doesn't really matter.

 

[void957]

Be yourself, only better. Look at your weak points, then strengthen those plateaus. By being yourself, people generally mean that you shouldnt try to copy other people. So look at what youre passionate about, and stick to that. Look at what YOU want to be better at and do that. This all inturn will cause you to be yourself.

 

[LuckyStrike88]

I'm 54, if we're taking a poll.

Anyway, I firmly believe in being yourself. Just be your best self. Aspire to be the person you want to be, and always be working toward that. That way, you can absorb and relate to those positive traits that you admire, and consider them part of yourself.

We all have certain charms and a sense of humor. When dealing with women, we have to be relaxed enough around them so that those natural attributes come out. I used to freeze up around attractive girls. I couldn't be myself, because I was too nervous. I was great around guys, and ugly girls, but if a pretty one came in I'd clam up. It took me awhile to get past that. To me, that's what "be yourself" means, being relaxed enough that your true personality shines through.

Now some people want to put on some sort of false PUA-based type of personality. That has never interested me because if a girl becomes attracted to me, I want her to be attracted to ME, not a false front that I'm putting up. I guess if you're just looking for a quick one night stand or something like that, it doesn't really matter.

Exactly what i mean zekko. It is actually about improving yourself to the point where it works. Even if it is not at the point of perfect PUA guidelines you will be relaxed and comfortable around girls and send out good vibes, and a person like that is fun to be around.

I now take a look at how i have actually changed after 3 years of studying this stuff and all good and bad experiences. What happened is that i can now mercilessly tease women and call them out on there **** whenever they do something i don't like. And am actually legitimately not interested in a girl that girl that is abusive or anything so am willing to walk. Getting to that point and not having the fear of losing her was a big piece for me and took some time. It is still harder on girls i am really into though but it is something i plan to work on.

On the other hand i also have a side that can make stupid jokes, get a little sensitive sometimes. Those things might be against PUA guidelines or whatever but i found that i can do them if as long as it is done with self-confidence it actually doesn't seem to hurt my chances. And i think it actually amplifies your strong sides because you are not all in all only being a badass PUA, she will believe your strong side to be legitimate and see's herself being attracted to that.

I think having the confidence to get a little crazy being you doing things that might not work but not worrying about it communicates strength itself. And i think she knows and will think something along the lines of, damn he is acting crazy doesn't he realize it can hurt his chances with me? Then sees you being confident about it and feeling good for doing those crazy things, good vibes that will make her feel good as well. I get this fear comes naturally and it is not easy to just be confident about it, but only after experiencing it not actually hurting my chances after trying it out a couple of times i got more confident about being able to successfully succeed with it.

 

[No.Danny]

Stop playing the game

 

[Darth]

"Be yourself" is very bad advice if you have fundamental flaws that need addressing. If you are not yet a fully formed person, "be yourself" simply means "be satisfied." That's not good at all.

I've reached a point in my life where I've been through a great deal, I am very satisfied with who I am as a person, so I am naturally "myself" in every situation. But that doesn't mean that's what it took to get to that point-quite the opposite.

I used to be full of anger, sadness, and (especially) fear. Technically, THAT was myself, but I knew better. I knew that myself was the person underneath all that. That's what we have to remember.

People who say "be yourself" are well-intentioned, but they usually miss the mark grossly.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

This is NOT false. It is only misinterpreted. When society tells you to be yourself, it is telling you to not be influenced by others. The essence of what it is saying is don't try to please everybody. Be yourself, yes. Have your own personality and be your own leader. THAT is what they mean by that.

How about 'follow your dreams'? The essence of that proverb is telling you to have a passion, what we promote here.

Society isn't wrong when it tells you these things. YOU are wrong for misinterpreting it though. This place here clears up that misunderstanding though.

And more importantly, don't be yourself. Sometimes I hate it when people say that because they themselves are being themselves yet they aren't happy or confident or are very sensitive. That bothers me. So I say, don't be yourself. Instead, progress yourself. Progress yourself into becoming who you want to be. Only then can you really be yourself. Your true self. Be who you want to be.

 

[Heisenburger]

'Hey big balls, meet me at the bar for 7 lad. Can't wait for this big game tonight. Few beers and all' - being yourself to mates.

'Hey pretty lady, how are you? Hope your well. Do you want to meet up for a drink tonight? It could be fun. Let me know if your interested? Have a great day. Xxxx' - not being yourself to a girl.

Always be yourself.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Not to sound corny, but do what your heart desires

 

[G_Govan]

Being myself meant not molding my persona to please someone else, especially women. I sell myself as I exist and never apologize. I've been called a geek by a couple girls in the past who I ended up sleeping with.

When you are truly confident in who you are you don't have to act or pretend to be something you're not and it feels glorious when you succeed in spite of this. I don't use pick up lines or contrived games with women, I'm straight up about my interest and they can take it or leave it.

Just the other day I watched 2 guys trying to "entertain" a couple girls. Laughing histerically at the very unfunny sh-t they were saying like a couple of lapdogs, giving them their undivided attention. One guy kept saying "Nuh uh, shut up!!," repeatedly. Sounding like a damn chick. I felt embarrassed for him.

 

[zekko]

"Be yourself" is very bad advice if you have fundamental flaws that need addressing. If you are not yet a fully formed person, "be yourself" simply means "be satisfied." That's not good at all.

I don't think "Be yourself" means "Be satisfied" at all. If you have flaws that need addressing, and you are aware of it, and are trying to improve, then you are on a positive track. You can relate to the person you are trying to be, that person is within you.

You can "be yourself" without embracing all of your flaws. I have flaws but I am fighting them. There is no reason to lead with your flaws just because you are trying to be yourself. Be your best self, or to put it another way, be the best side of yourself. You don't say "Oh, sorry, I need to act like a horse's @ss here because I'm trying to be myself".

Now if you are riddled with flaws and don't know it, then maybe "Be yourself" is not good advice. But if you don't know your flaws you have a lot more to worry about than whether or not to be yourself.

 

[LuckyStrike88]

I don't think "Be yourself" means "Be satisfied" at all. If you have flaws that need addressing, and you are aware of it, and are trying to improve, then you are on a positive track. You can relate to the person you are trying to be, that person is within you.

You can "be yourself" without embracing all of your flaws. I have flaws but I am fighting them. There is no reason to lead with your flaws just because you are trying to be yourself. Be your best self, or to put it another way, be the best side of yourself. You don't say "Oh, sorry, I need to act like a horse's @ss here because I'm trying to be myself".

Now if you are riddled with flaws and don't know it, then maybe "Be yourself" is not good advice. But if you don't know your flaws you have a lot more to worry about than whether or not to be yourself.

There is a lot behind being yourself and is easily misinterpreted. It is basically trusting in your own strength so you can let go and let your actions flow naturally. It makes you feel good when you can which will firstly naturally flow out more positive than negative qualities of yourself, but when a flaw does come out and you communicate you are okay with that shows strength itself. It isn't really that bad if you think about it, you'll get feedback out of that and recognize the flaw which allows you to then work on that flaw and improve upon it.

I went out last night with a group of guys and girls i just met. I got pretty drunk and somewhere in the club i lost my footing and fell right on my 4ss. Everybody looked at me, the guys started laughing but the girls where looking at me probably looking how i would respond. As i touched the ground i laughed and made it into some sort of crazy breakdancing move and stood up confidently as the girls laughed their asses off. Even though i made a mistake i actually ended scoring points, i think it is all about how you respond to making a mistake around people as long as you do not let it hit you and get insecure about it it can actually be an opportunity to show strength.

When i've had a situation or day of a lot of flaws coming out i try to be happy about putting myself out there, having identified those flaws so next time ill be better. Therefor struggles can actually be a good thing because if they didn't happen you wouldn't have the chance to improve upon them.

I remember a quote of one of David Deangelo's programs that stuck with me it was somewhere along the lines of "When you fail and feel bad about it. Compare the pain you feel to the lesson you've learned. And you will find that the lesson you learned was well worth the pain."

Because of this i have once shifted the pain of heartbreak to joy. Saying if i didn't lose this HB i may never have learned this really important lesson that is going to serve me greatly in the future. It is therefor invaluable to apply when feeling badly about failing so you can shake it off and improve.

 

[LuckyStrike88]

and the fact that everyone that comes to this site is almost by definition not succeeding without guidance and adjusting their own behavior.

I think there are enough people that succeed but just trying to get even better. Adjusting behavior can work as long as you don't overdo it. What you can also do is learn the materials and find a part of you that relates to a certain technique and let it come from your own. Instead of for example using a canned ****y & funny line make up one of your own on the spot.

But i think that has also happened to people studying this stuff. That they have already picked things up and subconsciously made it a part of themselves. And i think it is a good thing to be aware of.