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Master Don Juan
Fellow potential DJ's, lend me your ears. For he who wants to be himself:
Since being born listening to Western music, movies, and so forth, no doubt you have often heard the mantra that you should "always be yourself." Since coming to this site, you have no doubt been told that when you approach a woman, you should not worry and just be yourself.
But who is that ever elusive self, and how to you 'be' it?
It's actually quite simple.
Let us summon an Average Frustrated Chizump and find out. Speak:
"I am polite, courteous, respectful - that's who I am. I don't disturb the beautiful ladies."
Who is your ideal self?
"A person who never disturbs anyone; polite, courteous, and respectful."
What are your dreams in life?
"To find find a hot, porn-star babe, trick her into marrying me, become rich, and live a life of luxury and sex."
Fair enough. But what about that girl "of your dreams" you've been attempting to appease for the past month, and who now completely ignores you, do you want to be polite and respectful to her?
"Um well yes, er no, but I fear-"
Pick one, poindexter.
"No, I am angry at her for hurting me, but I fear confronting her bec-"
What, society? Her opinion of you? Your reputation?
"No - I fear the person I would become if I did act that way. I fear becoming a despicable person."
What happened when this babe you were trying to appease had an opinion you disagreed with, ignored you, or stood you up? How did you react, and why?
"I kept an obsequious demeanor at all times, for fear of displeasing her."
In other words you wanted to act a certain way, but didn't out of fear, both of losing her and of becoming a person you didn't like?
"Correct."
What about openly confessing your sexual desires to her - how do you feel about that?
"I - I don't think I would know how."
Typical.
One last question. Do you ever dream of being one of those suave men you've perhaps seen from afar, so confident with the ladies, so successful, so attractive? One of those men the women you fantasize about chase?
"Do I ever dream of such confidence, suaveness, and success."
That's enough, be gone.
The AFC did NOT SPEAK HIS MIND when he disagreed. In other words, there was an ideal self within him that screamed for that AFC to make a stand, and he repressed that voice out of terror. Similarly, the AFC was horrified of showing his true sexuality to the woman, even though he surely fantasized about her all the time. Note how some self within him cried for him to ACT, the AFC did not listen.
Let us summon a DJ:
What happens when you disagree with an HB, or when one disrespects you? How do you react?
"I do whatever I feel like, I speak my mind. If one disrespects me, I say whatever I want. Usually, I walk away."
Well put. Why do ladies desire you?
"Because I am myself irrefutably. I speak my mind, I take the women I want, I embrace my sexuality, I live my wildest dreams."
Thank you for your time.
To summarize the point: BEING YOURSELF IS LIVING YOUR DREAMS.
Being yourself is that simple. If your mind dreams of saying something, you say it. If some broad is being dumb, you say "you are dumb." If you want Subway for dinner, you eat Subway. If you dream of having a six-pack, you hit the gym. If you want to approach women, you approach women. I can't tell you who your ideal self is, neither can Pook, anyone on SoSuave - anyone in this ENTIRE WORLD but you. You have to find it inside yourself, burning to live freely, and break the chains of fear that have so long bound it, frustrated at the person you are.
It's easy to say "fear prevents you from being yourself, and from acting and speaking how you want" it's another to know what to do about it. That fear can be paralyzing. But again, no one can tell you how to overcome it, and become yourself - I will post on this soon, but all people can do is DESCRIBE WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO BE FREE, but no one can tell you how to free yourself. You must discover this on your own and no amount of information or 'philosophies' can help you. All anyone can do is tell you that it's wonderful to live freely, and describe what it feels like to break free. But NO ONE can tell you how. You must discover on your own.
Final thought: Be yourself. Be the man of your dreams. They are one and the same.
Izza
Since being born listening to Western music, movies, and so forth, no doubt you have often heard the mantra that you should "always be yourself." Since coming to this site, you have no doubt been told that when you approach a woman, you should not worry and just be yourself.
But who is that ever elusive self, and how to you 'be' it?
It's actually quite simple.
Let us summon an Average Frustrated Chizump and find out. Speak:
"I am polite, courteous, respectful - that's who I am. I don't disturb the beautiful ladies."
Who is your ideal self?
"A person who never disturbs anyone; polite, courteous, and respectful."
What are your dreams in life?
"To find find a hot, porn-star babe, trick her into marrying me, become rich, and live a life of luxury and sex."
Fair enough. But what about that girl "of your dreams" you've been attempting to appease for the past month, and who now completely ignores you, do you want to be polite and respectful to her?
"Um well yes, er no, but I fear-"
Pick one, poindexter.
"No, I am angry at her for hurting me, but I fear confronting her bec-"
What, society? Her opinion of you? Your reputation?
"No - I fear the person I would become if I did act that way. I fear becoming a despicable person."
What happened when this babe you were trying to appease had an opinion you disagreed with, ignored you, or stood you up? How did you react, and why?
"I kept an obsequious demeanor at all times, for fear of displeasing her."
In other words you wanted to act a certain way, but didn't out of fear, both of losing her and of becoming a person you didn't like?
"Correct."
What about openly confessing your sexual desires to her - how do you feel about that?
"I - I don't think I would know how."
Typical.
One last question. Do you ever dream of being one of those suave men you've perhaps seen from afar, so confident with the ladies, so successful, so attractive? One of those men the women you fantasize about chase?
"Do I ever dream of such confidence, suaveness, and success."
That's enough, be gone.
The AFC did NOT SPEAK HIS MIND when he disagreed. In other words, there was an ideal self within him that screamed for that AFC to make a stand, and he repressed that voice out of terror. Similarly, the AFC was horrified of showing his true sexuality to the woman, even though he surely fantasized about her all the time. Note how some self within him cried for him to ACT, the AFC did not listen.
Let us summon a DJ:
What happens when you disagree with an HB, or when one disrespects you? How do you react?
"I do whatever I feel like, I speak my mind. If one disrespects me, I say whatever I want. Usually, I walk away."
Well put. Why do ladies desire you?
"Because I am myself irrefutably. I speak my mind, I take the women I want, I embrace my sexuality, I live my wildest dreams."
Thank you for your time.
To summarize the point: BEING YOURSELF IS LIVING YOUR DREAMS.
Being yourself is that simple. If your mind dreams of saying something, you say it. If some broad is being dumb, you say "you are dumb." If you want Subway for dinner, you eat Subway. If you dream of having a six-pack, you hit the gym. If you want to approach women, you approach women. I can't tell you who your ideal self is, neither can Pook, anyone on SoSuave - anyone in this ENTIRE WORLD but you. You have to find it inside yourself, burning to live freely, and break the chains of fear that have so long bound it, frustrated at the person you are.
It's easy to say "fear prevents you from being yourself, and from acting and speaking how you want" it's another to know what to do about it. That fear can be paralyzing. But again, no one can tell you how to overcome it, and become yourself - I will post on this soon, but all people can do is DESCRIBE WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO BE FREE, but no one can tell you how to free yourself. You must discover this on your own and no amount of information or 'philosophies' can help you. All anyone can do is tell you that it's wonderful to live freely, and describe what it feels like to break free. But NO ONE can tell you how. You must discover on your own.
Final thought: Be yourself. Be the man of your dreams. They are one and the same.
Izza
