Be the Master of Your Domain.

[TitaniumFireBEAR]

Who would give a monkey a loaded gun? Or for that matter, sit them at the controls of a nuclear launching site?

Well, this same scenario happens day in and day out, but not in quite the same context. You see, arming yourself with techniques, pick-ups, and secrets is akin to giving a chimp a weapon of mass destruction.

A famous motivational speaker once said:

"Motivating idiots only gives you a motivated idiot. Find someone intelligent and motivate them."

What we need to do here is work on us, on you, on me. And then go to work on creating a tight and efficient offensive scheme, one that will obliterate the competition, namely women.

Being the master of your Domain begins with...

Creating small goals, which lead to large goals.

Not all of us are created equal [taken straight for the US constutition]. As such, some of us are old, some are young bucks looking for a leg up on the competition, both other AFC men and women. Yet others seek to mentor becase we/they enjoy growing while watching others grow.

Whether you're 6, 16 or 60, we all can grow in be a Master of Our Domain. And it starts small...

Michael Dell, ex-CEO of Dell Inc., started small. He started in his dorm room at a university in Texas creating custom computers and eventually expanded to the scope of a full fledge company.

Bill Gates, current CEO of Microscoft, certainly began working with computers long before he launched his company. He simply took small steps on his way to his larger goal. He began with an interest in computers, pursued that further in his life with HS and College and eventually set out to realize the ultimate goal of bringing it to the public.

Warren Buffet. Do you know Berkshire Hathaway was a failed company that Buffet bought? The world's most renowned investor started his remarkable and record-breaking career by buying a failed company! Can you imagine what his parents might have said were they any of todays' parents? "Why'd you buy that? We told it wouldn't work! Go get a job!" Yet he now is one of Forbes richest people and is ultimately going to pass away as the greatest investor of all time.

These people, much like a ship, took small steps toward their goal.

If you're 16 and play tons of video games, go out an learn how they make them. Or learn how they market them and how the companies bring them to market.

Or what if you enjoy cars and put every nickel, dime, and George Washington into your own MTV pimped out ride? Pick up a magazine and start competing. Or visit a local garage and see if they do after market work. Or better yet, start up an after market garage!

You see, being Master of Our Doman begins with knowing what we like and pursuing that little by little.

Say you enjoy Football. You do several of the following:
-Join a fantasy league.
-Collect cards.
-Get books on Football and learn the offensive and defensive schemes.
-Start a website related to Football.
-Become a Professional Collector.

It is a relevant to your individual interest.

Now, at this point you might say what does this have to do with women?

EVERYTHING.

Would you love a woman who was an empty soul of a person, but possessed a decent body? What makes an interesting woman, someone who you may enjoy dating or marrying, or cohabitating for life?

I would state that if all you want is an empty woman, they're easy enough to find. Many strip clubs have them, certainly going to Canadian clubs, many women will go all the way for a fee, and there are many women out there desiring a man simply for the need to have an identity.

No, what I am presenting is the chance to meet a woman worthwhile for your time and efforts. One who is healthy, both mentally, physically, emotionally, sexually, and financially. One who desires men like you and me, and won't settle for less. One that will know you're set apart from the rest.

You'd be in a position to be the Golden Ticket. You could, in effect, write your own check, i.e. choose whatever woman you want.

However, in the realm of dating we often put the cart before the horse and go search of the best techniques to lay as many women as possible. News flash, these techniques work for those already don't really need them, not for those desperate to use them.

You can take any interest, any goal, and get there by doing something small each and every day.

When a ship sets sail from harbor, it's never on course for the ultimate destination. It corrects each part of the way until you get where you're going. The same principles apples with laser guided missles. They can't be on target, because given the distance, what if something got in the way? Ultimately they would be offline.

What if a ship left Boston heading for Europe on a dead set course to get there and the captain left it alone, at the proper speed and course to get there, what would happen?

Well, odds are weather, wind, and currents would take it adrift and depending on the variables, it might end up in Africa or Antartica.

The same applies with goals. You needn't know where you're going to be in so many years away, but if you want to get anywhere, you must define where you'd like to be tomorrow, in a week, month, or a year. And as such, upgrade and adjust as you conquer each.

When you're young, it's not easy to say "I want to be____." Nor is it easy to ask a girl the same thing. But if she's 20 and plays sports, you could ask her:

"How do you like Softball?"
"Do you want to play in college?" Etc...
"What's been the most exciting moment in Softball for you?"

Even most people don't have that many goals outlined, be it adult or youth. But, you can get an idea of where someone is going. And if they really can't answer that, do you want to tie your boat off to someone only adrift in life?

Once you know where you're going, you get rid of stragglers, women or men, that hold you back from where you want to go. We all have them, but don't realize it. I had them years ago. Friends who, though to me were O.K., really weren't doing alot. We'd drink at hole-in-the-wall bars as a group of 20 or so week in and week out. We knew everyone. And here I was degree in hand, going along with them because I was doing as all the rest were getting the same results. Well you know what? That might have been O.K. for them, but not for me. Today, many of those friends ended up fathering children with women they're no longer with and losing jobs that I helped them get. They were irresponsible from the get-go. It's O.K. to be young and have fun, but on the flip side we all need to own to the responsibility we owe to certain people.

Moving onward....

 

[TitaniumFireBEAR]

Continuation.

In sales, my mentor says...

"The old days of Sales Techniques are dead. The reality we must find out what the buyer desires to achieve, want, or need and give it to him as best we can."

Techniques are merely used as simple fixes, but not permanent solutions. They rarely garner any true sense of trust, which is what you want when dealing with friends or women.

Techniques are bad, especially in sales, because you can "sense" them. From people who might be using them, but are coming from a place of oneness to themselves, you recieve it O.K.

For instance, my other boss/mentor is a Professional at C&F, yet you wouldn't know it. It's his personality day in and day out, and he can charm the pants off any woman. His 2nd wife, a captivating, yummy blonde does anything for him. She calls him at work to check on him, she makes his launches, buys his clothes, and admires him like no other. This man, who is also a great friend, is average, but it's personality that makes ANY person say WOW ! I BS you not. He's dated women half his age. What's his secret?

There isn't one.

He's perfectly happy doing what he does, playing professional poker (even played against Johnny Chan, see rounders or Late night WPT), and being INTO LIFE. He's not shaken by daily events, he works through them. While our secretary might blow up over something minor, he's plotting the solution. There's no time for whining, crying, or *****ing. Simply, put, what's the problem, let's get the solution.

No...we need a process, some system to work toward. Now, we all have passions, those things in which time is of no consequence. Alternatively, there are things we know we should do, but don't, like take care of our bodies and minds.

Is it any wonder why so few succeed in life? Everything we buy and do comes with instructions, usually. But when it comes to the mind, body, and spirit no such set of instructions is given. We are left to our own devices, families, society, TV, magazines, hype, media, span email, friends, coaches, teachers to make what we can of life, yet not claim any personal control.

I say this...wake up tomorrow morning, or this matter, and take control of what you desire. If you enjoy music, but your family says to go corporate, screw it! You'll make more money and be happier doing what you love. Leave the other stuff to someone else! Take a look at what you love and put all of yourself into it. True genius will be the brainchild of those efforts.

When you finally get there, and feel the control you exert over yourself, over life, you'll get all you desire of the women. All the techniques will enable you reach levels never before known.

Consider golf. In golf, we master the basics. Grip, Stance, Posture, and a few minor swing movements. Then we add in speed, hip turn, and delayed release. We more technical. The starting point is this, though.

Basics, Hit the ball
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Intermediate, Add Distance
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Advanced, Shape your Shots Toward the Pin

We can't learn to shape a shot until we learn to get off the first tee. Yet, so many of us are looking for that. It's not going to happen, my friends. That's like looking for the "perfect business" but never having been "in business." No matter how perfect it may sound, odds are, you could run the "perfect" business into the ground if you never have run a business. Wouldn't you agree?

Now...changes only have to be small, to make an Exponential Impact.

Marketing Guru Jay Abraham outlines his strategy for an increase in Revenue, and for the sake of the analogy, I'll outline it with numbers, THEN with Real World examples for you DJ's.

It's something like this, not etched in stone:

# of Customers x $Amount Bought x #of times they buy= Total Gross.

Now, in sales, with a company, you can:

1. Increase the amount of customers you get. If you average 100 Customers/Yr. Then a mere 10% increase is 110 for that year, or less than 1 per month.

2. Increase the amount they spend. If each customer spends $100, then a 10% increase results in $110 spent.

3. Let's say the average customer buys 1 per year. Then a 10% increase would be 1.1 times per year.

Now...after my example of a 10% increase, which requires little effort you effectively go from

$10,000 per year to...

$13,310/ year.

Your simple 10% increase in each area resulted in a 33.31% increase overall!!!!

How much effort would it really take for you to do that? Some may say, give 100% more, but it isn't needed. Work on small steps and you get a large effect.

Now...let's say life is more complex, but by applying the same concept you get.

Financial x Dating/Relationships x Health/Style x Professional =
Your Measure of Success

{Caveat: Each person will have different values, but I need to simplify for the sake of concepts}

Financial:
-Begin cutting debt
-Start a savings plan to retire young and rich
-Acquire assets
-Move out and buy a home

Dating/Relationships
-You start approaching 1/woman per week more than you did.
-Log onto a dating website and increase your dating exposure.
-Visit "female" hot spots
-Begin reading dating books, sexuality, etc.

Healthy/Style
-Get a new haircut and find a new hair stylist.
-Begin working out.
-Check out new clothing styles appropriate for your body type.
-Research colognes that fit your body chemistry.

Professional
-Work toward a designation, certification, or Degree
-Join a networking group to further yourself in your chosen path.
-Hook up with other like minded people in your community to advance
-Start at a new location.

Can you see where 1 new thing 1 new habit changes your whole life? You as a person will be different from day one, because you've chosen to walk a different line. You've chosen to go in a direction and move. Because, as you see....

You're either growing or dying.

Isn't that natures way?

A tree, plant, animal, never stays stagnant. It grows and matures like anything else, if it doesn't it dies. The same applies to the hunt of the gazel vs the young lion. The lion is either faster than the gazel or the gazel is faster than the lion, but those simple concepts determine the survival of each species.

As humans, as men, we're growing or dying based on what we're doing. If we're going into debt, we're dying financially. Time, interest, inflation, and a general lack of interest in any profession will place us far behind other people, and men, and what woman would be with a man who's only going to drag her down? You wouldn't be with a woman who was going in reverse, would you?

If you're drinking yourself to stupification every night, you're dying healthy-wise, albeit slow or fast. You'll get diabetes at some point, or totally kill the fitness plan, or kill your budget, or your liver, or yourself in an accident. It's one thing to imbibe the god juices at fiestas and other events, but America has made drinking a hobby. Don't agree? Check a search on AOL of how many people have drinking, partying, or smoking in their profiles nowadays. When did partying ever become a hobby? I would say, if you're P. Diddy, it's a hobby, because he THROWS the party for mega millionaires, but if you're a drunk at local tavern who knows every regular, then you just have a habit and don't see reality.

None of this contingent on believing in a higher power or not. If you do, it certainly gives you more insight into life, because God wants more for you, and if you're willing to work for it, then he'll give it to you. But if you don't believe or have another higher power, wouldn't they, too, want goodness for you. And if you don't believe, don't you want the best you can get?


B.E.A.R.

 

[Jippii]

You outlined the thought that I was having earlier nicely.

I was thinking that I shouldn't be learning tons of specific techniques and lines from here.

Instead, I should read them and draw more knowledge from them and apply them to my personality when appropriate and congruent with my goals. I should "work" on myself.

The change comes from within, and in my opinion here's the magic word: desire.


By the way, Bill Gates is a college drop-out. He knew what he wanted and pursued it.

 

[TitaniumFireBEAR]

Re:

Correct.

A Harvard University dropout.


B.E.A.R.