Assuming that you are self-validated and have fun regardless of women; here is how you screen women:
1. Charming enough? If Yes, Value 20% No; 0%
2. Personality interesting/ Fun person/ Not dependent on you/ Self-validated/Not Needy? If Yes, Value 20% No; 0%
If she passes those; she is still only maximum a 40%. Not good enough.
The important thing is;
3. How does she make you feel? Is she making your life better than when you are on your own? Is she nurturing you and building you up? 5 times or more as often as she is challenging you to be a better person? Does she make it easy for you, but still kidding with you? Do you know that she is supportive, but make life hard for you just for fun/for spicing up the relationship?
If she is making your life better, and making you feel good without doubt, she might approch 60%, and 100% in total. Then she has a lot of value for you and is a keeper. At least for a while. Read other posts for keeping her if you want to.
If she is making your life full of doubt, "testing" you, and make you feel insecure, she is not adding to your life and of course has a value close too 0% on this parameter. And maximum 40% in total.
So, if you are losing her....she is obviously no loss! How can losing someone with a low value for you being a loss?
Do not your ego let you believe that a pretty face, and good personality, is a loss if she is not making you feel good. Don't chase bad prospects. Have fun, and move on.
Demand value from her. If she does not give it consistently, move on!!
No compromise! Let her work for you, at least as much as you work for her!
Lastly, this also work the other way around. Your charm counts only that much, and your personality only that much. Does you add to her life, and help her realize her potential, and make her feel good? Are you both loving (affection) & challenging (attraction)?
Have fun, be social and make connections. Look the girls in the eyes a little too long, and smile. If she smiles back, pursue!!
If she doesn't smile back, move on and pursue others. It doesn't matter. Say; "whatever", and move on. Have fun ALL THE TIME, and NEVER let anyone's (temporary) disinterest bring you down!
1. Charming enough? If Yes, Value 20% No; 0%
2. Personality interesting/ Fun person/ Not dependent on you/ Self-validated/Not Needy? If Yes, Value 20% No; 0%
If she passes those; she is still only maximum a 40%. Not good enough.
The important thing is;
3. How does she make you feel? Is she making your life better than when you are on your own? Is she nurturing you and building you up? 5 times or more as often as she is challenging you to be a better person? Does she make it easy for you, but still kidding with you? Do you know that she is supportive, but make life hard for you just for fun/for spicing up the relationship?
If she is making your life better, and making you feel good without doubt, she might approch 60%, and 100% in total. Then she has a lot of value for you and is a keeper. At least for a while. Read other posts for keeping her if you want to.
If she is making your life full of doubt, "testing" you, and make you feel insecure, she is not adding to your life and of course has a value close too 0% on this parameter. And maximum 40% in total.
So, if you are losing her....she is obviously no loss! How can losing someone with a low value for you being a loss?
Do not your ego let you believe that a pretty face, and good personality, is a loss if she is not making you feel good. Don't chase bad prospects. Have fun, and move on.
Demand value from her. If she does not give it consistently, move on!!
No compromise! Let her work for you, at least as much as you work for her!
Lastly, this also work the other way around. Your charm counts only that much, and your personality only that much. Does you add to her life, and help her realize her potential, and make her feel good? Are you both loving (affection) & challenging (attraction)?
Have fun, be social and make connections. Look the girls in the eyes a little too long, and smile. If she smiles back, pursue!!
If she doesn't smile back, move on and pursue others. It doesn't matter. Say; "whatever", and move on. Have fun ALL THE TIME, and NEVER let anyone's (temporary) disinterest bring you down!