Be open with sexuality? How open?

[SoonToBeDJ]

I see that as a DJ you need to be open with your sexuality to girls, not just any of them, but also the ones your dating. So my question is this, how open should you be? I am a virgin and am 17 years old I haven't had many relationships with girls and that's what I am trying to improve on. So if I am on a date with a girl and if the conversation of sexuality comes up how open should I be with it, I mean I don't think I should just come out and say "im a virgin." How should I carry myself in a conversation about sexuality when I have little experience.

Also, how open should I be about sexuality with an older girl say 1 or 2 years older than me? I just need some guides so I won't f up if the situation came up. I am currently trying to improve my social skills, being funny with a sharp wit, I learned that a reason I am not that good with conversations is because through the whole conversation with a girl I am constantly thinking "is this how the bible said I should do it" now I just let it flow out and it has helped a lot because I have found out that I already do what I should do, I just need to tinker it up a bit. That's my tip towards everyone having trouble conversing, stop thinking so much and just go with the conversation and when something that is funny to you comes up just expound on it and if it's not funny to the other person make it funny.

 

[NRM]

Well, believe it or not, but a lot of 17 year olds do not have sexual experience. And yes, being a DJ does mean you recognize your sexuality and do not suppress it as AFC's do hoping to trick a girl into bed by their cute "I'm not just using you for sex" routine.

I find it's best NOT to discuss sex with a woman. Joke it off, say something along of the lines of "I hope you aren't just trying to find out how good I am in bed without going first-hand, I'm not that easy." Good C+F. But get the topic changed quickly.

You need to display your sexuality through body language, your seductive tone of voice, and lots of kino. You want her to know that you're a sexual creature and want a physical relationship. Being open about sexuality to girls does NOT mean that you have to talk about it. She'll know that if you play your cards right and getting her pouncing on you the second you close the door to your room.

Personally, I believe discussing sex with a woman is kind of awkward and rude at such a young age. In the future, you can probably bring up conversations after a few dates about sexual positions and whatnot, but depending on who you're with, it still may be awkward. Just do a lot of C+F about being good in bed, and she'll be craving you before you know it. Good luck.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

yeah, change the subject on sex if it arises. Normally when you talk about sex with your buddies its like "s*ck ****, anal c*nt, big booty, big jugs" and other vulgarities and so when it comes to talking about it with girls, you will feel awkwards because you are used to being kinda vulgar about it, and with the girl, it might offend her or some stupid sh*t....

so just display your sexuality through action and subtleness like described previously.

 

[JSH]

^as NRM said.

But my two pence:

I am in a similar situation to you, although it is rapidly changing, im still undecided if i actually want to lose it (its nice havin the luxury of the choice now).

For me being open about your sexuality, is more in this sites idea of being a man and not being afraid of it. Do not muzzle yourself or control (well obviously do not break the law), but do not be scared of women and their influence. It helps (although is not a good mind frame) to think of them as a piece of meat, an object that you want to go get. This is a typical Jerk attitude, however, do not be a jerk about it, just use the attitude.

As Dimebag did ^ treat the issue softly and delicately.

Also it wont really come up in conversation unless you lead it that way,, if the conversation is going that way, steer it away. Do not act like you are frightened of the subject but there is no need for it to be brought up. Be confident and you can get away with anything.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Hmmm. be open with your sexuality by skirting around the issue? Sounds a little contradictory to me. What better way to get chicks thinking of fvcking then to talk about it. Alas don't dwell on the topic as if your life depends on it, but if they start talking sexually to me, I hit em back and let em know I'm game. As males we are supposed to exude our emotions more openly than our sexually frustrated, coy counterparts.

I'm not saying you start a conversation with a recent discovery of new pubic hairs (though that would be funny) Just if the conversation starts to reel towards a sexually based topic, don't back down, BE A MAN about it. If you act ashamed of being a virgin, then she will look down on you for it.

 

[Bombshell]

when no one is around whip your huge wang out of your pants and say Git 'R Done!!!!!!

 

[Microphone Fiend]

I was reading the DJ bible and saw this and thought of you. the HS bible is your friend, read it

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=28956

 

[Heizen]

Sexuality is a touchy issue, and most times it is different for every girl.

At least in my opinion, not shying away from sexuality means being open about it. You can talk about sex without being vulgar about it. Most times being the kind of person I am, I dont shy away from making jokes about sexuality or someones looks (to an extent). When you use it the right way, both of you can get a laugh out of it and it kind of takes a girl down from her pedistal; its just experience that tells you what to say and how far to take it.

Like I had this conversation with a girl yesterday that I was interested in. I was talking to her about coming for a ride on the back of my motorcycle with me. She wanted a ride but wasnt sure if it was safe.

Her: Are you sure its going to be safe to give me a ride?

Me:Sure, its not going to be that bad anyways, you are going to be riding a vibrating machine with me for a half an hour, how bad can it be?

Her:Haha, alright.

Its all in how you talk about it and the delivery. I dont think being open with your sexuality means talking to her about how you like to get a girl off, its just showing her that if it comes up you dont shy away from it and let it become awkward. After all, if you can laugh about it then it shows that it isnt really weird to talk about anymore.

In the end that is what a real DJ does; He can adapt to any situation and never lets things become awkward.

 

[ak5]

are you serious?
its not really what u say but how u say it

be c+f

'ive been preserving my self for sum1 speical' <--usually chicks say this and if u take her role, guess who shes gunna follow

'ive had my share' <- be vague

etc