"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Be Aggressive! (FR + tips and analysis)

ShizamDaMan

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I suppose I'll put the tip at the beginning and the FR/explanation and example at the end as to not bore everyone.

I know it's been said a million times, but it is your job as the man to BE AGGRESSIVE! Find what you want, make your plan to get it, and then follow the plan. Don't apologize for this; it is your nature as a man with fully functional testicles to get what you want. Anyone who doesn't understand this is probably an AFC or a woman. Girls really like it when you are focused and collected. To do this is to show your qualities as a leader, and more importantly a man.

Now, here is why I say this... :rolleyes:

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Anyway, after finally getting my crap together this quarter, I decided it was time to get back into the game. Mechanical engineering is no joke, mind you.

Anyway I was going out with some friends to a dual 21st birthday party for my two friends Julia and Kim. I had invited this girl I knew from last quarter. Hadn't talked to her in about 6-7 weeks since she moved off of my part of campus. Feedback was good over the phone, and I could tell she was very interested.

My friends and I smoked before going to get her. I was fairly ripped when I picked her up. She gave me a big hug and told me I was looking good (I was in my party getup: blazer, t-shirt, Lugz boots) and I told her thanks. We went to meet my friends and then we were off.

During the party we were on each other for the whole time. She was always on my lap, the kino was good, lots of teasing and flirting. Good times were had by all.

I put down about 7 beers and then went outside to smoke again, which probably wasn't the best of ideas. It was a party, and I wanted to have a good time.

After smoking we went back inside and I had another beer. Went to the bathroom, came back and saw my girl waiting for me. She asked me to grab her a beer, so I went to the fridge and grabbed a Natty and a Bud Light in a bottle. Tried to hand her the Natty, and she was like "Hey! I want the Bud!" I tell her "Now why should I give you this Bud, what have you done to earn it?" She says "I'm cute!" I reply "No, seriously. Why do you deserve it?" with my C+F grin. To make this part short, I told her the only reason she got it was because I was doing her a personal favor.

After that, she said "Let's go." I asked where, and she said she wanted to go back to her place. I said "OK, fine by me."

Now by this point, I am ****ed up out of my mind. She is good, only had 3 or 4 beers. We go back to her place and I'm kinda spacing out on her bed trying to get my **** together. She talks on AIM a little, and then says "I wonder if Doug is still up!" She runs down the hall, and brings her friend Doug back. He kinda looks at me, and figures out what's goin on ;)

At this point, I was completely passive since I was fairly trashed. I got up to look at some posters, and she jumped on her bed while Doug jumped on the top bunk. I say "You better scoot over girl, I need a place to sleep." They both kinda look at me and the guy is like "OK..." I decide to go to the bathroom down the hall.

I come out, and see Doug walkin to his dorm room past me. I was like "Cya dude." with a grin. I go to her door and turn the handle.

Locked. I got locked out, lol.

Knocked on the door a couple times, then gave up and began to walk home. Not one of the more fun walks I've had, but at least being wasted made the 20 degree weather bearable.

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The point is I was doing great while I was sober, but as I continued to get f*cked up I became too passive. I lost my fire and mellowed out too much. While this normally isn't a bad thing, I should have picked it up when I got the invite to the bedroom. It's my own fault, I'll be the first to admit.

I suppose I still have a chance with this girl. Perhaps we'll get together when I'm not completely drunk and high, but for now she's going onto the back burner.

Sparknotes: Be agressive, and go easy on the drugs/alcohol :cool:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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