Be a pimp or have a gf?

[Ian Gots Game]

I have always been kind of a player and had a player mindset with girls. I never thought I would get "attached" to any to any one girl and actually brag about that. But there is this girl that I hooked up with at the begginning of the year that I still have a HUGE crush on. She is really shy and we were kind of bfgf for a while but now I think Ive screwed things up because we barely talk. Should I go for her? How? Or should I try to get her out of my head and remain a player? Please give me some feed back

 

[Scott]

you might aswell have a go at a relationship
you never know, you might like it!

 

[TDOT]

It sounds like you have oneitis meaning you can't think about anyone else but her or at least that is the direction that you heading in.

If that is the case, you need to maintain your player mindset.
Everywhere you go approach and talk to other females.

I'm assuming that you messed things up with her because she found out that you were a player. If that is the case then, you have to convince her that you have changed. If she likes you this can be easily done. Just start talking to her alot on the phone and let her know what you are doing everynight. Girls who want to know how faithful you are like to know what you are doing at all times so don't be afraid to call her up just to tell her what you are doing.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

You're ****ing choice. What the hell do you wanna do huh? How come people haven't figured that out yet, it's what YOU wanna do!

 

[Ian Gots Game]

Thanks
TDOT: No, I didn't play her (which is aMazing). she is VERY shy but HOT and I used to tease her a lot and she played along and liked it but I went to far. Anyways we just stopped calling and talking etc.
I don't even know how or if I should approach her again. If I should act like were good friends, ex bf, or if we just met. She will never just start talking to ANYONE let alone me and her signals are hard to read.

 

[Ratman]

dont listen to these guys comments tbh do what YOU want to do

 

[Jerky Boi]

You'll never really know if you want to be in a relationship unless you try it. Some girls are more "long term material" than others. So, don't set yourself up for a fall unless you really think she's worth it. But, if you're used to just jumping from girl to girl, and you're having fun with that, then why change for someone you really don't know a lot about?


Basically, you THINK you have a lot of strong feelings for this girl but in reality, it's just a good ole' fashioned case of one-itis. Keep in touch with her, but don't come off too clingy, whatever you do. All in all, as the other guys said, IT'S COMPLETELY UP TO YOU.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

Originally posted by Ratman
dont listen to these guys comments tbh do what YOU want to do

Is it me, or do I hear an echo?

 

[Ian Gots Game]

Whatever. I know its up to me, i just asked some advice like how I would approach a girl I havent talked to in a while

 

[stumpy_mcgee]

I think there's lots of ways of talking to her again. You could phone her out of the blue, but she probably won't be too responsive of that. You could say hi to her whenever you see her. It'll probably make her wonder for awhile about you, and you can check her response as well.
Personally, when I was in your situation, the girl and I were just together in the gym with a few people. My one friend started bugging her about something, I chimed in, and the three of us started up a funny conversation. As I went over to do sit ups, I asked her to come over, we ended up talking about why we just stopped speaking to each other. My buddy came over again, so her and I left to take a walk. Well, the walk ended with us kissing. It's all up to you though, and there's plenty of different ways you could approach her.

 

[Ian Gots Game]

Thanks

Tight tight stumpy.
Funny story; I went up to her in the hall today and said, ''excuse me" she looked at me. "you're really cute. Are you new?" She laughed and was like, "funny". And I stuck out my hand and said, "I'm Ian". She shook it, smiled and said, "I'm _____". She was blushing and I could tell she was flattered and a little confused. I said "Nice to meet you''. She kept holding my hand and eye contact for like 15 seconds after we stopped talking!
I think its a start. I am even more whipped on her now and I'm not sure if this is what I want. But she is SO F***ing HOT!