Bday coming up. Need help with a chick I ****ed up with.

[NoClue]

Ok, so here is the story. Prior to reading anything on here there was this chick I liked. I did everything you're not supposed to pretty much. I was even drunk one night and told her that I really liked her online. I know, I know, major screw up. Well, I've been trying to dig my way out of that hole I dug. Let me tell you it's one deep freaking hole. I've been stand offish and just not talking to her as much. She has picked up on this cause several times that we have been out with people she has asked what's wrong.

Anyhow, my bday is coming up and a bunch of us are going out to celebrate and what not. I'm thinking of telling her, not asking, that I need a bday kiss. I'm assuming she'll lean in and give me a kiss on the chick to which I say I meant a real kiss. As she goes in for the kiss I'll lean in like I'm going for the kiss then pull back, look her in the eyes, and say nevermind, it's not worth it. And then walk away and continue on like nothing happened.

What do you guys think? Opinions, tips, flames, whatever. I'm sure it will help.

 

[Bloke]

I don't know what to do. BUT, if you did that IL would go through the Ozone layer.

Just ask yourself is she really worth the effort

 

[NoClue]

Originally posted by Bloke
I don't know what to do. BUT, if you did that IL would go through the Ozone layer.

Just ask yourself is she really worth the effort

Don't know what IL means so I'm not sure what the first statement means. Sorry.

As far as her being worth it, at this moment and time I do believe she is worth it. To an extent.

 

[NoClue]

Just figure out what IL means. And I'm hoping that's what will happen. That's why I'm going to try this.

 

[NoClue]

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[Desdinova]

IL = Interest Level

You have one-itis. The chances of turning a friendship into a relationship are extremely low. You're better off to focus your energy on a different chick.

 

[NoClue]

Originally posted by Desdinova
IL = Interest Level

You have one-itis. The chances of turning a friendship into a relationship are extremely low. You're better off to focus your energy on a different chick.

How is that having one-itis? Right now I don't have a lot of game so I figured I would test this out and see how it works out on her. I still talk to other chicks when I'm out. It's not like I'm spending the whole night with her.

 

[Docs]

Where the hell did one-itis come from. From the beginning of this thread, it was stated that he wanted to pull a test on her.

Honestly, one-itis is when you're stuck on a girl and you got no options anywhere, not some random girl that you failed with at one point and want to test her for kicks.

I think it's time for the bumping of a old thread of definitions...

 

[NoClue]

Originally posted by Docs
Where the hell did one-itis come from. From the beginning of this thread, it was stated that he wanted to pull a test on her.

Honestly, one-itis is when you're stuck on a girl and you got no options anywhere, not some random girl that you failed with at one point and want to test her for kicks.

I think it's time for the bumping of a old thread of definitions...

That's what I was thinking. I'm just hoping to get some tips and ideas on what I'm going to do.

 

[Desdinova]

Why do you need to "test out" a chick that has already rejected you? There's thousands of girls out there to "test out". Why do you need to do it to this one? What makes her so damn special to be privelaged to give you a birthday kiss (or even be teased with one)? Why did you ask for "help" if you're not wanting a successful rendezvous?

Right now I don't have a lot of game so I figured I would test this out and see how it works out on her. I still talk to other chicks when I'm out.

"Testing things out" is less likely to be successful with women who are not attracted to you. You're trying to work things backwards with the "friends first" bull5hit. Starting on a fresh girl is going to give you much more positive results. If you want to work on your game, you need to get the basics down. Approach, attract, number close. You won't exterminate your fear of approaching and closing women if you work on someone you're already comfortable with.

 

[Docs]

Good point raised desa, but I'd still test the girl then not, it's only a kiss, not like a date..or money right?

 

[NoClue]

Originally posted by Desdinova
Why do you need to "test out" a chick that has already rejected you? There's thousands of girls out there to "test out". Why do you need to do it to this one? What makes her so damn special to be privelaged to give you a birthday kiss (or even be teased with one)? Why did you ask for "help" if you're not wanting a successful rendezvous?



"Testing things out" is less likely to be successful with women who are not attracted to you. You're trying to work things backwards with the "friends first" bull5hit. Starting on a fresh girl is going to give you much more positive results. If you want to work on your game, you need to get the basics down. Approach, attract, number close. You won't exterminate your fear of approaching and closing women if you work on someone you're already comfortable with.

The reason for the test is because, I believe, part of the rejection was because of me doing everything you are no supposed to. I want to see if it changes how she acts around me. I guess you could say it's me testing out what I've read. And again, I repeat, it's not like I'm not approaching other chicks.

And I appreciate the advise...this is the reason I made the post.

 

[The Juan and only]

I would go ahead with your plan....I mean, what have you got to lose?


and btw lol...doesn't anyone on this forum know how to spell "advice"..its a fricking C damnit!

 

[NoClue]

Originally posted by The Juan and only
I would go ahead with your plan....I mean, what have you got to lose?


and btw lol...doesn't anyone on this forum know how to spell "advice"..its a fricking C damnit!

Thanks for the advise.

 

[godjwood]

hey dude im in the same situation. almost looks like a post i woulda put up.
i did the same thing, did everythign wrong chased a chick for almost a year and then just got fed up and stopped talking to her.
girl said we were only friends.

but randomly the other night after we hadnt talked in 3 weeks... she called me up at three in the morning and told me she was comming over. we made out and i probably could have gotten more.

now wwere not talking again...

but i would say move on, really, dont try at all anymore and focus all that energy into forgetting about her, and if she wants you shell come back for you.

 

[Rex Man]

That's gold but it's gonna be garbage and here's why.

When you think of stuff days in advance it becomes 'material' and you begin doing a 'routine'. If you're that confident and whatnot you should be able think of stuff to shoot'er down (Rex Man TM) on the spot. You're not a performer, you shouldn't have material.