"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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basic social skills ie CONVERSING WITH A GROUP.

shadowfox

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Ok there are some parts of my game i would like advice on clearing up;

Something i find happening is i can talk to someone VERY EASILY 1 ON 1. Im confident, funny and basicly having a good time. However when socialising as part of a group my game is probably WEAKEST. [Please note i'am a recovering shy person].

Groups of more than 3 people are EXTREMELY HARD. I want to lead the conversation but i find myself interupting people and basicly acting awkward when trying to fit in i then find myself withdrawing from the conversation and i think thats why people still think im quiet from first impressions but when they get to know me then its alright.

THE Confident person who gets the girls can enter a group and can easily get a conversation going with everyone, have fun get them laughing and basicly be a leader and this is who i want to be/ get this part of my game handled.
Any advice here on improving my game here?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Always have an opinion and even if only you thinks its important, say it
 

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Muphaser said:
Always have an opinion and even if only you thinks its important, say it
I'd be careful with this one. Being overly opinionated really isn't attractive to anyone, be they your friends, girls you want to date or anyone else.
 

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If you're opening a new set, keep your important beliefs to yourself (politics, religion, etc). However, when socializing, remember that it is 100% confidence. If anyone sense a drop of shyness in you, you have already blown out the set. The more practice you have, the more confident you will be. Keep approaching sets even if you don't feel you are making much progress. As long as you mentally go through the set again, and see where you lost the set, what you can do to improve. Approach, approach, approach.
 
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