Originally posted by davelmn2003
Turn that into a positive attitude. I try to do it by saying to myself: well now you're in your prime, and if you don't act now, you will regret for not being more bold around women when you sit in that wheelchair 40 years from now!! You'll look back to your youth and wonder why you weren't being more courageous then? It's now or never! So carry on, be bold around women, don't think negative thoughts, and if you do, imagine you're an old man who laments all the lost opportunities..now come back to reality and..whew! You still have that look, that energy, that future ahead of you. Now you should be less fearful of rejection...
Actually, for me, that's not a positive thought. It's probably one of my biggest fears, that I won't be young forever and I'm running out of time. I'm afraid of getting old, afraid of turning into that old man you describe. I'm already 24, for God sakes, and time just seems to be whizzing by. If something doesn't happen soon, I'm either going to be alone for the rest of my life or end up with some desperate woman who's just settling for me because she wants to get married, start a family, have someone to support her, etc. I'm already looking back on when I was younger and I must say I regret most of it. I see my brother, 17, with all his friends and girlfriends and I say if only I could have been like that, I'd be much happier now. But I can't change the past, and now I'm living with the consequences. Whenever I think I may have a chance with a girl, but nothing ends up happening (which always seems to be the case), I hear that clock ticking, and it really worries me. So then, if this bothers me so much, why can't I seem to do anything about it?
Anyway, that was a bit off topic. I am still a college student, so I just may have more chances when the semester starts back up in the fall. Although I've been in college for nearly seven years already and nothing has happened. Maybe next semester will be different.
But that is why I am searching for alternatives right now, because there are very few opportunities for me in the summer. Right now I'm interested in hearing, not necessarily about specific places, although this would be helpful too, but ways in which people have met women they've dated or had a relationship with. Anything to give me more insight on how to go about it.
