Hi I was out at a club last night and this is the hardest domain to master I have found. I have no problem getting numbers and dates by meeting women in unexpected places like the street or starbucks or in stores but bars and clubs are a whole different ball game. Does anyone have any tips on how to strike up a conversation or make an approach in a club?
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
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white cloud 8
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Follow the 3-second rule, if an attractive girl or any girl for that matter makes eye contact with you for 3 seconds or more the, go over and talk to her.
Ye i thought about this but what do I say when i approach? Usually in other settings I use an opinion opener on a humorous topic. I don't think this would work in the loud atmosphere of a club though. Any suggestions of how to open in a bar or club?
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
Say something like "I noticed you looking at me, which is understandable I mean, look at me", flaunt yourself jk. 
Just start asking her open ended questions "Do you come here often?", "What's your favorite drink?" etc.
Just start asking her open ended questions "Do you come here often?", "What's your favorite drink?" etc.Ok thanks for the help I will try those next time. Another one I heard a while back that I think could be appropriate is if a girl looks at you and you walk over and say something like ''Are you shy or something, cos I have been standing there and you didn't come over and say hi. I feel unloved.'' You think this would be appropriate in the situation?
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wow, no.Originally posted by white cloud 8
Say something like "I noticed you looking at me, which is understandable I mean, look at me", flaunt yourself jk.
TurboLover
Senior Don Juan
I sometimes open with: Hey, I like your style and wanted to meet you. or I noticed you earlier....blab blab
Then ask with who they are up there with. So if they say bf you can move on.
Later follow with where they are from, if they stay far away, then you might want to see how far you can get with them.
Also hit the dance floor, and mack there.
Then ask with who they are up there with. So if they say bf you can move on.
Later follow with where they are from, if they stay far away, then you might want to see how far you can get with them.
Also hit the dance floor, and mack there.
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I like to start conversations with everybody so that women feel comfortable coming up and talking to me. I try to start a little party around me and include random people. Usually all of the nice guys will do the pulling and intros for me so I can sit back and take my pick. Then when I find a girl I like, I take her on the dance floor to isolate or tell her to come get a drink with the me. That way all her friends should be occupied with the nice guys and I have her isolated.