"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Barmaid pays your drinks

Von

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So I am a regular at a classy spot in town.... noticed this barmaid a couple of time, she noticed me.

Tonight I passed in to have a late night snack and drink to help sleeping.

We are a few in the place, she the only barmaid (servicing). I sit at her bar.

I order my stuff and than for a whole 1 hour, we speak. I think she has a boyfriend cause she mentionned to a coworker some weird stuff going with a guy (ex-lover? Bf?) and the worker said the pic on the phone was her BF (but I never saw a pic or asked, it was during a talk between co-workers)

Anyway, the weather is getting nice, no more snow, I am having a great late night snack + drink and I am a regular.

We talk about stuff, we love... than a bit of the weather (cause no snow in February is exceptional for us Canadians)... I said '' If you nice, I will bring you to the city view and feel the freshness of the air (cityview is the view of the entire city from the woods uphill)

Anyway, I ordered 2 more glass and she gave me a shooter. Now, when I came to pay.... she only put my snack + 1 glass (my original order)

Did she act nice for a date? ;)

I left telling her... see you maybe next week.

Totally my style of girl but she was working the bar
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Probably not date material. She probably bought you a drink because you spend a lot of money there, and she wants you to keep coming back and spending more money.n
 

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That happened to me yesterday where they didn't charge me for the drink! With an Asian male bartender. Does he like me? Is he the one? But wait, why is OP asking a bunch of random guys instead of asking her?

OP sat there for a whole hour and:

A) Never asked her if she was single
B) Never asked her out
C) Never let his romantic interest be known (well, maybe sort of)
D) Listened in on her conversations and still doesn't know what she was talking about

Now he'll go back and she'll think "Oh, there's that guy that was too afraid to ask me out".

Bartenders are generally considered untouchable. Unless they like you enough to tell everyone in front of you, they aren't going out with you.

PS - When they give you a discount or you use a coupon or it's half off, you should still tip on the total amount. In fact, I only tip $5's and $10's these days. Anything less than $5 is a joke.
 

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Have you ever seen the show Bar Rescue? One of the biggest problems that comes up on that show is that bartenders give away too many drinks. They do this to get customers to come back in, to get bigger tips, to get attention, so they can say they are the ones who are bringing in the clientele, etc. Point is it's more common than you think.

That doesn't mean she wasn't attracted to you, necessarily. But how many guys do you think she talks to in a given day, week, month? Personally, I would never go out with a bartender, but YMMV.
 

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Have you ever seen the show Bar Rescue? One of the biggest problems that comes up on that show is that bartenders give away too many drinks. They do this to get customers to come back in, to get bigger tips, to get attention, so they can say they are the ones who are bringing in the clientele, etc. Point is it's more common than you think.

That doesn't mean she wasn't attracted to you, necessarily. But how many guys do you think she talks to in a given day, week, month? Personally, I would never go out with a bartender, but YMMV.
Definitely, since I am regular, another restaurant paid my meals yesterday lol. (they were guys)

Good curious about that cause I linked my sentence to her behaviour.

Likely, if there was a window its gone until I ask for for real... if I do.

Oh well, for me it was a fun night, saved alot of money so I am happy, getting ''acknowledged'' by the worker at the place. So its good
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I own a bar and at night i put a couple of hot chicks to work. You can't imagine how many thirsty men are coming and spend their money by buying drinks to show off their value. The women are just doing their job and show their "natural talents " to get a bigger tip and sell more.
If a female wants you , she will show it immediately but if i were you , i wouldn't date a female bartender except than ons.
It's as bigneil said , if you wanted to do something , you had to take action but you prefered to remain in the guest list.
 
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