"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bar sarging and thereafter....

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Alright, so I just got myself an apartment closer to my school, and a bar couple meters away. As you all know, thursdays are ladies night... yeah. So, last thursday, I decided to check-out what actually goes on in the bar... men oh men, lots of ladies. Certainly more than the guys. I lost all my games... or did I not? Perhaps, because I forgot how to run game at bars. I went pretty late. A classmate of mine was there when I arived. He informed me he has already secured a girl who is going to go home with him. I tried asking few of them home but none is willing to. Fellas, my question is how to actually talk to them to be willing to go home with you? I've never succeeded in taking a girl home from a bar...any suggestion?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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OK, so let's hear some examples of the kinds of things you should say to a girl to convince her to come over. I don't think "stamp collection" qualifies!

What about a subtle plan that involves talking to the girl earlier on about something interesting... and then having something at home that you can use to fulfill her interest. What? I don't know, that's why I'm asking. Music? A movie?
 

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Tell them you have some ice cream at home and ask if she would like some. I tried this after drinks once and she scoffed at the ice cream but she came over anyway. the point is have a diversion because they NEED a reason to come over other than sex.

regards
 

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Very interesting because many people in hear have very little way/method of taking ladies home from a bar/club. We need more suggestions here....
 

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persistent exaction said:
Tell them you have some ice cream at home and ask if she would like some. I tried this after drinks once and she scoffed at the ice cream but she came over anyway. the point is have a diversion because they NEED a reason to come over other than sex.

regards

FOOD... of course! Good call.

Mmmmm... ice cream. Topped with Kahlua or something... OOPS!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Honestly if the magic don't happen at the club, than you have to pull out the secret weapon. I will tell you what it is but you can not tell anybody else exept those from this site.

AFTER PARTY!!!!!!!!! :rockon:
 

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Find a reason to go back to your new place. The music is too loud to talk over at the bar, the drinks are cheaper at your place, use your absence as a take-away, etc. None of this makes any difference however if you don't get her buying temperature up sufficiently and her IL is in the high 80's. Common thought is that a woman knows if she'll sleep with you within 5 minutes of meeting you. This is flawed I think, instead it should be a woman knows if she WONT sleep with you in the first 5 minutes. If there's no attraction, and there's no rapport established early on, you're simply not going to negotiate her into going home with you. You also have to understand that women (generally) aren't stupid in this way, they know what a guy is driving at if she goes home with him after meeting up at a bar. Getting a girl to come home with you is a form of closing, and if you close before she's ready to buy you're done.

Also bear in mind that you're implying an ONS situation here too. Every girl in my past that I closed on the night I met her ended up either an ONS or a FB. Not that there's anything wrong with either of those, just know what you're probably getting into.
 
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