"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bar Approaches Without Alcohol

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Every friday, I go to a bar alone just to check the scene and hopefully dance with a few girls. The problem is that without alcohol, I can't seem to approach girls randomly, especially the girls that I see there all the time. How would you simply go about asking a girl to dance free of alcohol and social proof? I don't drink because I have to drive home.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The same way you would with alchohol... Its better sober anyway
 
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convince yourself of being drunk..... think of funny moments to bring out that secret smile..... I know it's hard but try not to care
 
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Just do it! Sorry only thing you can do though... I admit though I'm a big pvssy when I go out and I'm not drinking, but that doesn't happen to often.

Maybe you can catch some public transport instead so you can have a few drinks?
 
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I don't live in an area where a lot of public transport exist. Basically, you need a car.

I understand what you guys are saying about just doing it. I don't think I have a problem approaching. I think the problem is how to react to rejection, not feeling embarrassed, and not wanting to leave afterwards. With a couple of drinks, a rejection unphases me. I just go to the next girl I find attractive.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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