"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Banging a girl in a relationship

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Hello SoSuave forum...

It's finally good to meet you "face to face." As you can probably tell, I'm a recent enlisting here on the forum.

However, I've been lurking this site for a while now, soaking up your knowledge, retelling your jokes, and eating your delicious virtual internet food. Thanks to this site and the DJ way, I have a much better time with women in general, and overall, feel I am a better person since I started learning here. I thank you with all my inner being and fiber for this, I am eternally grateful.

Now I've been in some recent turmoil recently about whether or not to bang this chick (and lose my virginity-one of my personal summer goals). She let it slip recently that she has a boyfriend, and I haven't confirmed this yet (met him/seen it on Facebook).

But the question is: If she does, do I go ahead with my plans to nail her? Or is this a totally bad idea, even though I only plan on making her a FWB (I believe that stands for "friends with benefits").

I've done some research, and the issue seems to be a bit taboo/not very discussed, so hopefully I can get the ball rolling.

Thanks for reading...all thoughts, opinions, and personal experiences are welcome

Woodson
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Falcon25

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1) if he can kick your ass, don't do it
2) expect this to be nothing more than a one and done deal

3) if you have no problems with the first two, or don't care to find your OWN woman, then go ahead and do it.

This is an unnecessary thread.
 

horaholic

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If you're a virgin, it is highly likely that you will become attached to her, and that is a BAD thing.
 

Sir Psycho Sexy

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Fvck Her. Its not your problem if shes willing to cheat. You dont owe this random guy anything.

^^and I dont agree with horaholic who said you will become attached. If you go in with your game face and get the job done you wont lose your head in the process. I feel nothing for the girl who I lost mine to.

Losing your virginity is a big hurdle for a lot of guys, just do it asap so you can get over this obstacle and continue your growth.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Scars

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horaholic said:
If you're a virgin, it is highly likely that you will become attached to her, and that is a BAD thing.
Agreed.

There is a lot of drama that can from this. I'll answer the question anyway, but you have been warned.

You can still nail this girl. Just don't, under any circumstances let her know you know about her "boyfriend" whether he exists or not. Chances are it's just some other guy who's trying to claim his territory. Either way, act aloof to the whole thing. If she brings it up, act completely surprised. Also, if/when the truth does get out, act like it doesn't matter. Don't say it with your words, say it with your actions. Continue to flirt with her, and keep doing your thing. If she brings up her boyfriend again, then just say "Yeah, you're right.." and regress back for a few minutes. Then come back at her again even stronger. Just be careful to read her body language. There's a difference between when a girl says "no, stop." with her mouth, but her eyes and everything else about her is inviting you in, and another when she really means stop. The fact that you're a virgin has me worried you may get the two confused, so don't come back on here telling me she is filing a sexual assault charge against you please. :)

However, chances are this girl just thinks her **** don't stink and that she is playing the both of you. That's why it's completely imperative you act aloof to the situation. She thinks she is playing you but really you are just using her for sex. If she finds out you know about her "boyfriend" or that her seeing other guys bothers you, she will get turned off and it's game over.

Again, I'm not responsible for whatever you decide to do. Just know that there could be consequences that come with boning another man's lady.

Best of luck.

-Scars
 

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What's your relationship with this girl? Are you guys seeing each other? I would suggest you find a girl who doesn't have a boyfriend.
 

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Bang her, it's the natural way of things (Social Darwinism).

Let her cheat if she wants to, girls can rationalize anything in their heads. Don't get attached to her, and make sure that no drama will ensue from this.
 

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Falcon25 said:
1) if he can kick your ass, don't do it
2) expect this to be nothing more than a one and done deal

3) if you have no problems with the first two, or don't care to find your OWN woman, then go ahead and do it.

This is an unnecessary thread.
This is filed under "Truths about women".

Judge Nismo-4 orders you to understand that most women are in relationships in one way or another. Be the better man. Be the better deal. Work on it if you aren't. It's all about what you have to offer. Can you give this woman a mental orgasm? If yes, then she's bangable. If not, she'll deny you, and you've got some uprading to do, which is what you should be doing anyway.

Case dismissed.
 

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Falcon25 said:
1) if he can kick your ass, don't do it
I'd do it if she's hot enough, unless there's a good chance the bf will legitimately kill you (like he's in a gang or psycho) or ruin you in some other way (like getting you blackballed from your career).

I've met the bfs of girl's i've slept with that ranged anywhere from a timidness where the guy could barely look me in the eye to a time where a guy flashed his beretta at me and told me that she could find her shit on the lawn.

2) expect this to be nothing more than a one and done deal
Unless you really do it for her in bed. Even if you're a verge, you might be just what she's looking for right now.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Thanks for everyone's two cents. I appreciate that you didn't just blast me out of the water, this is not normally how I roll. But, like I said, I want to get laid, and this chick is my strongest option.

Have a good one guys. Hopefully we will meet again on better terms.
 
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