"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Balding.... Not sure what to do... Shave it, etc?

Mike32ct

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Hey guys.

From 2006 through 2010, I've had a small bald spot on the crown/top of my head, but with spiky hair in the front, cool clothes, and a decent face, I still did very well for myself with the ladies. (See last pic.)

By the last two years, the bald spot has grown much bigger. Now it's about 3 inches (~ 7.6 cm) in diameter.

I'm really torn because while I love the spiky hair in the front (see last picture in the link below), I'm concerned that the bald spot in the back is ruining it for me. I have been in a dry spell for nearly two years also. I can't prove it's related, but I'd be silly to ignore it.

Here are the options...

1. Status quo -- touch up the color, keep the front spiked, and just "own" the bald spot. It is what it is.

2. Buzz hair really short. The problem is my roots are grey. A buzz can't be colored and would be VERY grey/white. The bald spot would still be highly visible.

3. Shave head clean. I have mixed feelings about this. I have a decent face. My body is average 5'10.5" 178#, but I'm working on toning up. Of course, I'm not a macho looking dude. Maybe I could eventually get used to and "own" this look? Not sure. While not perfectly round, my hairdresser believes I have an ok head shape for a buzz or even clean shave.

I'm mostly torn between #1 and #3. #2 seems like an interim step if I decide to shave it.

Just to be clear, I do have my hair colored because I'm greying.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/75217535@N06/

It's ok though. We all know looks don't matter anyway haha.

Guys, girls, younger, older, etc. are welcome to comment.
 
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Shave it. Chicks like dudes with hair and they like bald dudes too, what they tend not to like is a guy in the process of going bald so it's in your best interest to skip to the other extreme.
 

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Shave it - sorry but looks ridiculous like that, shave it or get hair replacement
 

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Shave it...look 10x better than the George Costanza look
 

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Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

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I love my hair as its fairly long while still considered short. I spike it, fauhawk it, comb it over, etc.

at times i'll spike it up standing up to 2.5-3.5 inches. You still have decent hair and the bald spot hasn't spread to an area that is visibly noticeable when face to face.

Stay with 1 until you get to the point where it effects first impressions.

You won't have that hair forever, might as well enjoy it a bit longer.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Hey guys.

From 2006 through 2010, I've had a small bald spot on the crown/top of my head, but with spiky hair in the front, cool clothes, and a decent face, I still did very well for myself with the ladies. (See last pic.)

By the last two years, the bald spot has grown much bigger. Now it's about 3 inches (~ 7.6 cm) in diameter.

I'm really torn because while I love the spiky hair in the front (see last picture in the link below), I'm concerned that the bald spot in the back is ruining it for me. I have been in a dry spell for nearly two years also. I can't prove it's related, but I'd be silly to ignore it.

Here are the options...

1. Status quo -- touch up the color, keep the front spiked, and just "own" the bald spot. It is what it is.

2. Buzz hair really short. The problem is my roots are grey. A buzz can't be colored and would be VERY grey/white. The bald spot would still be highly visible.

3. Shave head clean. I have mixed feelings about this. I have a decent face. My body is average 5'10.5" 178#, but I'm working on toning up. Of course, I'm not a macho looking dude. Maybe I could eventually get used to and "own" this look? Not sure. While not perfectly round, my hairdresser believes I have an ok head shape for a buzz or even clean shave.

I'm mostly torn between #1 and #3. #2 seems like an interim step if I decide to shave it.

Just to be clear, I do have my hair colored because I'm greying.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/75217535@N06/

It's ok though. We all know looks don't matter anyway haha.

Guys, girls, younger, older, etc. are welcome to comment.

First before shaving it bald. Have the hairdresser use a zero at the bottom and blend into a "one" on the buzzer shaving blades. Then keep the top short but still there. Have her show you how it looks in the mirror. Shaved sides and top short (like an inch and a half to two inches) a little more than a military cut. I get it done like that every two weeks.

If you don't like it and don't think it looks better without going totally bald then go bald. Don't worry so much about the grey. Maybe grow some facial hair that would look good to outline your face if you want.

So far I have all my hair. Though my motto is: The less it grows the shorter it goes.
 

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rogaine is supposed to work on that part of the head pretty well. mine is thinning some on the front and top but not the back. unfortunately rogaine will not work well on the front. whatever you do dont take propecia, its dangerous stuff.
 

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I don't recommend any chemicals or drugs. Natural solutions can indeed improve matters somewhat.

Remember, guys: a woman doesn't care if you are losing your hair, she only cares if you are overly self-conscious about it.
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mike those hair follicles are too far gone for any rogaine, or propecia to have any effect on. If i were you i would look into a hair transplant, if you have the money. You only live once and you shouldnt have to settle. If you're more confident with hair, i would go for it. The technologies are really coming along.
 
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I am 25 now, I shaved my head when I was 21 or 22 as a "preemptive strike" since I knew the future looked grim when it came to keeping the hair on my head. Even at that age I was losing hair and it was considerably thin all around the top - classic male pattern baldness and following the baldness pattern I observed with my father.

I don't regret it one bit - in fact it was one of the best decisions of my life. I used to be self conscious a lot, especially when my hair got wet. I used to dabble with drugs like Rogaine and Propecia that never showed any noticeable effect, but would cost a significant amount of funds. It would be a constant preoccupation in my mind.

However, after I did it and after a short period of getting used to it, you realize just how many benefits there are. You save time without worrying about how your hair looks. No more haircuts. No more preoccupation.

And you might think women wont like it? You'd be wrong. I've gotten with far more women post-shave than pre-shave. This might be because my game improved considerably the past several years and I've always been hitting the gym, but it just goes to show you that even with a shaved head one can and still be attractive to many women.

Just do it. You wont think about this again.
 

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It's 3 inches in diameter, huh? Well, don't worry. You have another hour or so until you give birth.

What a pvssy! Man the fvck up.
 

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Shave it. Baldness is a sign of virility. Also consider there are many famous bald men. Bruce Willis, Jason Statism, even john Travolta has gone bald for his work. Its not a bad look at all so stop worrying and hack it off.
 

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Shave it. Baldness is a sign of virility. Also consider there are many famous bald men. Bruce Willis, Jason Statism, even john Travolta has gone bald for his work. Its not a bad look at all so stop worrying and hack it off.
 

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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Hi Mike,

I´m a little disappointed with you ;). Your are insisting a lot on looks.. Yes of course looks matter for some people , but most of the hotties I know are not with good looking guys. Looks are ESSENTIAL in highschool of course, but later it´s charisma, personality, confidence, status etc.

I bet your problem, is that you are not very outgoing, (as more guys here). A wide circle is essential to score..

About balding, I have a very oriental view on this. Avoid masturbating, because it elevates a lot your levels of DHT. Also try egg yolk on your hair, it helps with baldness/greying.

Mike32ct said:
Hey guys.

From 2006 through 2010, I've had a small bald spot on the crown/top of my head, but with spiky hair in the front, cool clothes, and a decent face, I still did very well for myself with the ladies. (See last pic.)

By the last two years, the bald spot has grown much bigger. Now it's about 3 inches (~ 7.6 cm) in diameter.

I'm really torn because while I love the spiky hair in the front (see last picture in the link below), I'm concerned that the bald spot in the back is ruining it for me. I have been in a dry spell for nearly two years also. I can't prove it's related, but I'd be silly to ignore it.

Here are the options...

1. Status quo -- touch up the color, keep the front spiked, and just "own" the bald spot. It is what it is.

2. Buzz hair really short. The problem is my roots are grey. A buzz can't be colored and would be VERY grey/white. The bald spot would still be highly visible.

3. Shave head clean. I have mixed feelings about this. I have a decent face. My body is average 5'10.5" 178#, but I'm working on toning up. Of course, I'm not a macho looking dude. Maybe I could eventually get used to and "own" this look? Not sure. While not perfectly round, my hairdresser believes I have an ok head shape for a buzz or even clean shave.

I'm mostly torn between #1 and #3. #2 seems like an interim step if I decide to shave it.

Just to be clear, I do have my hair colored because I'm greying.

http://www.flickr.com/photos/75217535@N06/

It's ok though. We all know looks don't matter anyway haha.

Guys, girls, younger, older, etc. are welcome to comment.
 

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I would go for option #2 if I were you. just buzz it short, but not total skin head neo nazi style.

Jude Law rocks the balding buzzed hair style well imo~

http://celebslam.celebuzz.com//bfm_...y_main/gallery_main-jude-law-bald-head-06.jpg

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/01/20/jude-law-hair-loss_n_1218815.html

notice how good the buzzed balding hair combo'd off with the short beard/stubble looks on him?


and btw, I reckon white/grey hair looks better than dyed hair anyway, for e.g. Julian Assange

http://intentious.com/tag/julian-assange/

Now there is one sexy mo-f*cker (no homo)
 

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Yeah dog, your problemo totally isn't your hair. All you need to do is buzz it short and grow some matching facial stubble. In terms of looks, dog, you need to tone up that hang dog face of yours by drastically dropping b.f. % and building up lean muscle mass, and you are also in desperate need of a healthy glowing tan to your skin. Then you would have no worries with the ladies, looks-wise. Don't worry about your hair at all, and certainly stop trying to hide who you are by dyeing your hair (ffs) and trying to cover over a bald spot by being shaggy and unfashionable. Make peace with your appearance and try to maximize your health, dog, and then your appearance will improve as a natural matter of course.
 

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She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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