Balance between intuition and deliberate steering

[anonymous12345]

I’ve noticed that my game/seduction can be divided into two parts: one is an intuitive, and the other is a conscious, planned steering.

The second part I use actively a lot, like in cold approaching, consciously thinking up what to say, what to do, etc. And then all the other stuff, we compose our SMV, and so on.

The intuitive has recently become better in me and is the part that is actually interesting and joyful. A presence, emotions. This one is on the other hand very female. Someone needs to hold the wheel.

However, as men we need both. Ideally they’re in sync. The intuitive feeds the brain, and it subsequently does the required decisions for getting the practicalities right. No neanderthal, but neither a passive though well-feeling rock.

This is my current area of focus, and I guess it’s just to keep exposing/grinding. The challenge is to not be paralyzed by passivity and comfort, but also not drive over one's own emotions with steering. Thoughts appreciated.

 

[Billtx49]

What you call intuitive is actually living in the moment. It’s not emotional or female in nature. Planned steering on the otherhand is outcome dependent and often appears false or contrived to the woman.
Knowing where you want to go with the interaction and being in the moment is the mindset needed and more natural.

 

[The Duke]

@anonymous12345 I've always understood this, but have never been able to articulate it like you did.

Intuition is what develops from conscious planning, practice, knowledge, and experience. A person develops this "seat of the pants" feel which is intuition that allows you to predict and adjust on the fly so interactions can flow smoothly and you connect better. Intuition allows you to spot trouble before you are in it.

This applies to dating, playing sports, driving your car.

 

[Kotaix]

The problem with the "steering" approach is when you attempt to control, or even think about controlling, that which is uncontrollable. This is the single biggest source of anxiety and frustration in humans, and it's the price that we pay to be able to think about the abstract and theoretical.

Being unable to give up conscious control or stop thinking about your desired outcome blinds you to reality and puts you into a world of illusion. This is how so many men end up obsessed and pining over women who aren't the least bit interested in them. I cringe when I think back to the days when I'd fantasize about marrying some hot chick that then went on to shoot me down.

I'd go so far as to say that this very concept is the White Pill.

Modern society, as possessed by egoism, atheism and materialism as it is, has a tendency to ridicule anyone who proposes this notion. But as you say, it's true freedom.