Bah. I feel bad for saying this

[Baruch]

There is an HB8 sits right next to me in class. She seems to be interested and laughs at every stupid thing I say. Then I asked her if she knew when our next test is, and she smiles and makes a cute face that she doesnt. I tell her "gosh. youre useless." and she didnt respond well to it. Neither would I if someone told me that. I dont know why it came out, but I feel bad for saying this to her. She seems like a the shy type and I dont think she took that to well.

Other girls with a more ditzy personality would respond to that with a positive queastion or something, but I said it to the wrong girl.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

Here's my two pence worth,

In my opinion if you've been freindly to her all the time preceeding that comment then why would you suddenly seriously tell her she's "useless".

The simple answer is that it'd take a lot more than not knowing when a test is for you to tell her seriously that she's "useless".

Either she's sh!t testing you or she's genuinely insecure, if she's a HB8 then I think she'll recieve enough attention and compliments to be secure enough in herself to be able to take a comment like that on the chin- hence her reaction was attempting to provoke a,

"I was only kidding"

Kind of response from you.

Worrying about what you say to girls is for AFC's, I'm not suggesting you become a complete idiot and insult girls willy nilly but their reactions are always going to be up and down, that's how women work and you rarely find the same average attitude that you get from a bloke.

She'll be well aware that you were kidding and she probably wasn't offended, the best thing you can do is to ignore it and carry on as normal.

If she actually was offended then I personally couldn't go out with someone who I couldn't have a laugh with and tease a little. Obviously that's down to personal taste and you might think differently.

 

[spider_007]

Oh man, Now u done it. I know I'd feel bad too. Should have made a coment right after it, or at least told her you ware joking.

Its ok u'll make up for it next class

 

[ScrewIt]

thats why you NEVER EVER use neg hits on fragile girls.

Last semester i had this uptight & fragile girl in one of my classes. The damn professor trash talked and cracked jokes on everyone except her....man i loved that class.

everyone in the class and the professor knew she was that type of girl, so no one bothered with her.

next time you see that chick, if she looks like she's still pissed at you, try to talk to her. if she doesnt talk back fvk her.

 

[LuisGarcia10]

It's hardly a neg hit.

It's a completely harmless and obvious jokingly expressed comment.

If I said that to a girl and she gave me a bad reaction I'd think she was a loon.

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by Baruch
There is an HB8 sits right next to me in class. She seems to be interested and laughs at every stupid thing I say. Then I asked her if she knew when our next test is, and she smiles and makes a cute face that she doesnt. I tell her "gosh. youre useless." and she didnt respond well to it. Neither would I if someone told me that. I dont know why it came out, but I feel bad for saying this to her. She seems like a the shy type and I dont think she took that to well.

Other girls with a more ditzy personality would respond to that with a positive queastion or something, but I said it to the wrong girl.

How did you say it? What was your facial expression/tone of voice like?

 

[Baruch]

Re: Re: Bah. I feel bad for saying this

Originally posted by MetalFortress
How did you say it? What was your facial expression/tone of voice like?

I said in a joking with voice and a half smile.

I am not sure if she got offended or not, I didnt say "i was just joking" but i came close to it. She dug in her backpack and looked up our schedule and I said "please dont tell me its next week" and she laughed.

I dont remember how the remainder of the class went, it was quite a bore and I was text messaging this other girl during it. I think I popped a comment or two in the class and she laughed again.

Thats what I thought, this was a jokin manner and she shouldnt be offended. So im glad I am not the only one that thinks that...

 

[PRMoon]

Don't take it to heart man. I've said things similar to that to girls all the time, they get over it, especially if they know it's a joke.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

dont take it so seriously, but if you feel you messed up, hell, are you perfect? think about it................see..........you will discover that you are not...so dont sweat it. Maintain your confidence, keep enjoying yourself in class, and whatever mistake or flaws you do have will be overlooked by your positive and fun energy.
And remember.......

Fun is more valuable than perfection. Nerds are perfect, jocks have fun. Let loose, kick off your shoes, and square dance a little, and just let the time pass away, you know why, because life was made that way, to be enjoyed.- Pvssyeater