Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Badmouthing Betas

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"There use to be this black guy who worked here and he was like, 'Damn, girl. You gotta a ghetto booty!' I was like, 'Excuse me, you shouldn't be looking at my ass!!' "

"The new kid gave me a ride home and he's really weird. He was talking about partying and drinking all the time and I was like, 'Yeah, whatever.' "

"Tim acts like he's a player but I've seen his girlfriend and she's morbidly obese."

There three statements were said to me by three different women I work with about three different guys we work with. What do you guys do when a women expresses displeasure with another male. Just change the subject? I've heard that one should never talk about other males to women.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SeymourCake

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They sound like a bunch of gossipers who love talking about other people.

Change the subject if it makes you feel uncomfortable talking trash about people you don't know.
 

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she picked up on the fact your a beta phaggot more or less

the best thing you can do is not engage in the convo with this warlock

she will use you as an emotional tampon to spew her anti male garbage to

this will squash your nuts subconciously over time

the wench is toxic!
 

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Jeremiah said:
"There use to be this black guy who worked here and he was like, 'Damn, girl. You gotta a ghetto booty!' I was like, 'Excuse me, you shouldn't be looking at my ass!!' "

"The new kid gave me a ride home and he's really weird. He was talking about partying and drinking all the time and I was like, 'Yeah, whatever.' "

"Tim acts like he's a player but I've seen his girlfriend and she's morbidly obese."

There three statements were said to me by three different women I work with about three different guys we work with. What do you guys do when a women expresses displeasure with another male. Just change the subject? I've heard that one should never talk about other males to women.
Who told you that? My girl and I have fun with trashing betas all the time. Just do it in a way that gets both of you laughing and having fun and not being serious. Women LOVE to walk all over betas no matter how sweet. This is from relationships, hookups and female friends. People watching is the easiest part of any date
 

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self-respect said:
Who told you that? My girl and I have fun with trashing betas all the time. Just do it in a way that gets both of you laughing and having fun and not being serious. Women LOVE to walk all over betas no matter how sweet. This is from relationships, hookups and female friends. People watching is the easiest part of any date
That's funny, because you sound like a beta yourself. Real alphas wouldn't acknowledge betas because they focus on themselves and other alphas.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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sounds like you work with some really lame people.
 

self-respect

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I'm not getting into an alpha d!ck measuring contest. If you've bothered to look around anywhere in a public place or know people from any social circle it's obvious people are at different levels. Focusing on yourself doesn't mean don't look at the world around you. Have fun defining real alphas though
 

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self-respect is rigght

just look at pop culture

ie: rap has some of the highest ranking beta phaggot acting dudes acting hard core and singing how they spend 100k on a woman in a shopping spree and buy her a new benz
 

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Jeremiah said:
"There use to be this black guy who worked here and he was like, 'Damn, girl. You gotta a ghetto booty!' I was like, 'Excuse me, you shouldn't be looking at my ass!!' "

"The new kid gave me a ride home and he's really weird. He was talking about partying and drinking all the time and I was like, 'Yeah, whatever.' "

"Tim acts like he's a player but I've seen his girlfriend and she's morbidly obese."

There three statements were said to me by three different women I work with about three different guys we work with. What do you guys do when a women expresses displeasure with another male. Just change the subject? I've heard that one should never talk about other males to women.
  • object number one steers your attention towards her ass - she is available
  • object number two talks about someone who has shown interest in her but doesnt meet her standards. why would she do that? - she is available
  • object number three is kinda jealous and gauges her value in the eyes of a so-called player. "why doesnt he want me but instead settles for this fat cow?" - she is available

all three are seeking attention. and self validation.

I'd rather mess around with that a little bit.
  • your ass is not THAT big. and of course i would never look at it. although it is quite noticable.
  • so you are no party girl? what do you do then when you want to have fun? playing with your toys?
  • she must have special talents then i guess. do you have anything where you are really good at?


general advice tho: listen to what she actually is saying. and proceed accordingly.
 

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georgie24 said:
self-respect is rigght

just look at pop culture

ie: rap has some of the highest ranking beta phaggot acting dudes acting hard core and singing how they spend 100k on a woman in a shopping spree and buy her a new benz

which rappers are those man?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Packers2010 said:
which rappers are those man?
T.I is the only rapper I can think of.
 

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SeymourCake said:
T.I is the only rapper I can think of.
shoot all the sucessfull rappers KANYE being at the top of the list but heres a few

1. rick ross has said it
2. jeezy has said it ( matching rolex's baby team us")
3. jay z
4. birdman has said it and made youtube vids doing it
5. jim jones/sanata of the diplomats
 

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flashpoint said:
all three are seeking attention. and self validation.

I'd rather mess around with that a little bit.
  • your ass is not THAT big. and of course i would never look at it. although it is quite noticable.
  • so you are no party girl? what do you do then when you want to have fun? playing with your toys?
  • she must have special talents then i guess. do you have anything where you are really good at?


general advice tho: listen to what she actually is saying. and proceed accordingly.
Did you just come up with these from the top of the dome, those are some really good witty comebacks, that's a problem I noticed myself having actually having a good comeback to what they have to say, any special exercises you have to develop this skill?
 

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any special exercises you have to develop this skill?
thank you. hard to say. i think it is more a matter of attitude than learning lines or such. like NEVER to take anything seriously a chick says. listening tho to what she says about herself (and since they are often pretty selfcentered you dont have to look far). then playing it back at her. in a way that is slightly inappropriate.

but of course there is the ****y comedy workbook and the helitzer book deangelo mentions. they are pretty good reads on that. sure you can find it on the web for free. hth.
 

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georgie24 said:
the best thing you can do is not engage in the convo with this warlock

she will use you as an emotional tampon to spew her anti male garbage to

this will squash your nuts subconciously over time

the wench is toxic!
^This.

She probably talks sh$t about you too behind your back.

They love to play the "Everybody else sucks blah blah blah, but you're my friend."

But they do that to several people at once lol.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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