You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I don't know man. You really think I should try again? I mean the message was just God awful. It reeked of AFC. haha I wasn't really prepared to get a voice mail. I just assumed she'd pick up. My bad.Unsure said:DO NOT CALL HER AGAIN! just leave it as it is. wait couple days and try again.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I agree 100% with that.DO NOT CALL HER AGAIN! just leave it as it is. wait couple days and try again.
look, I agree too. But I don't think I'm going to try again. This is mainly because when a girl doesn't call you back there's a reason. The reason is that she does not want to talk to you. So it's pointless to call back again. If she cared she'd call you. I don't think I'm a negative thinker on this subject, just going by experience. I've tried what you guys suggest (i.e. calling again in a couple days) and the same **** happened. Oh well...JDA70 said:I agree 100% with that.