Ok its well past time for me to post. Hi guys this site has helped me get my confidence back up but I just feel like I can't approach women and the reason is this. I live with my ex. We broke up at the end of May, made an agreement then she would move out the end up the summer august and because of her business plans changing says she can't leave until the end of December.
I have tried to put my foot down, this chick is psycho and damaged. I basically was/is an AFC when I met her 2+ years ago. She is like an alpha. Ive always had self esteem issues. When I met her I was 26 she was 30. I had very little dating women prior with one long term g/f of 3 or 4 years we had broken up 6 months before I met this crazy chick. Anyways when I met my current ex it was at time when I was feeling good about myself, things were going well financially, I was going to the gym, hanging out with friends, dated a few different girls(not ****ing them though because my game sucked).
I was VERY NAIVE when I met her. I let the fact that I was finally banging a hot broad and finally was not worrying about money get me unfocused. I met her on her birthday at a club got her number hooked up with her later that week. I guess in my head I put her on a pedestal, she told me how all these guys always flirt with her etc, etc. She gets hit on constantly and is basically an attention *****. Her profession is fashion. Told me if I wanted her to she would stop talking to her guy friends and exclusively see me.
At the time I had a trip planned to go to Thailand to hangout with this Thai girl who was a university student and her friend and basically party and chill on some islands there. When I told my ex I was going to go to Thailand she told me don't expect her us to be together when I got back because 2 weeks was too long and she would hook up. She did not know I was going out there to see a girl(s). I caved in like guy with no balls, canceled the trip and missed an opportunity of a life time.
Fast forward 3-4 weeks into knowing her she tells me she has to tell me something. She tells me she has 2 little girls and is divorced(lie she is still married but separated ftr). She was adopted and each summer her girls live with her adopted parents in the country. I don't know which was the worst decision not going to Thailand or continuing seeing her after she told me this. At this point I'm like well the kids don't come back to the city for a couple months I keep seeing her and eventually break it off. In other words the sex was really good and i did not have a ****ing clue/plan.
This woman was very fun to hang with but definitely has a borderline personality disorder. Up until a month ago I didn't know what that was. I tried to break up with her several times before me, her, and her 2 children moved in together at the beginning of the year. She basically would cry and make me feel terrible for wanting to end the relationship. Just writing this is making feel like a moron because there is so much more and I could make myself look more stupid but hey I am on here attempting to piece my life back together.
The current situation is the following:
We broke up in may/june and live in separate rooms of the 2 bedroom apartment. The kids are with their grandparents for the summer. She told me that in September she was moving to California so that her children can be raised by herself and the children's father. He moved out there and refuses to move back. He has moved on to other relationships.
In the middle of July she tells me because of her business she is starting she has to stay in Chicago and because she has no money she may have to stay another month. I snap at her about this because I had people who were interested in moving in Sept 1st. She begs me to stay I say ok for 1 more month.
The time line maybe a little off but around the beginning of august she asked if I found a roommate I say no and she says well I may have to stay in Chicago till the end of December. I say whatever you don't have to stay here I still looking for a roommate for October. So I tell her last week that I have someone coming to see the apartment in a couple days and she starts freaking out saying I'm putting her on the street etc etc and I am like no we talked about this, you said you would stay with someone with she flat out denies. At this point I am like wtf your a ***** you have ruined my life, I want to move on with my life and I cant living with my ex girlfriend.
Btw since the june breakup she says she doesn't care if I bring home girls and I need to get a girlfriend lol That **** gets me so angry when she says that. Like a girl would be cool being with a guy who is living with his ex. So basically I have paid a large price for dealing with a crazy woman and thinking too much with my **** and not my head.
If you are still reading, how am I suppose to game girls if I live with my ex for the next 4 months? Should I flat out lie and say she is my roommate not my ex if the topic ever comes up in conversation? I was a mess for a while up until a few months ago.
On top of that I am in a high stress/pressure field and almost blew it I feel. Ive had to start from scratch with building my confidence back up. I want to start approaching women during the day but the thought of still living with my ex psyches me out. I feel I could write a freakin novel about this 2 year train wreck. Also I feel that this experience has made me alot wiser about "knowing what I am getting myself into"
I have tried to put my foot down, this chick is psycho and damaged. I basically was/is an AFC when I met her 2+ years ago. She is like an alpha. Ive always had self esteem issues. When I met her I was 26 she was 30. I had very little dating women prior with one long term g/f of 3 or 4 years we had broken up 6 months before I met this crazy chick. Anyways when I met my current ex it was at time when I was feeling good about myself, things were going well financially, I was going to the gym, hanging out with friends, dated a few different girls(not ****ing them though because my game sucked).
I was VERY NAIVE when I met her. I let the fact that I was finally banging a hot broad and finally was not worrying about money get me unfocused. I met her on her birthday at a club got her number hooked up with her later that week. I guess in my head I put her on a pedestal, she told me how all these guys always flirt with her etc, etc. She gets hit on constantly and is basically an attention *****. Her profession is fashion. Told me if I wanted her to she would stop talking to her guy friends and exclusively see me.
At the time I had a trip planned to go to Thailand to hangout with this Thai girl who was a university student and her friend and basically party and chill on some islands there. When I told my ex I was going to go to Thailand she told me don't expect her us to be together when I got back because 2 weeks was too long and she would hook up. She did not know I was going out there to see a girl(s). I caved in like guy with no balls, canceled the trip and missed an opportunity of a life time.
Fast forward 3-4 weeks into knowing her she tells me she has to tell me something. She tells me she has 2 little girls and is divorced(lie she is still married but separated ftr). She was adopted and each summer her girls live with her adopted parents in the country. I don't know which was the worst decision not going to Thailand or continuing seeing her after she told me this. At this point I'm like well the kids don't come back to the city for a couple months I keep seeing her and eventually break it off. In other words the sex was really good and i did not have a ****ing clue/plan.
This woman was very fun to hang with but definitely has a borderline personality disorder. Up until a month ago I didn't know what that was. I tried to break up with her several times before me, her, and her 2 children moved in together at the beginning of the year. She basically would cry and make me feel terrible for wanting to end the relationship. Just writing this is making feel like a moron because there is so much more and I could make myself look more stupid but hey I am on here attempting to piece my life back together.
The current situation is the following:
We broke up in may/june and live in separate rooms of the 2 bedroom apartment. The kids are with their grandparents for the summer. She told me that in September she was moving to California so that her children can be raised by herself and the children's father. He moved out there and refuses to move back. He has moved on to other relationships.
In the middle of July she tells me because of her business she is starting she has to stay in Chicago and because she has no money she may have to stay another month. I snap at her about this because I had people who were interested in moving in Sept 1st. She begs me to stay I say ok for 1 more month.
The time line maybe a little off but around the beginning of august she asked if I found a roommate I say no and she says well I may have to stay in Chicago till the end of December. I say whatever you don't have to stay here I still looking for a roommate for October. So I tell her last week that I have someone coming to see the apartment in a couple days and she starts freaking out saying I'm putting her on the street etc etc and I am like no we talked about this, you said you would stay with someone with she flat out denies. At this point I am like wtf your a ***** you have ruined my life, I want to move on with my life and I cant living with my ex girlfriend.
Btw since the june breakup she says she doesn't care if I bring home girls and I need to get a girlfriend lol That **** gets me so angry when she says that. Like a girl would be cool being with a guy who is living with his ex. So basically I have paid a large price for dealing with a crazy woman and thinking too much with my **** and not my head.
If you are still reading, how am I suppose to game girls if I live with my ex for the next 4 months? Should I flat out lie and say she is my roommate not my ex if the topic ever comes up in conversation? I was a mess for a while up until a few months ago.
On top of that I am in a high stress/pressure field and almost blew it I feel. Ive had to start from scratch with building my confidence back up. I want to start approaching women during the day but the thought of still living with my ex psyches me out. I feel I could write a freakin novel about this 2 year train wreck. Also I feel that this experience has made me alot wiser about "knowing what I am getting myself into"
