"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bad Situation! 2 guys and a girl!

English_Bloke

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I know there is probably a post somewhere here like this but either way this situation is unique and fvcked up in its own way.

I have been working on this girl over christmas, went to a dance with her, she was all over me got great results. New guy comes in and she is off to him and then back to me and it goes like that all day.

So next her! I hear you all say. No I dont want to let this kid come in and take her. I cant fight him, I could kick his ass but that would turn her off and get me in sh1t at my annoying school. He hangs around my girl and I and its so freaking annoying. And when he does hang around us, guess where my girl goes! As for the girl I do have something to loose - im going on vacation with her.

You see, I dont care that much about her, but having her being taken by this kid who acts like a freak - I cant take that. Now the bonus is that shes going to the movies with me tomorrow, and we generally hang out alot - she turned him down over christmas. But still this feels so screwed up. I want to next her but it would screw things up for me and I would be giving her away to this guy.

Advice please!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ummm u dont even like her that much but u dont want her to be someone elses ???

well first of all sort out ya feelings for this chick , do you want her as just a friend or can u see a rlt with her ? , or do u just want to bang her ?

second if u dont want a rlt with her then u should just let her be with the other guy insted.... since u say that u hang out alot il asume that ur good friends.....
 

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Push the sexual envelope even more on your movie date. Afterwards start giving her less attention than usual - when you are with her, still be your c+f and kino self, but the less attention you give to her the more interest you will generate, to a degree.
 

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Originally posted by English_Bloke
I know there is probably a post somewhere here like this but either way this situation is unique and fvcked up in its own way.

I have been working on this girl over christmas, went to a dance with her, she was all over me got great results. New guy comes in and she is off to him and then back to me and it goes like that all day.

So next her! I hear you all say. No I dont want to let this kid come in and take her. I cant fight him, I could kick his ass but that would turn her off and get me in sh1t at my annoying school. He hangs around my girl and I and its so freaking annoying. And when he does hang around us, guess where my girl goes! As for the girl I do have something to loose - im going on vacation with her.

You see, I dont care that much about her, but having her being taken by this kid who acts like a freak - I cant take that. Now the bonus is that shes going to the movies with me tomorrow, and we generally hang out alot - she turned him down over christmas. But still this feels so screwed up. I want to next her but it would screw things up for me and I would be giving her away to this guy.

Advice please!
Don't be selfish. She can decide for herself.
 

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Is this even your girlfriend?
Have you ever fuvked her?


If you said no for both answers then why do you care?

Your taking so long to step your game up and now some new guy comes in and seems to get her attracted pretty good.

Have you even kissed her?
If not my advice for you is go for the damn kiss its now jan and you went to a dance with her in dec and you never kissed her:(
Also don't want for the end of the date to kiss.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ok things are going better, it was more of a a fresh face type of thing and me being possesive.

There is one thing Im moving on to as Distant Light pointed out. Im going to kiss her but when is a good time? I feel arkward as I have waited longer since first meeting her (3 1/2 weeks), whats the best way? Usually I see the end of the date as a good time...but as Distant Light said maybe not...? If there is a guide on kissing than let me know, I dont want to make you guys repeat stuff.
 

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Could be at the beginning of the date :p

when you first sit down at the dinner table or whatever just ask:

"Hey, do you like surprises?"

If yes, kiss her. If no......Kiss her anyway and say "Woops, my bad" or something :D. Kisses don't have to be romantic.

You might get punched for it or something but she'll like it if she likes you. If she didn't it means she ain't interested so next her.
 
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Originally posted by Taker
Could be at the beginning of the date :p

when you first dinner table or whatever just ask:

"Hey, do you like surprises?"

If yes, kiss her. If no......Kiss her anyway and say "Woops, my bad" or something :D. Kisses don't have to be romantic.

You might get punched for it or something but she'll like it if she likes you. If she didn't it means she ain't interested so next her.
This is something I had not heard or thought about before. Very nice! I will definitely try it out ASAP.
Thank you!
 

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kinda the experience i'm having right now too...only thign is my girl got with a guy while i was away then apologized to me and continued to get with me...like new years both us guys were there and she ditched him compltelyf or me
 

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you're welcome ^_^
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by English_Bloke
2 Guys and a Girl!
And a Pizza Place!

Sorry, I just had to.

Anyone remember the crappy old show "Two Guys, a Girl, and a Pizza Place"?
 
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