"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bad Situation! 2 guys and a girl!

English_Bloke

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I know there is probably a post somewhere here like this but either way this situation is unique and fvcked up in its own way.

I have been working on this girl over christmas, went to a dance with her, she was all over me got great results. New guy comes in and she is off to him and then back to me and it goes like that all day.

So next her! I hear you all say. No I dont want to let this kid come in and take her. I cant fight him, I could kick his ass but that would turn her off and get me in sh1t at my annoying school. He hangs around my girl and I and its so freaking annoying. And when he does hang around us, guess where my girl goes! As for the girl I do have something to loose - im going on vacation with her.

You see, I dont care that much about her, but having her being taken by this kid who acts like a freak - I cant take that. Now the bonus is that shes going to the movies with me tomorrow, and we generally hang out alot - she turned him down over christmas. But still this feels so screwed up. I want to next her but it would screw things up for me and I would be giving her away to this guy.

Advice please!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Morphiex

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ummm u dont even like her that much but u dont want her to be someone elses ???

well first of all sort out ya feelings for this chick , do you want her as just a friend or can u see a rlt with her ? , or do u just want to bang her ?

second if u dont want a rlt with her then u should just let her be with the other guy insted.... since u say that u hang out alot il asume that ur good friends.....
 

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Push the sexual envelope even more on your movie date. Afterwards start giving her less attention than usual - when you are with her, still be your c+f and kino self, but the less attention you give to her the more interest you will generate, to a degree.
 

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Originally posted by English_Bloke
I know there is probably a post somewhere here like this but either way this situation is unique and fvcked up in its own way.

I have been working on this girl over christmas, went to a dance with her, she was all over me got great results. New guy comes in and she is off to him and then back to me and it goes like that all day.

So next her! I hear you all say. No I dont want to let this kid come in and take her. I cant fight him, I could kick his ass but that would turn her off and get me in sh1t at my annoying school. He hangs around my girl and I and its so freaking annoying. And when he does hang around us, guess where my girl goes! As for the girl I do have something to loose - im going on vacation with her.

You see, I dont care that much about her, but having her being taken by this kid who acts like a freak - I cant take that. Now the bonus is that shes going to the movies with me tomorrow, and we generally hang out alot - she turned him down over christmas. But still this feels so screwed up. I want to next her but it would screw things up for me and I would be giving her away to this guy.

Advice please!
Don't be selfish. She can decide for herself.
 

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Is this even your girlfriend?
Have you ever fuvked her?


If you said no for both answers then why do you care?

Your taking so long to step your game up and now some new guy comes in and seems to get her attracted pretty good.

Have you even kissed her?
If not my advice for you is go for the damn kiss its now jan and you went to a dance with her in dec and you never kissed her:(
Also don't want for the end of the date to kiss.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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English_Bloke

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Ok things are going better, it was more of a a fresh face type of thing and me being possesive.

There is one thing Im moving on to as Distant Light pointed out. Im going to kiss her but when is a good time? I feel arkward as I have waited longer since first meeting her (3 1/2 weeks), whats the best way? Usually I see the end of the date as a good time...but as Distant Light said maybe not...? If there is a guide on kissing than let me know, I dont want to make you guys repeat stuff.
 

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Could be at the beginning of the date :p

when you first sit down at the dinner table or whatever just ask:

"Hey, do you like surprises?"

If yes, kiss her. If no......Kiss her anyway and say "Woops, my bad" or something :D. Kisses don't have to be romantic.

You might get punched for it or something but she'll like it if she likes you. If she didn't it means she ain't interested so next her.
 
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Originally posted by Taker
Could be at the beginning of the date :p

when you first dinner table or whatever just ask:

"Hey, do you like surprises?"

If yes, kiss her. If no......Kiss her anyway and say "Woops, my bad" or something :D. Kisses don't have to be romantic.

You might get punched for it or something but she'll like it if she likes you. If she didn't it means she ain't interested so next her.
This is something I had not heard or thought about before. Very nice! I will definitely try it out ASAP.
Thank you!
 

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kinda the experience i'm having right now too...only thign is my girl got with a guy while i was away then apologized to me and continued to get with me...like new years both us guys were there and she ditched him compltelyf or me
 

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you're welcome ^_^
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by English_Bloke
2 Guys and a Girl!
And a Pizza Place!

Sorry, I just had to.

Anyone remember the crappy old show "Two Guys, a Girl, and a Pizza Place"?
 
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