basically is like this:
I approach and meet girls easily, their IL is high, at first.
then comes the phone messages, emails, and their IL starts to slip. usually I don't get a date. Girls can smell the stench of "desperate loser" in the air like a bad fart. I can't hide it. to girls it's transparent.
If I do get a date, here is my opportunity to work my DJ skills and bring her IL up a notch or two. but it goes down, and almost never do I get date #2.
The last date with the church babe was a good example. I made it to date #2. I had an hour of quality 1 on 1 time with her, but by the end, it was thanks but no thanks. when I met her , her IL seemed pretty high. more than I expected. by the end of date #1, now that she got to know me a little, her IL dropped a notch. by the end of date #2 my attempts at SS sunk like a rock.
some problem areas:
I talk too damn much and I don't listen enough. not for lack of trying, though..... I ask questions, try to get the girl talking but she don't open up, so I fill the space with more of my mindless prattle. once the girl starts blabbering away it's smooth sailing for me. but like an old car, I can't seem to get her started.
I'm too nice. I start off C&F but as MY IL starts to rise I start to slip back into wuss mode. I offer to do nice things for the girl, etc etc. That's probably a big no-no. I try SS convo and it flops, so my confidence slips and I get even more wussy. by the end of the date I have devolved into a jellyfish. Of course, I totally forget about the part where I am supposed to end the date first.
anyone have any tips on how to keep from repeating this awful pattern?
I approach and meet girls easily, their IL is high, at first.
then comes the phone messages, emails, and their IL starts to slip. usually I don't get a date. Girls can smell the stench of "desperate loser" in the air like a bad fart. I can't hide it. to girls it's transparent.
If I do get a date, here is my opportunity to work my DJ skills and bring her IL up a notch or two. but it goes down, and almost never do I get date #2.
The last date with the church babe was a good example. I made it to date #2. I had an hour of quality 1 on 1 time with her, but by the end, it was thanks but no thanks. when I met her , her IL seemed pretty high. more than I expected. by the end of date #1, now that she got to know me a little, her IL dropped a notch. by the end of date #2 my attempts at SS sunk like a rock.
some problem areas:
I talk too damn much and I don't listen enough. not for lack of trying, though..... I ask questions, try to get the girl talking but she don't open up, so I fill the space with more of my mindless prattle. once the girl starts blabbering away it's smooth sailing for me. but like an old car, I can't seem to get her started.
I'm too nice. I start off C&F but as MY IL starts to rise I start to slip back into wuss mode. I offer to do nice things for the girl, etc etc. That's probably a big no-no. I try SS convo and it flops, so my confidence slips and I get even more wussy. by the end of the date I have devolved into a jellyfish. Of course, I totally forget about the part where I am supposed to end the date first.
anyone have any tips on how to keep from repeating this awful pattern?
