"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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iv'e raised my confidence in the oast few months alot with this site i was mostly confident with my self enough to feel good but not too much that i wouldnt work on myself all the time. Then my bad grades got worse and they are affecting my self confidence greatly. ive tried everything i can on getting better grades and i cant do it so thats not an option. how would someone learn to get more self confidence if they are not comfortable with their grades
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Analyzeit

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Thats really difficult considering life practically revolves around grades at high school, but just keep trying, if nothing happens maybe schools not for you leave and get a job, the key is just not to worry not to let it get your down, and right now your asking HOW?? there is no how, you gotta do it all yourself
 

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Do you have a diagnosed and documented learning disability?

If not, then you have NO EXCUSES for poor grades. Especially in high school.

You said "I can't do it" - why can't you do it?

How educated are your parents? And what do they expect of you?

We need more Asian-Retentive parents.
 

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I vehemently believe that every person is capable of learning and maintaining, solely on effort, a B.
Some people can understand concepts faster or memorize better so they don't need to study as much. But, there are some people who do have trouble concentrating. The thing is that these people are usually the social type. (This is based on my observations at my school)

My school goes by a weirder schedule...no set lunch breaks...breaks are all scattered and different everyday...and most of the popular kids just hang around...Sometimes they even do hwk together...Sometimes i'll even study with them...but it's usually unfocused

You can get good grades (depending on what you consider good)...You're most likely just too lazy...I used to think that i could never get an A on one math test and that i couldn't get an A- in apbio, which is a ***** haha but pretty interesting...One sunday afternoon, i was watching tv...and they i said to myself...what the **** am i doing...so i studied the rest of that day..and the upcoming test wasn't for another 4 days...bio test...bam A-/A....of course it wasn't so easy...or instant

I also had this one teacher my freshman year...straight from China....made kids cry/piss in their pants..even football players haha..and she's probably barely pusing 5 ft....anyways...she told us stories about kids in China..and we even had email buddies...I really learned that i wasn't pushing myself to study...Those kids study their arses off...Now, i'm not suggesting you stop having a social life...but i'm 99% sure you're not studying as much as you think you are...

To be honest, i have always had academics as my main priority, which has negatively affected mys ocial life..a bit but not much...but if you actually studied for a test from 3 days in advance...and added more time as the test day got closer...i'm sure your grades would improve...also do hwk...i usually don't sleep if i dont finish all my hwk...even if it means staying up all night...but most of my friends say they'll get their 8 hrs regardless of leftover hwk...

It's like girls...if you actually try, you'll succeed...academics should even be easier because they are unbiased...OF COURSE unless you've watched boyz n the hood...and furious was discussing the partiality of the SAT'S due to cultural differneces..

STUDY HARD...you'll do well..apply yourself
 

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High school is a joke. I doubt your taking any AP classes, right? What about extra curricular activities? Do you want to go to college?

How to get an A -

After school/practice/whenever you're ready to get to work

1) Review everything you went over in class for the day, if you don't take notes, start. Then compare it to what you did yesterday, and see what you're doing tomorrow. If you have 6 classes this should consume 30-45 minutes. But don't spend more than an hour, this is a warm up.

2) Spend 2-3 hours every week studying the section material, for each class.

3) Do your homework. Seriously.

4) Learn to MASTER time management.

Good grades, like any other worth while accomplishment require two things - Hard Work and Discipline. Nothing more.

I doubt you go to a hyper-competitive high school, so you need to stop being lazy. This is a FREE education you're getting, take advantage.

And don't think that being strong academically impacts you socially. Girls like getting good grades too, find study groups.

Just to tangent - if we do offer universal health care we need to adopt a policy that requires you have at least a high school diploma to be eligible. And if you don't graduate high school, you join the Military. Period.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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i used to get mediocre grades, then my dad promised me a decent car when i turn 16 IF i get straight a's for the semester, no exceptions. since a car would definitely improve my social life and life in general, thats kinda been my motivation, and its been working. i think i only had 1 B this semester, so i just gotta focus a bit there.

i think 90% of it is how much you want those grades. i really want a free car, so ive been monitoring my grades like they are my children haha. you just need some motivation to do it and not sit on your arse
 

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dude, im in the same exact situation as you lol, my grades are fvcked but hang in there try to just study, dont give a fvck bout tests try to actually learn the stuff first.
 
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ive worked reaslly hard since then and talked to and asked my teachers for helped and they helped alot one of my f's will be a c by the end of the semester :D
 

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captain underpants said:
ive worked reaslly hard since then and talked to and asked my teachers for helped and they helped alot one of my f's will be a c by the end of the semester :D
nice man...this past week and the friday earlier i've had tests/projects due..every single ****ing day..i got like 1 hour of sleep a night...but now it's spring break =D

work done=success earned
karma will balance it, whether you know it or not
 

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something that ive seen work like ive experienced it and in some wierd way i think this is just how the world works aiight. see a month ago i was failing physics i gave a test and i got 44% on it. my teacher came up to me and said if you keep going on like this you wont get the credit. so that day i went home. and my bro had made plans with some of our friends to go and play pool. for some reason i accepted and my next physics test was like in 2 days. anyways i sat in the car and all the way to this guys house i had the damn physics test and my grades and academic progress i was think bout all of that **** and it was pissin me off. fvck i knew i shouldve sat home and studied for the god damn test and yet i was on my way to a pool game. finally we got there. and at the last minute i couldnt take it anymore i hated everything and i had to get my mind straight so the moment i got out of that car, i told my bro that im takin a long walk back home, i juz dont give a fvck bout anythin right now, so i left he was kinda shocked atm, so i took a long walk home and after some thought i finally realised that i shouldnt be playin pool and that i should be studyin my ass off if i really want to go to university and i rlly do want to get into university, so i went straight to my desk once i got home, didnt even undress, opened the god damn book and studied for 4 hours straight, i rlly put in effort and hard work, because at that very moment i really wanted to do well, with all my heart bro, it was the best studying i had ever done, so the test comes up and i take it, the grades come in, my teacher impressed as **** with a smile, i managed to get an 84%.

and thats when i realized, when you really want something with all your heart and you work hard for it, put in as much effort as you can and do ur best, there is no friggin way you wont see good results, its just the matter of really wanting something and working for it, that walk home changed me and my life, now even though i got a long way to go, but im improvin, good sign bro... so im tellin u right now if you really want to get good grades than you will get them, its just the matter of really wanting it not saying "i really want good grades"

PCE brah
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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