"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bad First Impressions - Are they Salvageable?

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Schwank

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I started some interim work at a finance firm today, in the administrative department. The good news is that in this department there's about 30 others working there... and 25 of whom are mostly women. However, having first-day work jitters I royally ****ed up on the job: Firstly, I spilt Coke all over a hot female co-workers portfolio. It wasn't ruined, she just re-printed it, but I felt terrible. (She didn't sound angry about it though.) Secondly, I deleted files on my computer which were VITAL -- this annoyed my co-workers. And finally, to cap it off, I sent emails off to the wrong recipients. (But this, however, was NOT my fault; the supervisor gave me the incorrect mailing list. Nevertheless, everyone naturally assumed that I was to blame for this blunder as well.)

I ask the question in the title because you probably all heard the old saying "First impressions last." That would be unfortunate, as there are so many hotties working there but I believe I left a negative impression on them. Is there anyway to redeem this situation? I'm working there for only 5 weeks and I really want to get into some of these girls' pants. But I fear that I've ruined any such prospect.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah, they're salvageable, though only if you don't at any point in time from now on let on to anybody that you're embarassed/self-conscious etc. about that stuff; then, nobody else is gonna make a big deal out of it.

That being said, it IS difficult, and probably most people couldn't do it.

Talk about bad luck though, huh?
 
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If a hot girl came and ****ed up on her first day you would still want to **** her, right? Like killahpl said, you should just not worry about it, and move on. It's the military attitude: Worry about what you're doing, not how you're doing. Move on from your mistakes and just do the best job you can.

Abilities to work as a finance intern are not the deciding force between sexiness and not! You can make mistakes and still keep your dignity. Just forgive yourself and keep trying. The only way to lose your dignity is to feel as if you've lost it.
 
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