"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bad Experience?: Change Your Perspective

Bradshaw

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I’ve noticed that in life, the events that you think are the worst things to happen to you often change your life for the best. It is useful to look back at some of those ‘horrible’ events and be thankful that they happened to you. If they didn’t, you wouldn’t be who you are today.

Examples:
A guy gets bullied in school --> studies martial arts and becomes a master
A guy grows up poor --> starts a business a becomes millionaire
A guy gets called fatty --> joins a gym and gets the body of a greek god

I’m sure you can think of more. The key idea here is that: if they didn’t go through the undesirable stage of their life, then they never would have had the drive to get to where they are today. The interesting part is that this also applies to sosuave.

Think back to that one girl (you know the one) who sent you over the edge. If that stupid ^#&(&^% ***** of a $^%^* dumb )(!!@# hadn’t treated you so bad, then you would never of had the desire to start ‘study dating’ and find this site. If anything you should thank this girl!

If you are applying the concepts that are advocated on this site, then you should probably be getting girls who were superior to that one girl anyway. Remember, this wouldn’t have been possible if you hadn’t gone through that ‘horrible’ experience.

The next time I run into my girl-who-pushed-me-over-the-edge, I am going to give her a big hug and thank her for changing my life.

If anyone else wants to add to this thread some things in your life that you thought (at the time) were negative experiences, but actually helped you in the long-run, feel free to do so.

Looking back on your past with gratitude is much better than looking back with resentment.
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Flyer

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Yes Sir.

Self improvement is the best revenge.:up:
 

arutha

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I agree with the same kind of example. Got with a girl at the start of the year, it lasted less than a week. After reading this site I see how I screwed up in almost every possible way, and wil not repeat the same mistake with the next ones. I'll find completely new ways to f*ck up no doubt... lol.
 
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